confused guy
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hey everyone its me again. i have a rather basic question that some of you may be able to help me with. i've been thinking a lot more about my relationship with my good friend and i think this may the real problem i have.
this friend that i think i like, i enjoy spending time with her and talking to her one on one but i not sure if i really LIKE her. i think about her more these days and i want to spend more time with her. i've been friends with her for quite a while already, so i'm quite comfortable with her and enjoy her company everytime we go out. ok maybe i watch too many hollywood movies liao, but i feel like i'm not head over heels with her like i should be if i'm in love with her.
okay so this may sound really dumb
, but how do i know if i really like her? hmm... clearly i'm not so experienced at this ttz why i need u guys help. any telltale signs that tell me i like her a lot and should go after her? or is it that i will fall ever more in love with her AFTER i get into the relationship? one of the reasons i'm hesitating is coz i not very sure i'm in love with her, so i dun want to jump in the relationship and then break up coz i wasn't sure to start with. like that not really fair to her.
ok i prob sound confused, slightly dumb, and some of you are prob confused about what i'm saying too... hope someone can give some advice tho
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if u didn't talk to her or met her for days, will u keep thinking of her? will u miss her?Originally posted by reve82guy:hey everyone its me again. i have a rather basic question that some of you may be able to help me with. i've been thinking a lot more about my relationship with my good friend and i think this may the real problem i have.
this friend that i think i like, i enjoy spending time with her and talking to her one on one but i not sure if i really LIKE her. i think about her more these days and i want to spend more time with her. i've been friends with her for quite a while already, so i'm quite comfortable with her and enjoy her company everytime we go out. ok maybe i watch too many hollywood movies liao, but i feel like i'm not head over heels with her like i should be if i'm in love with her.
okay so this may sound really dumb , but how do i know if i really like her? hmm... clearly i'm not so experienced at this ttz why i need u guys help. any telltale signs that tell me i like her a lot and should go after her? or is it that i will fall ever more in love with her AFTER i get into the relationship? one of the reasons i'm hesitating is coz i not very sure i'm in love with her, so i dun want to jump in the relationship and then break up coz i wasn't sure to start with. like that not really fair to her.
ok i prob sound confused, slightly dumb, and some of you are prob confused about what i'm saying too... hope someone can give some advice tho
On the bed while wanting to sleep, will u think for her?
Every now and then, in your mind will her image suddenly pops out?
When going out in groups, will u gave her all the attention and concern more then others?
when she kena bullied, will u b angry?
when some guys trying to date her, will u b agony?
when she asked u for help or she even didn't ask, will u automatically help?
last of all..
Are u looking at her pictures secretly and constantly? u place her pics inside your phone, ipod or watever so that u can always look at her anytime?
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If you love her, the signs are
-miss her when you cant see her
-increase heart beat when 1 on 1 with her
-you blush easily with her
-you have the feeling of Love
-you can't live without her
-you feel like she is part of you
-when she cry, you also feel like crying and giving her a hug
-when she meet up with other boys, you'll feel sad or jealous
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to add on the list..Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:If you love her, the signs are
-miss her when you cant see her
-increase heart beat when 1 on 1 with her
-you blush easily with her
-you have the feeling of Love
-you can't live without her
-you feel like she is part of you
-when she cry, you also feel like crying and giving her a hug
-when she meet up with other boys, you'll feel sad or jealous
- too much to list down.....
1)u keep looking at her everytime shes ard
2)u cant stop thinking abt her
3)u laugh at all her jokes.
4)u feel sad the whole day if u found out shes attach -
Is this the friend you're talking about??
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=227781 -
most prolly..Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Is this the friend you're talking about??
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=227781
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If you do blush, im sure you want her to say " EH? Why are you blushing?? U look cute when you are blushing!!Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:If you love her, the signs are
-you blush easily with her
" Then she gives you a kind of look that's extremely satisfying for most boys! 
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Originally posted by reve82guy:hey everyone its me again. i have a rather basic question that some of you may be able to help me with. i've been thinking a lot more about my relationship with my good friend and i think this may the real problem i have.
this friend that i think i like, i enjoy spending time with her and talking to her one on one but i not sure if i really LIKE her. i think about her more these days and i want to spend more time with her. i've been friends with her for quite a while already, so i'm quite comfortable with her and enjoy her company everytime we go out. ok maybe i watch too many hollywood movies liao, but i feel like i'm not head over heels with her like i should be if i'm in love with her.
okay so this may sound really dumb , but how do i know if i really like her? hmm... clearly i'm not so experienced at this ttz why i need u guys help. any telltale signs that tell me i like her a lot and should go after her? or is it that i will fall ever more in love with her AFTER i get into the relationship? one of the reasons i'm hesitating is coz i not very sure i'm in love with her, so i dun want to jump in the relationship and then break up coz i wasn't sure to start with. like that not really fair to her.
ok i prob sound confused, slightly dumb, and some of you are prob confused about what i'm saying too... hope someone can give some advice tho 
This is what happen that there is too much 'air activity mechanism' - there's too much thinking involved in the process of love. It's like you are trying to figure out some kind of mental visual in which you try to justify love as love and to work it out based on a set of thoughts before you execute something. (Usually worst if you are a Libra, Aquarius, Gemini or Virgo)
You cannot think that you like - you know that you like and you have to feel it inside. Because chances are, if that didn't happen, it will return to haunt you in later stage... in whatever form it may appear to you mentally and emotionally.
Firstly, you got to understand how your current emotional state is like. Being lonely or certain craving for a girlfriend surely blur this 'liking' further.
From there, it's up to you to make a decision.
Nobody holds the final answer in love - our decision gives us an answer so that we can search for the next following question.
Cheers -
die..Originally posted by Yunhaier: This is what happen that there is too much 'air activity mechanism' - there's too much thinking involved in the process of love. It's like you are trying to figure out some kind of mental visual in which you try to justify love as love and to work it out based on a set of thoughts before you execute something. (Usually worst if you are a Libra, Aquarius, Gemini or Virgo)
You cannot think that you like - you know that you like and you have to feel it inside. Because chances are, if that didn't happen, it will return to haunt you in later stage... in whatever form it may appear to you mentally and emotionally.
Firstly, you got to understand how your current emotional state is like. Being lonely or certain craving for a girlfriend surely blur this 'liking' further.
From there, it's up to you to make a decision.
Nobody holds the final answer in love - our decision gives us an answer so that we can search for the next following question.
Cheers
im a Gemini. -
lau..my crush is libra..
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eh sameOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:die..
im a Gemini. -
I am leo .
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Don't believe in those silly horoscopes. If you do, then you're gonna stop short of wooing a lot of girls in time to come.
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hoseh la.Originally posted by FBI:eh same
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i dun wanna believe in it too..Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:Don't believe in those silly horoscopes. If you do, then you're gonna stop short of wooing a lot of girls in time to come.
but many times,things have concidentally happened according to my daily horoscope predictions and precautions.
and the characteristics my frens and i have matched almost perfectly to that of the respective horoscopes we belong to.
but most certainly..im not gonna let the likes of me destroy my lovelife. -
Ask urself these few questions, maybe it will help.
1)Do you feel jealous when she talks to other guys, even if those guys are your good buddies?
2)Do you find yourself wanting to capture her attention more than you want to capture other people's attention?
3)Do you find yourself turning to look at her more often than you do other girls?
4)Do you find yourself straining to listen to her more, and keep mental notes about her likes, dislikes etc?
5) Do you call her out more often to go out, and often has the intention of asking her out one-to-one, rather than in a group? -
Same as me.....Originally posted by hatemeifuwantto:lau..my crush is libra..
Eh hatemeifuwantto, whats ur horoscope arh? Im Scorpio! -
if i feel my heart beating fast or blossom when he looks at me.. i know that i have special feelings for him.
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Thank you everyone! I've had some time to think this through and talk to some of my friends. And I've realized that I somehow misled myself to think I was in love with her because I had been feeling kinda lonely lately, and we had been spending more time going out as friends.
But yeah, this isn't the love that I felt with other girls before (which is prob why I got confused too). And part of it is also because I guess I'm feeling a little desperate and lonely these days. Seems like everyone i know is getting married, engaged or attached heheh
Anyway, i know there really isn't a point in being desperate, but i guess its just a passing phase (with all that many weddings i've been to this year). I'll just wait around and be on the look out for that special someone
But anyway, thanks to everyone for being so eager to advise! Have a Happy New Year! Time to party the year away and usher in the new year!! -
Then that guy is very lucky liao. Got gal lyk him.... Never seen a girl talking or looking at the guy she fancies......Originally posted by browniebaobao:if i feel my heart beating fast or blossom when he looks at me.. i know that i have special feelings for him. Ur blossom means what? Happy? Or blushing? -
really or not, i got all of it so mean i now in loveOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:If you love her, the signs are
-miss her when you cant see her
-increase heart beat when 1 on 1 with her
-you blush easily with her
-you have the feeling of Love
-you can't live without her
-you feel like she is part of you
-when she cry, you also feel like crying and giving her a hug
-when she meet up with other boys, you'll feel sad or jealous
- too much to list down.....
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happy with a bit of shyness.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Then that guy is very lucky liao. Got gal lyk him.... Never seen a girl talking or looking at the guy she fancies...... Ur blossom means what? Happy? Or blushing?
he's lucky ma?
but he's not appreciative.