I feels like being controlled by my parents
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I am turning 23 soon and I have been working for a month since I ORDed. Although the pay of my current job is a bit low (1.4K per month) but so far I am satisfied with my current job and I intend to stay until at least I gain some experiences so in the short term I don't intend to leave.
By my parents seems to be unhappy with my current job of engineering assistant even through this job is relevant to what I studies in the poly and it is a 5 day week job.
My mother have a friend whose son (whom I also known him) was working in a factory in Tuas (I lives in Jurong btw) and that was a shift job but the pay is high and with OT the monthly pay will be even higher - more than $S2000 and when my parents know it they wants me to go for the interview (should there be a one) and quit my current job but when I told them my intentions to stay there until at least I gained some working experiences they are like very unhappy and scolded me. They just want me to quit my current job and go join my mother's friend son.
I don't mind working shift work actually but I don't think it will be beneficial to me if I leave my current job without gaining any working and technical experiences that's why I don't intend to leave now.
I am already an adult. Why can't just they let me decided my future and career on my own? -
jz tell them ur intentions n stick to it... u dun hv to go if u dun wan to.... they still tink u r a kid so u hv to let them know u hv ur plans...
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I told them my intention already and in the end kenna scolded by them and being accused by them of not wanting to do shift work. They just want me to go along their wishes.Originally posted by BrUtUs:jz tell them ur intentions n stick to it... u dun hv to go if u dun wan to.... they still tink u r a kid so u hv to let them know u hv ur plans...
I know that they are my parents but the thing is I am now an adult and I know what to do for my future but my parents doesn't seems to care about it. I can't possibly to be continue to be 'controlled' like that. -
they care for u
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But they are like forcing me to do something that I don't want.Originally posted by happyBABY:they care for u -
tell them shift job less useful in future n u know wat u r doing so ask them not to interfere unless critical...Originally posted by isolation:I told them my intention already and in the end kenna scolded by them and being accused by them of not wanting to do shift work. They just want me to go along their wishes.
I know that they are my parents but the thing is I am now an adult and I know what to do for my future but my parents doesn't seems to care about it. I can't possibly to be continue to be 'controlled' like that. -
But as soon as they heard that the pay is high they asked me to quit my current job and do the shift job.Originally posted by BrUtUs:tell them shift job less useful in future n u know wat u r doing so ask them not to interfere unless critical...
They just like to interfere with my life. I am very unhappy with them now as they just don't let me make my own decisions and want to control me and make me do things that they want.
I really don't like the feelings of being forced but my parents are doing so to me even through I am already 22. -
tats y u need to tell them the good n bad of shift job... good pay but less useful down the road...Originally posted by isolation:But as soon as they heard that the pay is high they asked me to quit my current job and do the shift job.
They just like to interfere with my life. I am very unhappy with them now as they just don't let me make my own decisions and want to control me and make me do things that they want.
I really don't like the feelings of being forced but my parents are doing so to me even through I am already 22. -
I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I think you made the right decision for staying with your current employer. Yes, the factory work may have a higher pay now (cos' with OT and shift works) but it doesn't give you any career advancement and it gives little pay increment with the requirement for you to work OT and shift works.Originally posted by isolation:I am turning 23 soon and I have been working for a month since I ORDed. Although the pay of my current job is a bit low (1.4K per month) but so far I am satisfied with my current job and I intend to stay until at least I gain some experiences so in the short term I don't intend to leave.
By my parents seems to be unhappy with my current job of engineering assistant even through this job is relevant to what I studies in the poly and it is a 5 day week job.
My mother have a friend whose son (whom I also known him) was working in a factory in Tuas (I lives in Jurong btw) and that was a shift job but the pay is high and with OT the monthly pay will be even higher - more than $S2000 and when my parents know it they wants me to go for the interview (should there be a one) and quit my current job but when I told them my intentions to stay there until at least I gained some working experiences they are like very unhappy and scolded me. They just want me to quit my current job and go join my mother's friend son.
I don't mind working shift work actually but I don't think it will be beneficial to me if I leave my current job without gaining any working and technical experiences that's why I don't intend to leave now.
I am already an adult. Why can't just they let me decided my future and career on my own?
Staying with your current employer where you are now, on the other hand, gives you an opportunity to advance your career. Though the pay is low now, one day you can easily earn more than the amount you can earn in the factory without having to work OT and shift works.
Perhaps, you need to talk to your parents about it and help them to see the long term rather than just the short term.
Good luck!
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But too sad that my parents only see the good pay of the job and the negreted the career advancement of the job. They don't know how the industry works yet they acted as if they knows many things.
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Follow what your heart want, only you yourself know what you really need and what you really you want. If you do not create your destiny, you will have your fate inflicted upon you.
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u got to tell ur parents tat high pay due to OT, doesnt reli counts.
its the skill n interest in the job.
tel her tat few yrs down the road, u will be earning like 5k or more.
i think tat will zip her up.
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Cheer up my friend. If you think you have made the right decision - stand firm, stay with it and be happy about it.Originally posted by isolation:But too sad that my parents only see the good pay of the job and the negreted the career advancement of the job. They don't know how the industry works yet they acted as if they knows many things.
I know you love your parents and want them to be happy, unfortunately you can't please them for the rest of your life and make yourself feel miserable. You are not being unreasonable with your decision and you can't just give in to your parents because they are your parents. If their advice is a wise one, by all means take it but in your case it is obviously not a wise advice.
I think this is a good opportunity for you to stand up to your own boundary and stop allowing your parents to control and manipulate you.
Cheer up!! -
tell ur parents, it's not how much u earn..
u have to consider the prospects also.
is there prospects working in a factory?
The high pay is bcos of the shift work and the long hours.
somemore Tuas is very inaccessible. -
Bo chup ur parents.
They see the pay $2000 then they think its a better job liao.
The problem now is not xiao bu xiao shun.
Its ur future. -
Yes my parents think that it is a good job since the pay is high enough even through they know that it is a shift work which requires a lot of OT.
Furthermore besides the career prospect issue, they don't even know whether the shift job is suitable for me in terms of my interests and whether it is relevant to what I studies in the school etc etc and they are some sort of forcing me to work there.
To them, as long as they see the pay is good, what career advancements etc seems to be nothing to them. They just want me to go along their wishes. I am old enough and I don't want my parents to ask me to do this, to do that etc. I got my own ideas and I just hope that my parents will stop interfering with my future. -
If they keep nagging, just move out and rent a place. Familarity breeds contempt. Maybe if you don't live under their roof any more, they will start to respect you as an adult that you are.
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hi isolation,
i suggest u to take up a part time degree course, since u are not require to work OT, it is good as :
1) u can give an answer to ur parents and at the same time they should be able to understand and not force u.
2) ur current employer will be happy to see their employee to upgrade themselves.
3) after u had completed this degree course u can make use of ur cert and experience to demand a higher salary and position too.
If possible check with ur company whether they can sponsor u on the course or not. -
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no matter how old u are, u are a child in their eyes..and they just want you to have a good future and not end up like them...
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nice sigOriginally posted by mir4cle:no matter how old u are, u are a child in their eyes..and they just want you to have a good future and not end up like them... -
Master logic and pwn them with immovable truths.
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Actually I got this plan and it is one of the reasons that I don't want to take shift work at least for now.Originally posted by Teh6:hi isolation,
i suggest u to take up a part time degree course, since u are not require to work OT, it is good as :
1) u can give an answer to ur parents and at the same time they should be able to understand and not force u.
2) ur current employer will be happy to see their employee to upgrade themselves.
3) after u had completed this degree course u can make use of ur cert and experience to demand a higher salary and position too.
If possible check with ur company whether they can sponsor u on the course or not.
I plans to take up a part time degree most likely at the end of this year or early next year when I have earned enough money for school fees.
As common sense, if one is doing a shift job, it is impossible to study part time. So if I was to take up a part time degree in say, this November and I quit my current job and join the shift work job, I can only work at most 10 months and I don't think 10 months is enough to gain enough working experience. If I stick with my current job or go into another 8-6 job, it shall have no problems for me furthering my studies in part time basis and earning working experiences. -
Tell that to your dad and mum.Originally posted by isolation:Yes my parents think that it is a good job since the pay is high enough even through they know that it is a shift work which requires a lot of OT.
Furthermore besides the career prospect issue, they don't even know whether the shift job is suitable for me in terms of my interests and whether it is relevant to what I studies in the school etc etc and they are some sort of forcing me to work there.
To them, as long as they see the pay is good, what career advancements etc seems to be nothing to them. They just want me to go along their wishes. I am old enough and I don't want my parents to ask me to do this, to do that etc. I got my own ideas and I just hope that my parents will stop interfering with my future.
It's your life and your career, that's all I wanna say for now. -
sama sama la. i am turning 23 soon. and my mom always think i'd be a better off repairing aircons than taking IT.
