What to do with this friend
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learned that one of the friend was a big liar. let's call this friend 'B' that was one year ago, act like nothing happen but couldn't get out of this recently. one year ago, this fren was chasing a girl, 'A'. as I close kinda 'close' to A and he found out, guess what he did. 'A' came to me and said this friend said I liked her from behind, and had tried to stop her and my friend together out of jealousy. I was shocked. None of it was true. I dunno why did he create a lie involving me.
Not only that, 'B' has big mouth also. Whatever I said to him that suppose to be the secret that I trust to him, I will heard back to with my own ear just within 1 day!. As got one time i told her i like 'C', ask him to keep it as a secret. 'C' then few days later gave a very cold shoulder to me, with the rumours flying around that I like 'C'. Judging from the incident about 'A', he might have added something. I don't think a girl will give a cold shoulder just because she knows that u like her?
There's one time I have jokingly tell him that I liked 'D'. must testing. true enough, just half day only I can hear another fren asking me back "U liked 'D' ha?"
This friend even had create a lie to me about a girl who likes to watch porn, just to create a bad image about her, where i first believe him, and later i found out it was just a lie. It seems that he likes to create a lie just to make a friend had a bad impression about a friend, some kind of his hobby. Kinda big mouth too.
Now, there's a few girl that he is close with will give a cold shoulder. I wonder if he is behind all this. there's are countless of event with I suspect.
While all this happen, he continued to be my very good friend like nothing happened. He said he had really keep the secret that I like 'C', where I had a friend, 'E', who already told me that 'C' was the one who told him, and 'C' told 'E' that I had told everyone that I like 'C' (just to make him feel freely to talk about it to everyone because 'i had told everyone myself, so it's not a secret).
Now, what should I do with this friend? Ignore him? Felt he is very dangerous, the more I am with him, the more not true rumours about me that was created by himself will reach another friend's ear, giving them a bad impression about me. His tactic was so advanced that I had believed what he said to me about others before, so it's most likely they will believe him. He's good at it.
If the majority think I should ignore him and break the friendship, i will follow. In fact, I feel like 'kenakan' him 'balik'. -
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u like d? d like u? what u? a or u? u or me? c? wad happens to a then? u like a? no? u? me? wad happens to f?
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A person like him is not a friend at all. He is making lies about you and others, just because he can. So that he can feel a sense of "acheievement" and domination. That he can do this to you.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:learned that one of the friend was a big liar. let's call this friend 'B' that was one year ago, act like nothing happen but couldn't get out of this recently. one year ago, this fren was chasing a girl, 'A'. as I close kinda 'close' to A and he found out, guess what he did. 'A' came to me and said this friend said I liked her from behind, and had tried to stop her and my friend together out of jealousy. I was shocked. None of it was true. I dunno why did he create a lie involving me.
Not only that, 'B' has big mouth also. Whatever I said to him that suppose to be the secret that I trust to him, I will heard back to with my own ear just within 1 day!. As got one time i told her i like 'C', ask him to keep it as a secret. 'C' then few days later gave a very cold shoulder to me, with the rumours flying around that I like 'C'. Judging from the incident about 'A', he might have added something. I don't think a girl will give a cold shoulder just because she knows that u like her?
There's one time I have jokingly tell him that I liked 'D'. must testing. true enough, just half day only I can hear another fren asking me back "U liked 'D' ha?"
This friend even had create a lie to me about a girl who likes to watch porn, just to create a bad image about her, where i first believe him, and later i found out it was just a lie. It seems that he likes to create a lie just to make a friend had a bad impression about a friend, some kind of his hobby. Kinda big mouth too.
Now, there's a few girl that he is close with will give a cold shoulder. I wonder if he is behind all this. there's are countless of event with I suspect.
While all this happen, he continued to be my very good friend like nothing happened. He said he had really keep the secret that I like 'C', where I had a friend, 'E', who already told me that 'C' was the one who told him, and 'C' told 'E' that I had told everyone that I like 'C' (just to make him feel freely to talk about it to everyone because 'i had told everyone myself, so it's not a secret).
Now, what should I do with this friend? Ignore him? Felt he is very dangerous, the more I am with him, the more not true rumours about me that was created by himself will reach another friend's ear, giving them a bad impression about me. His tactic was so advanced that I had believed what he said to me about others before, so it's most likely they will believe him. He's good at it.
If the majority think I should ignore him and break the friendship, i will follow. In fact, I feel like 'kenakan' him 'balik'.
Honestly, he's not worth your trust as a friend or even as a person.
I'm sure you can find better friends around. People like him are not worth your bother. Just stick to you own friends and not bother about him spreading lies. People who can be influenced by his lies are not people who really know you in the first place.
And when people come to know you for what you really are, then they'll know how much of a jerk your 'friend' is.
Just find yourself a new friend. -
oh okay. summary. what should i do with a friend that backstack you in any form. Backstack him back or leave him alone, never be his friend again.
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Go outside his house in the middle of the night and commit suicide there, by cutting your head off or something gruesome like that. Leave a note saying how he caused your suicide. Just imagine his face when he opens the door tomorrow morning.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:oh okay. summary. what should i do with a friend that backstack you in any form. Backstack him back or leave him alone, never be his friend again. -
Sorry for long post in the first place. makes u read a lot. Thanks for replying. He's not worth a person for me to bother? Is that what you mean? And what should I do? He act as a friend, sometimes he will call me to ask something sometime, or go ask me out for dinner (we are university coursemate in malaysia). Should I act back or what? How to get rid of him since he has stick with me for quite some time?Originally posted by SumOne:A person like him is not a friend at all. He is making lies about you and others, just because he can. So that he can feel a sense of "acheievement" and domination. That he can do this to you.
Honestly, he's not worth your trust as a friend or even as a person.
I'm sure you can find better friends around. People like him are not worth your bother. Just stick to you own friends and not bother about him spreading lies. People who can be influenced by his lies are not people who really know you in the first place.
And when people come to know you for what you really are, then they'll know how much of a jerk your 'friend' is.
Just find yourself a new friend. -
By backstabbing him you become like him, is that what you want? Rather than try to get back at him, let him do himself in. People and especially your friends will see him for the creep he is.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:oh okay. summary. what should i do with a friend that backstack you in any form. Backstack him back or leave him alone, never be his friend again.
Just leave him alone, but don't be too obvious about it. Just busy yourself with other people. He'll eventually find other people to be a burden to. -
Thank you. It's a good idea. Have you tried it?Originally posted by Eric Cartman:Go outside his house in the middle of the night and commit suicide there, by cutting your head off or something gruesome like that. Leave a note saying how he caused your suicide. Just imagine his face when he opens the door tomorrow morning. -
Urm...okay. It's a useful and wise advise. Thanks a lot!Originally posted by SumOne:By backstabbing him you become like him, is that what you want? Rather than try to get back at him, let him do himself in. People and especially your friends will see him for the creep he is.
Just leave him alone, but don't be too obvious about it. Just busy yourself with other people. He'll eventually find other people to be a burden to.
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I've thought of doing that to a friend before. Just imagine how he is gonna face his life later on.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Thank you. It's a good idea. Have you tried it? -
No prob, it gives me a clearer picture before I can make suggestions. Then I don't have to ask as much either. Basically, I'm saying don't bother, especially if that's his nature.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Sorry for long post in the first place. makes u read a lot. Thanks for replying. He's not worth a person for me to bother? Is that what you mean? And what should I do? He act as a friend, sometimes he will call me to ask something sometime, or go ask me out for dinner (we are university coursemate in malaysia). Should I act back or what? How to get rid of him since he has stick with me for quite some time?
And why do you still stick with him? If he's going to be your friend, then you gotta take his nature as well. If he call you to ask something, just reply lor, nothing wrong with helping another person. But that's my opinion.
But he ask you out for dinner, well, just say you're busy. Best yet, really be busy. Which is why I say, busy yourself with another friend or group of friends.
Give your time to people who are worth it. -
Oh okay. So I should help him as long as he needs it?Originally posted by SumOne:No prob, it gives me a clearer picture before I can make suggestions. Then I don't have to ask as much either. Basically, I'm saying don't bother, especially if that's his nature.
And why do you still stick with him? If he's going to be your friend, then you gotta take his nature as well. If he call you to ask something, just reply lor, nothing wrong with helping another person. But that's my opinion.
But he ask you out for dinner, well, just say you're busy. Best yet, really be busy. Which is why I say, busy yourself with another friend or group of friends.
Give your time to people who are worth it. -
Lol. Not worth your own life. hahaOriginally posted by Eric Cartman:I've thought of doing that to a friend before. Just imagine how he is gonna face his life later on.
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Why not? No reason not to. And no point getting into conflict with him. Just help him since it's a sincere request to help. And if it's not something that will get you or another person into trouble.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Oh okay. So I should help him as long as he needs it? -
Oh okay. Got it.
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Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Oh okay. Got it.
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Problem solved. Thanks to SumOne. but feel free to add more if you guys have anything.
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i love A ! A love B! we are happy class as mate. with a great big hug and a kiss from A to B. ..............
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you want to know what i do ? I Break off relations...
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Majority think so? What you think?Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:learned that one of the friend was a big liar. let's call this friend 'B' that was one year ago, act like nothing happen but couldn't get out of this recently. one year ago, this fren was chasing a girl, 'A'. as I close kinda 'close' to A and he found out, guess what he did. 'A' came to me and said this friend said I liked her from behind, and had tried to stop her and my friend together out of jealousy. I was shocked. None of it was true. I dunno why did he create a lie involving me.
Not only that, 'B' has big mouth also. Whatever I said to him that suppose to be the secret that I trust to him, I will heard back to with my own ear just within 1 day!. As got one time i told her i like 'C', ask him to keep it as a secret. 'C' then few days later gave a very cold shoulder to me, with the rumours flying around that I like 'C'. Judging from the incident about 'A', he might have added something. I don't think a girl will give a cold shoulder just because she knows that u like her?
There's one time I have jokingly tell him that I liked 'D'. must testing. true enough, just half day only I can hear another fren asking me back "U liked 'D' ha?"
This friend even had create a lie to me about a girl who likes to watch porn, just to create a bad image about her, where i first believe him, and later i found out it was just a lie. It seems that he likes to create a lie just to make a friend had a bad impression about a friend, some kind of his hobby. Kinda big mouth too.
Now, there's a few girl that he is close with will give a cold shoulder. I wonder if he is behind all this. there's are countless of event with I suspect.
While all this happen, he continued to be my very good friend like nothing happened. He said he had really keep the secret that I like 'C', where I had a friend, 'E', who already told me that 'C' was the one who told him, and 'C' told 'E' that I had told everyone that I like 'C' (just to make him feel freely to talk about it to everyone because 'i had told everyone myself, so it's not a secret).
Now, what should I do with this friend? Ignore him? Felt he is very dangerous, the more I am with him, the more not true rumours about me that was created by himself will reach another friend's ear, giving them a bad impression about me. His tactic was so advanced that I had believed what he said to me about others before, so it's most likely they will believe him. He's good at it.
If the majority think I should ignore him and break the friendship, i will follow. In fact, I feel like 'kenakan' him 'balik'.
Like you've said, your friend is dangerous and not trustworthy.. What would you wanna keep such a 'friend' for? -
too messy
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Just offering some suggestions, ultimately it's down to you making the right choice and decision. Hope you have peaceful days now.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Problem solved. Thanks to SumOne. but feel free to add more if you guys have anything. 
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wah, very jialat leh.