ever feel weird being too close to people of your own sex ?
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i have this friend from school. we have quite similar personalities and outlook on life. so we cliche quite well and hang out often.
then lately she has some personal problems and talks to me frequently about them. of cos being her friend, i try to be around, lend a shoulder and encourage her. the more we talk, the topics get on a deeper level. i think the friendship is getting from just good to close.. something which can probably last.
but i also feel weird feeling close and connected to someone of my own sex... and i'm very positive that she and i are both straight.
anyone feels the same way before ? any idea why i feel this way ? how can i handle it ? -
maintain this friendship, it's healthy and no harmOriginally posted by snoopii:i have this friend from school. we have quite similar personalities and outlook on life. so we cliche quite well and hang out often.
then lately she has some personal problems and talks to me frequently about them. of cos being her friend, i try to be around, lend a shoulder and encourage her. the more we talk, the topics get on a deeper level. i think the friendship is getting from just good to close.. something which can probably last.
but i also feel weird feeling close and connected to someone of my own sex... and i'm very positive that she and i are both straight.
anyone feels the same way before ? any idea why i feel this way ? how can i handle it ?
and u think 2 much
and prolly need a bf -
myb u're suffering frm Homophobia?? I suffered tt once but im slowly recovering.
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Good to be akaliao ma, i also have a guy friend and we are quite close, but we love girls
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what's homophobia ? is it "fear of humans", interpreting it literally ?Originally posted by felirox:myb u're suffering frm Homophobia?? I suffered tt once but im slowly recovering.
i tend to back away whenever people get close - emotionally and physically. come to think of it, u're right. i may have homophobia.... how do u overcome it ? -
nothing weird. People need to connect. Propably she feels you listen to her and she treats you as a close confidant.
unless she is suggesting something unnatural in her talks. -
sama samaOriginally posted by Mysteria:Good to be akaliao ma, i also have a guy friend and we are quite close, but we love girls -
Just dun think too much abt it. tt's wad i did.Originally posted by snoopii:what's homophobia ? is it "fear of humans", interpreting it literally ?
i tend to back away whenever people get close - emotionally and physically. come to think of it, u're right. i may have homophobia.... how do u overcome it ? -
This is really strange cos just this week a friend of mine spoke to me about a similar situation
I've always been close to my girl friends so I dont have issue with being close to my girl friends. They come from different walks of life, and I know them all separately (i am female btw)
We've giggled over paper panties at spas and zippers in fitting rooms, moaned about leeches in the forest and shat together in the darkness in the middle of the forest.
We've cried, laughed, hugged. I've felt so much love in my heart for these girl pals of mine, who have stood by me, listened to me, accepted me simply for who I am, took care of me cos I'm a scatter brained. We've cooked together, slept together.
I think my girl friends are like sisters to me, as I only have a brother. So when a friend of mine (she's straight btw) asked me if I felt 'weird' that she is close to me, I was confused! And she told me once a friend of hers just 'stopped' being friends cos worried people say this and that. And i felt its just such a pity! Friendship is so hard to come by... and I think while I have great guy friends, it is my fortune to have met these great girls in my life !!!! -
i think its perfectly fine. i think its because recently gay and lesbian relationships have become quite a popular topic for rumors.
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I believe a little bit of homosexuality exists in all of us.
We all feel the same thing;it's whether we act on it or not. -
why think so much...
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hmmm, shdnt u be glad tat u have a close n good fren of the same gender?
well, i have afew very close buddies. this feeling is great as u noe u have someone else to turn to in time of crisis. it is always good to have a close fren of the same gender, as u can relate stuff better to each other. i have always wanted to have more buddies than just my current 4. nothing wrong...
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i treat her like a sister too.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:This is really strange cos just this week a friend of mine spoke to me about a similar situation
I've always been close to my girl friends so I dont have issue with being close to my girl friends. They come from different walks of life, and I know them all separately (i am female btw)
We've giggled over paper panties at spas and zippers in fitting rooms, moaned about leeches in the forest and shat together in the darkness in the middle of the forest.
We've cried, laughed, hugged. I've felt so much love in my heart for these girl pals of mine, who have stood by me, listened to me, accepted me simply for who I am, took care of me cos I'm a scatter brained. We've cooked together, slept together.
I think my girl friends are like sisters to me, as I only have a brother. So when a friend of mine (she's straight btw) asked me if I felt 'weird' that she is close to me, I was confused! And she told me once a friend of hers just 'stopped' being friends cos worried people say this and that. And i felt its just such a pity! Friendship is so hard to come by... and I think while I have great guy friends, it is my fortune to have met these great girls in my life !!!!
you and cool-gal are right. i should treaure this friendship and get over the weird feeling. it's not everyday that we find friends with whom we cliche well.
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it is normal to feel this way
but it great to have such relationship ! this are true friend yes that right
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Yes tats true.Originally posted by missqi:I believe a little bit of homosexuality exists in all of us.
We all feel the same thing;it's whether we act on it or not.
The truth is.... very few of us are 100% straight or 100% gay for tat matter.
Lots of heterosexuals have fantasies about other ppl of their own sex, sometimes at the peak of orgasm, and this leaves them feeling very insecure. It's one of the most carefully kept secrets in the str8 society.
You're really only gay when you've concluded, without a doubt, that you enjoy ppl of the same sex more than the opposite..sexually tat is. Random fantasies or events and even sexual encounters don't make you gay.
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i decided im pomosexual.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Yes tats true.
The truth is.... very few of us are 100% straight or 100% gay for tat matter.
Lots of heterosexuals have fantasies about other ppl of their own sex, sometimes at the peak of orgasm, and this leaves them feeling very insecure. It's one of the most carefully kept secrets in the str8 society.
You're really only gay when you've concluded, without a doubt, that you enjoy ppl of the same sex more than the opposite..sexually tat is. Random fantasies or events and even sexual encounters don't make you gay. 
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dating girls n guys dont matter anymore...
am interested in ONE guy now..
and interested in the rest of the hot female population.
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just enjoy this frenship n hope tat its going to last.
this is wer she can be ur future jie-mei.