attached first or get to know each other better first??
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is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached???
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you prefer matchmaking?
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You like surprises or stability?Originally posted by nightlord24:is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached???
Have you read a quote in Sun Tzi Art of War: "Know thyself and know thy enemy is a 100% victory guaranteed"? -
But he is not a general.. all based on theory...Originally posted by Bontakun:You like surprises or stability?
Have you read a quote in Sun Tzi Art of War: "Know thyself and know thy enemy is a 100% victory guaranteed"?
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No fixed rule to such thing, every relationship is different. Just approach with enthusiasm and some common sense LOL
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Of course get attached first lor, that way, you can work it from the inside out.
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do not mislead....Originally posted by ditzy:Of course get attached first lor, that way, you can work it from the inside out. 
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please define inside.Originally posted by ditzy:Of course get attached first lor, that way, you can work it from the inside out. 
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i think the answer in this case is OBVIOUS!!!
of course u gotta get to know each other better first....
if not doesn't it mean that the only reason you got together with her is due to looks? -
You do know the theory can be used in every situation if you know the meaning in it, right...?Originally posted by mhcampboy:But he is not a general.. all based on theory... -
l tink get to noe a person 1st...hav that frenship bond with her liao..then maybe u will like to proceed to the nxt lvl..
Rather than get attached with her le..then both of u find out that u two hav different tinkings and views and different ways of doing things
It is like learning maths...u must hav the basic foundations 1st mah..before u can tk another step to challenge other more difficult questions..
To score well in maths..u must hav a strong foundation and then it shldnt be much of a problem to do well le..
This theory can be applied in this area...To noe her the gal well liao...build up that bond with her...and see lo...whether she wants to go with u to the nxt lvl not..=) -
Eat first pay later. The most can refund wad
Anyway even after attached you're still finding out more about each other - it doesn't stop . -
sometimes that might not work...Originally posted by smudgey:i think the answer in this case is OBVIOUS!!!
of course u gotta get to know each other better first....
if not doesn't it mean that the only reason you got together with her is due to looks?
after u got together u realise the bf/gf is a total cow...
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well if u really dun wan to hurt urself in a r/s in the end...and want a stable and nice gf...l tink is better to noe her better 1st before making any move...Originally posted by choco B:Eat first pay later. The most can refund wad
Anyway even after attached you're still finding out more about each other - it doesn't stop .
Of coz..if u are those that are juz lusting for the gal..juz wan to get a chance to bed them, by all means..attached 1st lor..dun really need to go understand and noe them better as ur motive is very clear liao -
a responsible choice would be to get to know the other party first. that way you would also enjoy the chase.
but like other posters have sad, if you are only interested in the carnal, then it does not make a difference. some guys actually pretend to get to know the gals to make them more comfortable with them. -
that's why i say get to know each other better first ma!Originally posted by shinta:sometimes that might not work...
after u got together u realise the bf/gf is a total cow... -
Depends on what grounds you're having the relationship and how strong is the chemistry?Originally posted by nightlord24:is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached??? -
Originally posted by xShevchenkox:
Actually I think choco B have got quite her own valid points too....?
well if u really dun wan to hurt urself in a r/s in the end...and want a stable and nice gf...l tink is better to noe her better 1st before making any move...
Of coz..if u are those that are juz lusting for the gal..juz wan to get a chance to bed them, by all means..attached 1st lor..dun really need to go understand and noe them better as ur motive is very [b]clear liao [/b]
Trying to know her better...
How well is knowing her 'well enough'...? What if while trying to 'know her better' then she got attached along the way...? -
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Originally posted by nightlord24:is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached???
Knowing someone is an entire life-worth of work?
It doesn't mean that if you spend a good deal of time trying to know this lady, after being in a relationship with her, you will automatically understand her?
Of course if you can, you try to understand as much. And if you are successful in your approach (when you are in a relationship with her), you continue this effort on your part of trying to know her better?
It's never a penalty to know more about somebody?
Cheers -
no need to attach and marry lah, cohabit can liaos...
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How do you know you like her if you don't know enough to know whether or not you like her?Originally posted by nightlord24:is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached???
How do you know when you like someone? Based on what? Just looks, or what other criterias?
If it's not just looks alone, then you need to know her to a certain degree before you even consider whether or not to enter into a relationship, am I right? -
know each other better ba..
sometimes fall in love too fast will really make you fall lor.
y the hurry to get attached anyway? -
Originally posted by nightlord24:is it better to get attached with the person you liked first then slowly get to know each other or to be friends(for sometime) and get to know each other better first then get attached???
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define attached
if you both love each other a lot.. you will date so much and enjoy each other's company so much that other activities with other people seem less interesting.
this can be classified as 'get to know each other' right?
or is there still the classic
Boy:"can you be my girlfriend?"
Girl:*nod head*
Both:*both hug*
*happy ending!* (of singlehood and going into 'attached' phase!)
then again it depends on age and situation.