Need some advice
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Now i am in NS.I also like to think people talk bad about me and try to push all the work to me by taking MCs and leaves.Am i having a wrong way of thinking.I dont know what happen to me sia.Last time in yr1 and yr 2 of poly.I was quite a friendly guy and nv think so much about people who schemes and try to do pattern and even accepted people who jokingly critise me.But suddenly in year3 things like start to change for me.I started to mind what people think of me,whether they are scheming against me and whether they are talking about me behind my back.I started to distance myself from my close friends in poly whom i knew since the start of year 1 and chose to be in a different class from them.I like began to change 360 degrees.
I dont understand what has happen to me.Isit due to some negative major events that has changed my perception and thinking.Is there any way to change myself back to how i was last time?Is this a mental illness? -
Maybe its something that you have been through for you. You will have to ask youself when did this happened exactly? You know it started in year 3 of your poly right? Was there some incident that made you that way during that time?
Even as of now in NS you are rather suspicious of the people around you, you should try to open up abit and talk to some of them. Know more about them and learn of their behaviour. If they are unfriendly, know other people. If you think all of them cannot be trusted, I suggest you go for counselling to help you further identify what is wrong.
You should NOT give up on yourself or the people around. What you need is someone to listen to you and you being comfortable telling that person everything deep in your heart. -
I don't think it's really what you would call a mental illness at this point? But it would be good if you can revise your mentality and perception of things..Originally posted by Sakuragi86:Now i am in NS.I also like to think people talk bad about me and try to push all the work to me by taking MCs and leaves.Am i having a wrong way of thinking.I dont know what happen to me sia.Last time in yr1 and yr 2 of poly.I was quite a friendly guy and nv think so much about people who schemes and try to do pattern and even accepted people who jokingly critise me.But suddenly in year3 things like start to change for me.I started to mind what people think of me,whether they are scheming against me and whether they are talking about me behind my back.I started to distance myself from my close friends in poly whom i knew since the start of year 1 and chose to be in a different class from them.I like began to change 360 degrees.
I dont understand what has happen to me.Isit due to some negative major events that has changed my perception and thinking.Is there any way to change myself back to how i was last time?Is this a mental illness?
Friends or no friends, nobody's a 100% perfect being. Some people can be scheming in certain ways while others sarcastic...? So long as they are not too extreme, perhaps you can learn to take things more like a pinch of salt?
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How to revise mentality and perception of things?But i wonder how come i become so sensitive to these sort of things now.Last time i was able to take things easy and make friends well.Originally posted by Devil1976:I don't think it's really what you would call a mental illness at this point? But it would be good if you can revise your mentality and perception of things..
Friends or no friends, nobody's a 100% perfect being. Some people can be scheming in certain ways while others sarcastic...? So long as they are not too extreme, perhaps you can learn to take things more like a pinch of salt? -
Go shave ur head and become a pastor la....think so much
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This is call thinking too much?Then can change or niot?Originally posted by Advante_101:Go shave ur head and become a pastor la....think so much -
Try to take things more likely... The next time you think soemone's really scheming or irritating... And is really bothered by or brooding over it... ASK YOURSELF WHY do you FEEL that way...? Is there an alternate way to relook and think of the situation..? Any way to take things lighter...? That is how you should revise your mentality and perception of things...Originally posted by Sakuragi86:How to revise mentality and perception of things?But i wonder how come i become so sensitive to these sort of things now.Last time i was able to take things easy and make friends well. -
NO la ...what im trying to say is relax alittle la..Dun stress urself so much..There more to life then fu-cked pple..Dun stress ah will go crazy oneOriginally posted by Sakuragi86:This is call thinking too much?Then can change or niot? -
But can u explain what has happen to me?Isit the new environment that has changed me?But my friends never complain much about me changing.Its just me feeling the change.Is this just part of growing up?
But i just like to keep thinking lei,how to relax? -
everytime you think like this.... just take a step back and tell yourself not to think so much....Originally posted by Sakuragi86:But can u explain what has happen to me?Isit the new environment that has changed me?But my friends never complain much about me changing.Its just me feeling the change.Is this just part of growing up?
But i just like to keep thinking lei,how to relax?
as of why? this i think only you yourself can find out... -
Is it important to find out why and how do i go about finding out why.Originally posted by smudgey:everytime you think like this.... just take a step back and tell yourself not to think so much....
as of why? this i think only you yourself can find out... -
Listen...If such a trivial thing can deeply fu-cked up ur mind..Go see a head doctor
If not..Screw the world and the rest of them.. -
it is important to know why.... but don't force yourself....Originally posted by Sakuragi86:Is it important to find out why and how do i go about finding out why.
when u start to get over sensitive..... try to think of thing that are worst of then the things that you are going through... it may help putting things back in perspective -
i think you gotta figure out WHY suddenly in year 3 of yr poly you experienced a change. there must be a trigger event.Originally posted by Sakuragi86:Now i am in NS.I also like to think people talk bad about me and try to push all the work to me by taking MCs and leaves.Am i having a wrong way of thinking.I dont know what happen to me sia.Last time in yr1 and yr 2 of poly.I was quite a friendly guy and nv think so much about people who schemes and try to do pattern and even accepted people who jokingly critise me.But suddenly in year3 things like start to change for me.I started to mind what people think of me,whether they are scheming against me and whether they are talking about me behind my back.I started to distance myself from my close friends in poly whom i knew since the start of year 1 and chose to be in a different class from them.I like began to change 360 degrees.
I dont understand what has happen to me.Isit due to some negative major events that has changed my perception and thinking.Is there any way to change myself back to how i was last time?Is this a mental illness?
you think that people talk bad about you and try to push job to you in NS. is this a fact or your perception ? if its a fact, then i think it's normal to feel sianz to be caught in such a situation. so i don't think you need to blame yourself for feeling this way, except not to take it so hard otherwise life will be tougher because you can't quit NS.
if its your perception and not a fact that people talk bad about you and push job to you, then you just need to be aware that it's your perception that's creating the perceived problem. so change that perception by working on your thinking and how you see/feel about things. to be able to do that, you have to do some soul-searching starting from what is the trigger event in year 3 of yr poly. -
Quite a few things happened during my poly year 3.I dont really know which thing changed me.Any suggestions on how to find out?
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Acutally i am pes e with anxiety problems last time.I am still seeing a doc now.I was wondering if my NS collegues would look down or despise me just because i am a pes e guy and think that i chao keng.Maybe that is the reason they dont like to talk to me or call me for lunch?Am i thinking too much or is this the reality?
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Might be because you're not relaxed enough and they can sense it...?Originally posted by Sakuragi86:Acutally i am pes e with anxiety problems last time.I am still seeing a doc now.I was wondering if my NS collegues would look down or despise me just because i am a pes e guy and think that i chao keng.Maybe that is the reason they dont like to talk to me or call me for lunch?Am i thinking too much or is this the reality? -
Yes, it can be seen as a part of growing up. It could very well be the environment which is 'changing' you or could just be a natural process of self and relative environmental awareness..Originally posted by Sakuragi86:But can u explain what has happen to me?Isit the new environment that has changed me?But my friends never complain much about me changing.Its just me feeling the change.Is this just part of growing up?
But i just like to keep thinking lei,how to relax?
Your friends might not even be aware of these 'changes' going on in you because many of these are just mental states going on within yourself...
It should be relatively for you to think about such certain things sometimes.. But try not to take them too hard or too personally, as you're still quite in a self-explorating stage.. Many things which you interpret at this point might not even be correct.. So take a lighter stand on things or you might just go crazy for no good reason yeah? -
So when will i get out of the self exploraity stage?As i grow older and more mature?
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When you start to understand and / or accept things.... Self-exploring state doesn't have to come only in a single point of life.. Often it can come in a few phases...Originally posted by Sakuragi86:So when will i get out of the self exploraity stage?As i grow older and more mature? -
But can there also be a possiblitiy that I may nv understand or accept certain things in my whole lifetime?
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Possible... There come times when we can never understand certain things... Depending on your own set of mentality, you might either come to accept that some things are just like that or you can remain seriously troubled over them... And depending on how important you would view those things to be, the outcomes may have various effects on you...Originally posted by Sakuragi86:But can there also be a possiblitiy that I may nv understand or accept certain things in my whole lifetime?