i've got a friend..
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who is always want to come over to my house to chill and all. everything went as per normal until one day.. he came over to my house during the night. saying that he was hungry and wanted to eat macdonalds. i told him i will be playing dota and asked him to drink water till he's bloated and go off to sleep after tt. so after playing dota which was at about 1+am, he complained to me he was hungry and didn't want to drink water and insisted on going to macdonalds for supper.
reluctant but i still accompanied him. when we reached there, he asked if he could borrow $10 from me. of course as a friend i lend him the money. but instead of using the $10 to pay and returning me the change, he took out the exact amount for the meal and he kept my $10 in his wallet. how ridiculous can this get? am i actually giving him money for his expenses the next day? i don't feel anything wrong with lending money to friends so as long as you have the means to pay me back. just being realistic.
after that incident, he kept wanting to come over to my house and go out with me after which i kept his calls unanswered. because i knew what would he ask me. i mean not trying to condemn him of being poor but if you can't live up with this kinda lifestyle through your own means why still force it? and he keeps calling me EVERYDAY and i'm really feeling fustrated and pissed. any advice as to what to do?
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is there anything wrong?
he's merely returning u the money for the meal and borrow $10 from u right? -
i think he's saying, the friend kept the 10 bucks and from his own wallet took exact amount to buy food....meaning the friend had the money to buy his own food to begin with.....Originally posted by browniebaobao:is there anything wrong?
he's merely returning u the money for the meal and borrow $10 from u right? -
i think brownie meant the guy's calling to threadstarter to return to him the $10 borrowed...Originally posted by countdracula:i think he's saying, the friend kept the 10 bucks and from his own wallet took exact amount to buy food....meaning the friend had the money to buy his own food to begin with..... -
yep i think so tooOriginally posted by countdracula:i think he's saying, the friend kept the 10 bucks and from his own wallet took exact amount to buy food....meaning the friend had the money to buy his own food to begin with..... -
with regards to returning the money, i didn't ask him back for it. i know my bad. but there was an occasion a few days after tt incident i went to school with him he asked if i could lend him $60 to pay off his hp bills. i asked him how did he jack his hp bills up so high when he's been using MY phone to do all the calling out whenever he's with me. and apparently whenever he uses my phone to call out not many of his friends will answer his phone as well. most of them reject his invitation to go out as well. but before he asked me for $$ to pay off his hp bills, he attempted to borrow $50 from a friend of mine. so what's with the extra $10 in the bill? so i just told him i lent a friend $250 and he hasn't return me yet (which is true) and have no money to lend you.
what i'm trying to get across is also.. just imagine you are here being a nice person lending your friend money who has no money to eat even though you insisted to stay home and drink water and get to sleep. but instead he takes out money from his wallet to pay for his meal and keeps your money. -
Originally posted by Chris1988:
has he returned u the $10? or any intention to return?
who is always want to come over to my house to chill and all. everything went as per normal until one day.. he came over to my house during the night. saying that he was hungry and wanted to eat macdonalds. i told him i will be playing dota and asked him to drink water till he's bloated and go off to sleep after tt. so after playing dota which was at about 1+am, he complained to me he was hungry and didn't want to drink water and insisted on going to macdonalds for supper.
reluctant but i still accompanied him. when we reached there, he asked if he could borrow $10 from me. of course as a friend i lend him the money. but instead of using the $10 to pay and returning me the change, he took out the exact amount for the meal and he kept my $10 in his wallet. how ridiculous can this get? am i actually giving him money for his expenses the next day? i don't feel anything wrong with lending money to friends so as long as you have the means to pay me back. just being realistic.
after that incident, he kept wanting to come over to my house and go out with me after which i kept his calls unanswered. because i knew what would he ask me. i mean not trying to condemn him of being poor but if you can't live up with this kinda lifestyle through your own means why still force it? and he keeps calling me [b]EVERYDAY and i'm really feeling fustrated and pissed. any advice as to what to do?
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bumped to him a couple of times in school. nope. no money returned. and he just gave me 18 missed calls.Originally posted by blu_sky:has he returned u the $10? or any intention to return? -
when you dun expect money lent to be returned, and still keep lending, be prepared to be taken for granted.Originally posted by Chris1988:with regards to returning the money, i didn't ask him back for it. i know my bad. but there was an occasion a few days after tt incident i went to school with him he asked if i could lend him $60 to pay off his hp bills. i asked him how did he jack his hp bills up so high when he's been using MY phone to do all the calling out whenever he's with me. and apparently whenever he uses my phone to call out not many of his friends will answer his phone as well. most of them reject his invitation to go out as well. but before he asked me for $$ to pay off his hp bills, he attempted to borrow $50 from a friend of mine. so what's with the extra $10 in the bill? so i just told him i lent a friend $250 and he hasn't return me yet (which is true) and have no money to lend you.
what i'm trying to get across is also.. just imagine you are here being a nice person lending your friend money who has no money to eat even though you insisted to stay home and drink water and get to sleep. but instead he takes out money from his wallet to pay for his meal and keeps your money. -
next time when he calls to say he wanna go over your place, seize that opportunity to go after the money from him!Originally posted by Chris1988:bumped to him a couple of times in school. nope. no money returned. and he just gave me 18 missed calls.
if he doesnt wanna return you the money, he will stop calling you. that way, you can get rid of him too! -
hmmm.....
why not give him the benifit of a doubt?
you said he's a childhood friend?
just be norm for now... meet up and stuff...
if he ask to lend money from you again,... gently ask if he is in some sort of financial problems....
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alright so if he has the ability to return the $10. how about in the future? i've introduced him to come to my workplace to work before but he refused. don't really have any idea what his reason was. what if he borrows more the next time round? i don't really know how much he receives a week but he lives a lifestyle of eating fastfood at least 5 times a week and plays basketball during his free time. totally no source of income.imagine if a regular poly guy receives $50 per week. say $25 spent on fastfood the least. so the other $25 where is it going to? and i swear he spends alot on just food alone.
i've thought of it before. using the $10 as a form of insurance from him borrowing more from me. thanks blu_sky
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nope. not a childhood friend. he's someone i met at work 2years+ back. i think he should be financially stable if he knows how to spend his money.Originally posted by smudgey:hmmm.....
why not give him the benifit of a doubt?
you said he's a childhood friend?
just be norm for now... meet up and stuff...
if he ask to lend money from you again,... gently ask if he is in some sort of financial problems....
keep us updated ok?
23 missed calls now. reason being because i maybe going out with my classmates but some of them were still sleeping and all so put the outting on hold. and he scolded me saying how come never jio him go out with them. i meant this is getting nowhere. i go out with my classmates, i've got to call him along? just because he knows my classmates but ain't close with them? so i said I will call him again when i'm going. than i went to play dota and he called me again saying he wants to come over to my house because he was bored. and i said i wanted to be home alone and i want to use the comp and all. he said nvm and still insisted on coming despite not being able to do anything but watch me play. this is really the desperate state of boredom-ness. -
welcomeOriginally posted by Chris1988:i've thought of it before. using the $10 as a form of insurance from him borrowing more from me. thanks blu_sky -
it's how u look at it..
when i first read ur post, wat came to my mind is that..
he dun want u to pay for his meal, so he returned u the money..
but he needs the $10 to take a cab home or for the next day, so he borrowed.
he could have not returned u the money for the meal if he's chao kuan.
but after reading ur subsequent posts, it seems that he has been borrowing from people.
do u know how much allowance he gets a month?
and where does his money go to? -
tell u wad
i also encounter b4 this guy hor, keep pestering me, and everyday msn me, and sms me all irrelevant things
like what he ate for lunch
where i go
who i go out with
What am i doing now
bla bla bla etc
i mean, Who the F.u.c.k cares rite
so i jus do the simple thing
Do nt pick up his calls
Block him in Msn
Do nt reply ani sms unless really impt
nv gave him ur hse number
and sit far far from him in sch, make no attempts to talk -
Dont make others' problem your problem. Advise if your advice is sought after.Originally posted by browniebaobao:it's how u look at it..
when i first read ur post, wat came to my mind is that..
he dun want u to pay for his meal, so he returned u the money..
but he needs the $10 to take a cab home or for the next day, so he borrowed.
he could have not returned u the money for the meal if he's chao kuan.
but after reading ur subsequent posts, it seems that he has been borrowing from people.
[color=blue]do u know how much allowance he gets a month?
and where does his money go to? [/color]
Cheers
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BBB: he doesn't need money for cab since he was staying at my house for the night and going to school with me the next day with regards to his allowance and all i ain't gonna find out much since i've asked before but no reply.
perhaps i would be heeding pierre^^'s advise. just wondering if there were to be people with the same situation as me. and was also wondering how would you guys act along with it. oh ya btw its 32 missed calls. -
tell him to go and die next time he calls.
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avoid this kind of ppl at all cost ... they are bloody sucker who take your kindness as weakness, take everyone 4 granted as it everyone owe him...4get whatever $$$ u have lend him...4 he will ask 4 more when u ask him to return...dun ever help or lend him even a cent anymore or he will come back 4 more...spread the news to everyone both of u know that he O$dun pay...ask other to avoid lending him anything...do some good thing by telling other about him so that other ppls will know that...
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i can't exactly term him as O$ dun pay since i myself didn't ask from him. money issues always spoil friendship =\Originally posted by summer_fire:avoid this kind of ppl at all cost ... they are bloody sucker who take your kindness as weakness, take everyone 4 granted as it everyone owe him...4get whatever $$$ u have lend him...4 he will ask 4 more when u ask him to return...dun ever help or lend him even a cent anymore or he will come back 4 more...spread the news to everyone both of u know that he O$dun pay...ask other to avoid lending him anything...do some good thing by telling other about him so that other ppls will know that... -
i think hes gay..
which guy in the right mind will leave so many miss calls
unless its jus for the sake of irritating u
and insisting to go over to ur hse?
2 guys alone in a house...
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wat talking you?Originally posted by blu_sky:Dont make others' problem your problem. Advise if your advice is sought after.
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ic.Originally posted by Chris1988:BBB: he doesn't need money for cab since he was staying at my house for the night and going to school with me the next day with regards to his allowance and all i ain't gonna find out much since i've asked before but no reply.
perhaps i would be heeding pierre^^'s advise. just wondering if there were to be people with the same situation as me. and was also wondering how would you guys act along with it. oh ya btw its 32 missed calls.
im lucky ba.. or maybe coz my frens also can tell that i dun come from a well-to-do family, and i dun like to talk abt money.. i dun go borrowing, neither do i go lending. so i only recall one ex colleague borrowed $50 from me and she returned lor.
but i do have a fren who everytime go out ask me pay first but end up she also diam diam, never pay me back. i dun geh gao with her lor. still frens, but if can avoid meeting then avoid lor. u know a person is like that, then u should know how not to let yourself be taken advantage of. -
hmmmm well that's what i've already decidede to do. just try to avoid as much as i canOriginally posted by browniebaobao:ic.
im lucky ba.. or maybe coz my frens also can tell that i dun come from a well-to-do family, and i dun like to talk abt money.. i dun go borrowing, neither do i go lending. so i only recall one ex colleague borrowed $50 from me and she returned lor.
but i do have a fren who everytime go out ask me pay first but end up she also diam diam, never pay me back. i dun geh gao with her lor. still frens, but if can avoid meeting then avoid lor. u know a person is like that, then u should know how not to let yourself be taken advantage of.
and it so happens that he's going to be in the same specialization as me next semester. just hope we don't study together or have our attachments together. more excuses to avoid him
sometimes its not that we can't reject them is that we can't BEAR to reject them.