I feel so lost....
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I have being with my gf for abt 8mths plus.This is my first r/s.Suddenly,i feel so lost.I'm asking myself is she really the one for me.I'm getting more and more tired loving her.Sometime,i'm asking myself whether i'm expecting too much from her or myself.Am i doing the rite thing??My fren say i'm too naive in terms of i'm expecting the r/s to be plain sailing.I agree that maybe it's true but i guess the task of maintaining a r/s is much tougher than wat i thot.I really dun wish to give up this r/s becos we went thru one big round before we get together.Is this fate???Shld i adopt an easier approach like "as long both of us r happy,that's enough"???
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Maintaining a relationship is never easy. It is an learning experience. You have taken the first step to helping the relationship by reflecting upon it. There is no quick solution, as each relationship is unique.
Feeling lost is definitely an uncomfortable feeling but it is also an indication that something do not work, not right. Knowing what causes the feeling may help you derive an solution to your problem. It takes 2 to start a relationship, it also takes 2 to solve their problems together.
Where expectations are concerned, sometimes we get frustrated and confused because what happens in real life are so drastically different from our ideals, what we thought it to be. It may be a good idea to share with each other what are each of your expectations.
Do not stay on the relationship for the sake of staying. Stay in the relationship because both parties would want to move the relationship forward.... pace it at a speed both are comfortable. -
u never know what lies ahead... jus cherish her.. and do yr job as a bf.. at least u know u live no regrets
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Love is a gamble.Theres no certain win or lose.
But love is a game which u lose if u refuse to play
Always remember that -
What is the job scope of a BF?
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Whenever you feel that something's not right for you about this relationship, you should always remind yourself that this is about LOVE... Not about the maintainence a relationship, not about taking... And not even only about giving....Originally posted by loti:I have being with my gf for abt 8mths plus.This is my first r/s.Suddenly,i feel so lost.I'm asking myself is she really the one for me.I'm getting more and more tired loving her.Sometime,i'm asking myself whether i'm expecting too much from her or myself.Am i doing the rite thing??My fren say i'm too naive in terms of i'm expecting the r/s to be plain sailing.I agree that maybe it's true but i guess the task of maintaining a r/s is much tougher than wat i thot.I really dun wish to give up this r/s becos we went thru one big round before we get together.Is this fate???Shld i adopt an easier approach like "as long both of us r happy,that's enough"???
Sorry, gotta go.... -
hmm, i feel that the MOST important thing is that the guy must be able to give the ger security. security in protecting her from any harm, and also to let her know that he will always be there for her, will not just walk out of her life.Originally posted by CloneMe72:What is the job scope of a BF? -
LOVE is a lovely plant which grows by itself... The LOVE that it produces NURTURE and SUBSTAIN itself.... Just LOVE her, don't worry about whether you're giving enough to her... That just COMES NATURALLY, when you're TRULY IN LOVE with her.... And when you LOVE her that much... Her LOVE for you should just comes in proportional too, THOUGH not 'DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL'.... That's when LOVE would grow on its own and exist for the sake of its existence.... If that's not the case, worry not too...? It just means that the time is not ripe or it's not meant to be.... Why worry and see so far into the future, when in fact, there may not even be a future...?Originally posted by loti:I have being with my gf for abt 8mths plus.This is my first r/s.Suddenly,i feel so lost.I'm asking myself is she really the one for me.I'm getting more and more tired loving her.Sometime,i'm asking myself whether i'm expecting too much from her or myself.Am i doing the rite thing??My fren say i'm too naive in terms of i'm expecting the r/s to be plain sailing.I agree that maybe it's true but i guess the task of maintaining a r/s is much tougher than wat i thot.I really dun wish to give up this r/s becos we went thru one big round before we get together.Is this fate???Shld i adopt an easier approach like "as long both of us r happy,that's enough"???
With that, I wish you LUCK...? -
Hmmm...
you can ask yrself a few question.
1. where do you see the relation heading
2. wat do u want from it
3. you are in this relation becos you juz wan someone there as yr other half or do you really have the love for her.
after you found yr answers, ask her the questions. discuss yr answers and remember, do not preempt her answers and then try to put things in a nice way. be honest with each other.
relationship are strange happenings. no two are alike and there is no model answer or model role in which you should follow. juz let yr heart guide you. stop to ponder when you feel unsure, but always create an open line of communcation wif her. tell her how you feel and solve things as a couple.
good luck
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maybe u dont hve 2 worry abt whether she is e ONE... take every r/s as a lesson.. where u learn abt trust n understandin.. where u learn how 2 give in.. where u learn 2b a beta person...Originally posted by loti:I have being with my gf for abt 8mths plus.This is my first r/s.Suddenly,i feel so lost.I'm asking myself is she really the one for me.I'm getting more and more tired loving her.Sometime,i'm asking myself whether i'm expecting too much from her or myself.Am i doing the rite thing??My fren say i'm too naive in terms of i'm expecting the r/s to be plain sailing.I agree that maybe it's true but i guess the task of maintaining a r/s is much tougher than wat i thot.I really dun wish to give up this r/s becos we went thru one big round before we get together.Is this fate???Shld i adopt an easier approach like "as long both of us r happy,that's enough"???
we nvr noe wad wil hapen in e future.. whether she wil end up 2b e ONE who wil b w u 4eva... nobody noes... we can juz try.. n make e best out of it...
everythin happens 4 a reason... so.. y not juz relaz n enjoy her company.. time wil show...
take care