Is this love?
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loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
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nope it is not...
but why do you wan to harden your heart in the first place? -
then what is the above?Originally posted by rainee:nope it is not...
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why do you want to harden your heart in the first place?Originally posted by blu_sky:then what is the above?
and what is love?
and like what i said last time, love is something that is hard to be described, it is something that shouldn't be questioned so much
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The hardening of heart is becos it is done for a good reason, for the overall well-being for everyone, in the long run.Originally posted by rainee:why do you want to harden your heart in the first place?
and like what i said last time, love is something that is hard to be described, it is something that shouldn't be questioned so much
btw, it is not me lah -
Originally posted by blu_sky:loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
Is that love?
That's pretty relative.
How good exactly is good? Maybe u would like to expand on that?
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Like the long term happiness of both parties?Originally posted by Yunhaier: That's pretty relative.
How good exactly is good? Maybe u would like to expand on that?
Cheers
Does loving someone means you have to be there for the person all the time? i dun mean seeing each other 24/7. rather, i mean providing emotional support for the person, rather than hardening of heart and turning a blind eye to the person's inability/difficulty in taking the situation? letting the party go thru emotional turmoil alone? -
Depends on situation.Originally posted by blu_sky:loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
Is that love?
let's say that the person you love is addicted to drugs...
Should you harden your heart and force him to give it up? should you stand your ground even if he say he can't...
in this case i think the answer is yes. This is love
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ah... not referring to such extreme cases lahOriginally posted by smudgey:Depends on situation.
let's say that the person you love is addicted to drugs...
Should you harden your heart and force him to give it up? should you stand your ground even if he say he can't...
in this case i think the answer is yes. This is love
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Debatable....Originally posted by blu_sky:loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
Is that love? -
Debatable... But I would think majority of the time, often not... The step taken which yuo've described can be quite a very big risk to take...Originally posted by blu_sky:Like the long term happiness of both parties?
Does loving someone means you have to be there for the person all the time? i dun mean seeing each other 24/7. rather, i mean providing emotional support for the person, rather than hardening of heart and turning a blind eye to the person's inability/difficulty in taking the situation? letting the party go thru emotional turmoil alone? -
Elaborate?Originally posted by Devil1976:Debatable... But I would think majority of the time, often not... The step taken which yuo've described can be quite a very big risk to take... -
love is carin 4 the person and doin wadever u can...
as 4 the drug takin part, u wouldnt mind if bth party takes drug,
and so depends on the situation
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that's another 4 letter word..
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love is abit of both... i guess. When u can find a balance between givin in and takin your own stand... but then of cos dats de hardest part about lovin some1.Originally posted by blu_sky:loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
Is that love?
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Originally posted by blu_sky:Like the long term happiness of both parties?
Does loving someone means you have to be there for the person all the time? i dun mean seeing each other 24/7. rather, i mean providing emotional support for the person, rather than hardening of heart and turning a blind eye to the person's inability/difficulty in taking the situation? letting the party go thru emotional turmoil alone? Well, that's relative to individual preception - you may see it long term solution for your plight, but your other half may not see it that way. He/she may realise your goodwill years later, but that's probably a calculated gamble on your part because sometimes, resentment supercede everything and other times... it doesn't really matter.
Responding to your topic, personally, I made such decision before - about crystalising my emotions and disregard to that person's feeling because I reckon that it's better for the both of us.
Obviously, I took all blames and labelling, but interestingly I am fine with all that.
Yunhaier is evil after all - I don't have to explain my decision to make me appear 'good'. Spectators know nuts and therefore their judgment worth nothing in my eyes and I do not include others in my consideration of things.
Then I pen down my experience and wrote a law in earlier CloUdiSm - Law of Greater Good.
*** As you are vague in your definition, I cannot say for sure that the decision made by him/her for the better of things is indeed better. Perhaps, if you are more comfortable, you can always PM the entire story (or you can relate it here)
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My grandma tap my shoulder and smile to me while I'm eating ... Her smile brighten up my day...
This is Love
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Anyone listen to Class 95...
They always hv this "Love is..." at certain time of the day... I can't rmb which slot le -
Tough love.
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Some partners like to play mind games and play victim.. If you try to go ALL THE WAY to help this sort of person or partner, you could be VERY EASILY drained to the MAX where not only would the relationship break down.. But also you would... There're also partners who might not be consciously doing such things... Some of them are just so depressed or sort that it'll not be practical for you to 'go all the way' unless you're really adequate enough to help or unless you're a professional..Originally posted by blu_sky:Elaborate?
However, it would normally not be advisable to turn a blind eye to your partner's needs as it would be too high a risk to take... There could be some possible solutions to the cases mentioned above, but if in any case where you cannot handle your partner of the above metioned type... It might be advisable for you to just leave them (the mind games and play victim type) or refer them to someone more capable of helping them eg. a professional (in the case where your partner is under depression)... -
Do you want the definition of True Love or do you want the definition of chemical BGR love.
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What is love? by Haddaway
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Oh, baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Yeah
Oh, I don't know why you're not there
I give you my love, but you don't care
So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Oh, I don't know, what can I do
What else can I say, it's up to you
I know we're one, just me and you
I can't go on
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh
What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
I want no other, no other lover
This is your life, our time
When we are together, I need you forever
Is it love
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)
What is love? -
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i dont know what is love.
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I dunno what kind of love you want or expect to have...Originally posted by blu_sky:loving somebody, and deciding what is good for him/her, hardening your heart and turning a blind eye to that person's feelings, and just do what you think is good, despite how much it saddens the person, despite how much that person cant take it.
Is this love?
Isnt love about treasuring somebody, making him/her happy, caring for that person's feelings and well-being?
hardening your heart and just do what you think is right, disregarding that person's feelings.
Is that love?
I try to give 2 variations
1: drug addict
You love the person for who he/she/it is, not what drug the person took. You see the potential in the person without the drugs and thus the treasuring.
What the person is really happy about? To be further trapped in the poisons of drugs? Or to leave the world of drugs? This you have to know and then decide which one can make him happy.
If the person is too hooked unto drugs and you cannot bear to see the pain in that person, maybe... temporary you don't say anything about telling the person to stop drugs or something BUT that is not the solution. To really care for the person's feelings not only involve current situation at hand but also in the future - meaning what's best for the person in life, in spirit and what the person can be at best.
You may have to harden your heart and be tough on the person because you know drugs is not good and it has to be stamped out.
2: someone hurt from past relationships
Understanding the person and his/her/it's past relationships will give you a good insight of what the person has been through. Knowing where to tread and when to stop can help you to detect possible unwanted complications and being sensitive towards the person.
Normally a person so hurt from past relationships will have hesitations and fears towards the next potential relationship. It is up to you to tell that person that every relationship is different. You also have to tell him/her/it that you are serious about it. You decide this and stick with it. Do NOT just go ahead and in the possible future decide he/she/it is not the one for you for you have already broken his/her/it's heart again and you are guilty for that.
Once showing him/her/it your commitment and putting faith into this relationship will help to tell the person your seriousness and you want to make a difference in that person's life. There are so many different ways to care for the person. To show concern for the person's well-being and such. You get the idea.
The only thing the person last want is to read your lips saying on going back on your words.