parents problem

• wallace82

  31 Jan 07, 00:38

  what will u all do if yr dad intreat yr mom, or u starting to feel that yr dad has a woman other than yr mom outside..
  
  i quarrel and nearly beat my dad last night when he scold my mom..
  
  feel really sad and lost don't know how to help my mom.. everynight when i saw her i felt so useless as a son..
• mystee

  31 Jan 07, 02:13

  Originally posted by wallace82:

  what will u all do if yr dad intreat yr mom, or u starting to feel that yr dad has a woman other than yr mom outside..
  
  i quarrel and nearly beat my dad last night when he scold my mom..
  
  feel really sad and lost don't know how to help my mom.. everynight when i saw her i felt so useless as a son..

  the best way is to go for professional cousellor, maybe give them a call and tell them the scenario, and ask about it if u dont want to disclose your identity? i think they are being trained and have experience to handle such cases. dont quarrel and beat ur dad, i dont think using brute force will help, maybe will be worse instead.
  
  pls dont feel useless, cos i m very sure u are not!
• Diehard_89

  31 Jan 07, 02:20

  yeap don't fret over it too much get a counsellor to aid you
  
  I face a similar problem like you when I was young...sec 3 or 4 that time but my case was different from you
  
  my dad suspected my mum of having an affair because she frequently went out..but actually she went out for religious purpose..temple most of the time
  
  but my dad doesn't trust her so quarrelled and even locked her out of the house once..everyday was just quarreling and fighting
  
  so I was like you lor..one day couldn't control and went berserk really berserk..was eating and they started quarrel again..my dad then locked her out of the house
  
  I couldn't take it.. smashed my plate all over and bent my spoon..started cursing and scolding my dad..couldn't really remember what happened after that cos my mind went blank..
  
  did feel useless like what you have mentioned but sometimes things cannot be helped by you yourself alone..you just have to bear through it and seek help
  
  yeap like what mysteev has said..brute doesn't solve the problem..get professional help or your relatives
  
  don't worry you are not alone
  
  
• smudgey

  31 Jan 07, 10:39

  All you can do basically is be there for your mum...
  
  Your mum's and dad's quarrel is THEIR quarrel.... we as their children shouldn't butt in....
  
  UNLESS one party is being abused.
  
  talk to your mum...
  
  right now she needs someone by her side.