i find dating very hard
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i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me -
it's not the end of the world if u dun date now
concentrate on serving the country, manage ur finances well, when u are finally out and ready (mentally) then u go for it
gers got plenty lah
dun need to rush -
Not every gals go for their bf $ de la...if really no $ then tell her lo...u tell her u no $, what can she do to u, if she is angry or pissed off juz becos u dun hav the $ to treat her and etc...then l think this kind of gal dun wan oso okie liao...
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what about me who has been single for 20 years.Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me -
Money can't buy love, and definitely not true love..
Be yourself and if she likes you for what you are then good if not, there is no need to pretend to be someone just to be with her...
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Why should you be pai seh? At first i thought your parents is going to take your money from your wallet, but instead they see no money they give you some. You should feel happy that your parents is still worried about you not having enough money for your own self, thus giving you money. Other people dont have such privileges liao.Originally posted by schroet:I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
But anyway, i also suffer the same prob, scared no money to support GF (look at my post and you will know. ) Hmm, like some people had said, those girls who only see you got money then go to you, see you no money kick you until dunno where, these girls dun wan oso good. They dont love you, they love your $$$. But those girls who see you no money but still stick to you, buy super glue and glue her to you. 
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You are serving the stupid NS,hence living off your parents should not be too much since NS is LL have to serve one loh,not your fault.
As for whether u have enough money or not,i think it common sense for girls to understand that NSF are lowly pay,if they really think in that way then it better off to be single,on the other hand if u met an understanding girl,then it should mean that this girl might be the one whom can be together for long,in a way it help u to test whether this woman is the right one or not. -
Let the girls know that you're serving NS and low pay lor... It's up to them as to whether they still wanna come out with ya?Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me
You need not always pay for the other party especially when you're both still not an item... If the other party's comfortable with it, you can always go dutch...? Or dutch on some things while giving a simple treat on stuffs which might be less taxing on your wallet...? -
When you go Uni, there's more girls. pat* pat*
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Have you ever thought that you being single now is REALLY to use this time to find a galfriend? Never thought of using this time to discover more about yourself or better yourself as a person?Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me -
You've placed too much importance on money and that becomes your obstacle to dating.Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me
The solution is to change your perception of girls and dating.
Cheers -
Let the nature takes its own course. My advice, finish your NS first. Then concentrate on your career...build your way up with savings. When you more or less financially stable....you will definitely have more confident..to get a girl.Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me -
Originally posted by Lowclassman:I'm sorry that you have to waste two to 2.5 years of NS slavery. Me too.
Let the nature takes its own course. My advice, finish your NS first. Then concentrate on your career...build your way up with savings. When you have more or less financially stable....you will definitely have more confident..to get a girl. -
1) $420 is alot, we used to get $350 only.Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me
2) Single = no need to spent money on girls.
So unless you are serious about the girl then why complain? -
Personally, I have no problems going dutch with a guy on a date...Originally posted by schroet:i`m 19+ turning 20 this yr , single for like 2 yr plus . Even if theres any, the woman will tend to be older than me because i look mature and they dont really know my age and they tend to have more initiative. some girls around my age i do like them , but somehow dating seems likely impossible when it comes to money issue . I`m serving NS drawing pathetic $420 every month , sometime my parent see my wallet no $ they just put money inside my wallet . Very pai seh , such a age still get money from parent.
seems to me dating at this age or rather timing is rather hard , because from my previous experisence , everytime whennever i spend money dating girl it will be x2 that amount , but cant possibly ask them out and u ask them pay right? $420 - deuction of insurance , personal expenses like food and transport and micellaneous . i think i be left around nothing after deduction .
seems impossible to date girl without money.no time for part time lay . HOW? any idea any solution to contribute to me
however if you really want to pay, select a place that is not too expensive.... The gal should understand...
you can try Jack's, sake sushi, cafe cartel, or even food court...
this is all fine....
It's not the meal that counts it's the company...
don't worrie too much -
Well... i personally find saying the three words "I Love You" hard
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can go to cheap food at hawker centre
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excuse me, few years ago, purchasing power in singapore is about the same as now, and yet, we in army start of with $240 also survive...
whats there to complain?
sure can date, see how good your gf is. -
But what if you already love her deep deep? haha...Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Not every gals go for their bf $ de la...if really no $ then tell her lo...u tell her u no $, what can she do to u, if she is angry or pissed off juz becos u dun hav the $ to treat her and etc...then l think this kind of gal dun wan oso okie liao...
That's why it is good to know a gal for quite sometime before goin into a bgr.. -
wait after u complete ur ns lor.
but if u reli need to get into a r/s, i guess the female will be understanding enough to know your situation.
cheers. -
or you can be like me.
i have never gone on a 1 to 1 date b4.
and i never will.
but just dun be gay can le...
got desires just use your right hand lor.... (but dun go overbroad) -
dont say it, prove itOriginally posted by wonderamazement:Well... i personally find saying the three words "I Love You" hard