improving the situation?
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I always hav this problem, i dun seem to have a lot of frens around me and i am always nt so popular with the crowd.
Currently i am in NS, ORD in a few months time. When i am in camp, i treat my men very well but i seldom talk much with them because i am not good at talking and my interests is very different from them. Even they are my men but we dun click very well, some of them also seldom talk to me esp the new guys. They only treat me as their SGT in camp.. outside its like different story. i dun chiong with them so most of their time outing they also nv include me. Sometime i feel very bored to go camp cos its like they only respect me because of my rank and appointment. I am always alone in camp hiding in e office.
How can i improve the situation? I do make mistakes at time but humans are prone to error.. dun tell me SGT are nt allowed to make mistakes..
I just feel that i am always doing things yet not appreciated by others. People jus dun seem to understand me. -
going to ord liao so talk more rubbish
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You should open yourself up... Talk and communicate more...?Originally posted by newbie06:I always hav this problem, i dun seem to have a lot of frens around me and i am always nt so popular with the crowd.
Currently i am in NS, ORD in a few months time. When i am in camp, i treat my men very well but i seldom talk much with them because i am not good at talking and my interests is very different from them. Even they are my men but we dun click very well, some of them also seldom talk to me esp the new guys. They only treat me as their SGT in camp.. outside its like different story. i dun chiong with them so most of their time outing they also nv include me. Sometime i feel very bored to go camp cos its like they only respect me because of my rank and appointment. I am always alone in camp hiding in e office.
How can i improve the situation? I do make mistakes at time but humans are prone to error.. dun tell me SGT are nt allowed to make mistakes..
I just feel that i am always doing things yet not appreciated by others. People jus dun seem to understand me.
If you're not too comfortable to chat in a big group, go for a smaller group... If you're not comfortable with smaller group then chat 1-1 style.. The FACT is that you would still need to learn to communicate with others when you step out into the society next time...? -
Really blur about the rank thing. But sometimes different interests, will really have NOTHING to tok about lor. Moreover it seems those guys are your subordinates? So maybe they find it hard to tok to u too bah, coz people will think they saka u or wat. But because you are their sup, think of it as an advantage. Even if they dun like u , they will not show it to u. So in the meantime u can be more friendly to them, try to find common topics / interests / know them more ?
Or just join their activities (if they invite u) and see how it develops from there / organise an activity so that u get included? -
just chill... men just don't trust their sergents too much. After all, there's the rank thing that'll always going to be there.
Finish up this few months and move on to cv life!