Colleagues who are chronic compaliners
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Hate my colleague, seated beside me. She finds every opportunity to complian this complain that. Sometimes across cubicle (like radio like dat).
Usually I just look disinterested, keep quiet and pretend to be too busy to hear. My job also not perfect wat.
Wat else can i do?
Dun want to have such negative people around me
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Do you all have such colleagues? I scared I become like her too....only complaining.
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Tell her nicely to stfu.
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stfu? Err wat is this
. The worst thing is , some work aspects i need her help. But all this complaining is draining and I got my own life to lead -
Don't fret...keep your cool. I have a colleague who complaints non stop too...always talking about others and complaining away. I usually don't give any comments...just sort of smile and thats it...make don't know!
Usually she gets discouraged and tones down as no input from me. He..he -
My office 90% is like this.
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i got colleague like this
she dun shout across
but she kep nudging me in msn to tell me..
until i so pissed with her and shout across to tell her stop nudging me!! -
One ear in... One ear out....Originally posted by sheri:stfu? Err wat is this . The worst thing is , some work aspects i need her help. But all this complaining is draining and I got my own life to lead -
juz let her complain lo...maybe she nid sum1 to listen her and let her frustrate out...u oso doing her a good deed mahOriginally posted by sheri:Hate my colleague, seated beside me. She finds every opportunity to complian this complain that. Sometimes across cubicle (like radio like dat).
Usually I just look disinterested, keep quiet and pretend to be too busy to hear. My job also not perfect wat. Wat else can i do?
Dun want to have such negative people around me .
Do you all have such colleagues? I scared I become like her too....only complaining. -
disinterested
er.... u misuse the word, sorry to point it out...... -
wan to add on
everytime she complain or she initiate the conversation
she will always say 'aiya...say u also dun understand 1 lah'
than i thinking...'then u still tok to me for fark?!' -
yaya i dislike this kind of people too.Originally posted by BufPuf:wan to add on
everytime she complain or she initiate the conversation
she will always say 'aiya...say u also dun understand 1 lah'
than i thinking...'then u still tok to me for fark?!' -
Of course I have colleagues who are complaint-Kings & Queens. There are also chronic gossipers and back-stabbers. I just remain cool and keep to myself most of the time coz I just can't bring myself to a level as low as they. The more they do these negative things, the more irritated I am but I am oso happier as it shows that I am more classy than them.........
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Load up some MP3s and continue to do your work while listening if you are the type who enjoys it/or is allowed at your workplace.
Troubled souls are all around us. The reason they may choose to vent it to others could be that they are afriad/or cant address those problems directly.
A smile and a sympathic ear is perhaps all they need. But as always not all of the worries and troubles of the world can be solved by ourselves.
Easier it is to change ourselves than to change others.
As long you understand that, you will be fine.
L.i.P -
these are the people you want to keep by your side, because they usually also have bad attitude....and when time for promotion, guess who the superiors would be looking at?????....not them...
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the world only revolves around them..Originally posted by BufPuf:wan to add on
everytime she complain or she initiate the conversation
she will always say 'aiya...say u also dun understand 1 lah'
than i thinking...'then u still tok to me for fark?!'
no one will ever understand their problems or situations..
they are the only ones faced with problems..
i dislike this type of people too. -
i also heard lots of complaints.. not from colleagues but from fre.. i mean once a while is fine.. but she do that almost everyday when we chat in msn.. she kips complaining bout her work problem until i have no chance to really chat with her casually. and i don understand why she don wan to quit her job since she had some much problems.. then whenever i give my advice, she dosen seems to heed my advice.. then when i tell her my problem, she will end up telling hers.. bth.. so what should i do?Originally posted by sheri:Hate my colleague, seated beside me. She finds every opportunity to complian this complain that. Sometimes across cubicle (like radio like dat).
Usually I just look disinterested, keep quiet and pretend to be too busy to hear. My job also not perfect wat. Wat else can i do?
Dun want to have such negative people around me .
Do you all have such colleagues? I scared I become like her too....only complaining. -
Tell her complain also no use, so might as well stop complaining.
I do have such a negative colleague but luckily not in the same dept. She would ask me out for lunch and then would say only negative things, and won't try to see the positive side of things. I try not to lunch with her too often. -
take a recoreder and record her "noise:. den play it back on her....
alternative, buy e small speaker wif buddha chatting... hearing that will be more benefitial den hers -
Thanks for all the replies. Glad to know that I am not the only one with painful swollen ears...haha . Think females tend to be complain queens.
Hence in summary
1) Avoid contact with CC (Chronic Complainer)
2) Pretend never hear CC's Complains
Another one I thought off
" Har ...your life so sad one ah. My job is fantastic, I am learning so much here. Have u considered changing your job if you feel you cannot cope" WTF....last solution
Or just email her this thread!
Hate these negative people. Bring bad feng -shui to my office cubicle. -
Tell her jokingly, that you think that if she is retrenched she would be happy.
Tell her you are grateful for having a job. -
Hiaz...even before Chinese new year, I had to hear her grievences again. Just dun have the heart to practiced what I preached (ie niao back). Really HATE these type of people, like to act pitiful and any solution I say dun help. Than why complain and complain. SHUT up lah!
Must remind myself not to be a CC , and become a PEST like her! -
problem:
-u cant stand her
-she cant adapt to the environment
solution:
-tink of wad she ish complaining about, then how can u solve it
-write a letter to ur employer, telling a CERTAIN(dun put name) employee ish experiencing problems, see if can change not
lastly:
-dun make her problem ur problem -
last fri my last day
i told her that i am so glad that after 6pm, i dun have to listen to you anymore
hahahaha
treat her as though i never know her before -
Yaya...u seem to understand wat I mean. As to think of a solution for her => Anything I suggest she puts it down. Anyways maybe I am a complainer too...haha, complaining here on the board about her compliants. This morning just heard her complain again. Really bad fengshui manz...new year somemore! haha....hack care. The tot that today is wed already, hAPPY!Originally posted by MyPillowTalks:problem:
-u cant stand her
-she cant adapt to the environment
solution:
-tink of wad she ish complaining about, then how can u solve it
-write a letter to ur employer, telling a CERTAIN(dun put name) employee ish experiencing problems, see if can change not
lastly:
-dun make her problem ur problem