how close are you to them now??Originally posted by Isis:But i do not want to hurt friends in the admist of doing so.
Torning away is hard.
Very close to one of them..Originally posted by udontknowme:how close are you to them now??
no one has hurt you before???
no one is going to remember everyone they have ever met in their lives....
But i just don't feel the passion and interest in it.Originally posted by Bontakun:Maybe you can try to learn more about those interests they try to involve you in. Why they like doing it. Whats so good about it? Why you don't like it?
Then you can read my suggestions earlier on and try?Originally posted by Isis:But i just don't feel the passion and interest in it.
Different outlook in life.
Maple, cooking... and it seems nothing much already, other than going to school and gossiping about others.Originally posted by Bontakun:Then you can read my suggestions earlier on and try?
I am curious though... What interests are they involved in that you dun like?
well your suggestions still seem to try to compromise on a 'fit in'.. no offense though just my opinionOriginally posted by Bontakun:Maybe you can politely reject? Accompany those who tried to impose their interests onto you less often? Maybe by then they get the idea you are not that interested.
Or maybe you got any friends, those who share similar interests as you, who happen to be friends with theos friends, who don't share same interests as you, of yours too? Can get them to help you abit. Maybe go out with them more and enjoy the time. Then maybe they can somewhat spread to the other friends?
These only the few ideas I got so far...
perhaps it is just a phase.Originally posted by udontknowme:if you choose to stick with them, you can choose not to participate when they are gossiping
or try to change the subject
perhaps this is just a phase ??
its all up to you whether or not you want to stay with them
time will tell whether or not you people will remain as friends as the years pass
i do have other friends but not in the same classes as me.Originally posted by Bontakun:Maybe you can politely reject? Accompany those who tried to impose their interests onto you less often? Maybe by then they get the idea you are not that interested.
Or maybe you got any friends, those who share similar interests as you, who happen to be friends with theos friends, who don't share same interests as you, of yours too? Can get them to help you abit. Maybe go out with them more and enjoy the time. Then maybe they can somewhat spread to the other friends?
These only the few ideas I got so far...
Well, I too would advice on own values and such, but Isis mentioned not hurting her friends.Originally posted by ulquiorra87:well your suggestions still seem to try to compromise on a 'fit in'.. no offense though just my opinion
i still think you should just be direct on your values/interests
Since thats the case, you can see them less often. REALLY less often. Get along with other friends from other classes if they share same interests with you.Originally posted by Isis:Maple, cooking... and it seems nothing much already, other than going to school and gossiping about others.
I don't like to gossip about people. Of course i can be kaypo at times but i just don't like to judge people based on gossips. I don't maple. I seriously find mapling a serious waste of time.
It seems that their life evolve around themselves. I somehow don't find that mind-stimulating. I think it pretty much boil down to personal preferance and it is really nothing personal.
How old are you by the way?Originally posted by Isis:I could like to hear perspective from other people.
I personally freaked out, when someone attempt to integrate their interests with me which i obviously not interested in.
I need my own spaces to develop and air to breathe.
I need to retain my own indentity.
Thus i have recently torning myself away from this group of friends whom i have hanged around with for quite some time.
I think our interests are very diverse and i have been going towards another direction.
I'm sick of conforming to their interests and not expressing myself rightly.
But in the admist of attempting to drift away from them, i think i hurt some friends.
i don't want to hurt friends.
Originally posted by Isis:it's identity
I could like to hear perspective from other people.
I personally freaked out, when someone attempt to integrate their interests with me which i obviously not interested in.
I need my own spaces to develop and air to breathe.
I need to retain my own indentity.
Thus i have recently torning myself away from this group of friends whom i have hanged around with for quite some time.
I think our interests are very diverse and i have been going towards another direction.
I'm sick of conforming to their interests and not expressing myself rightly.
But in the admist of attempting to drift away from them, i think i hurt some friends.
i don't want to hurt friends.