y r female auditory?? I dun hv gift of the gab..
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sigh... if there's anything in the world i lack, i lack the ability to converse face to face, or on the phone... and this poses a problem for me.. i don't know what to do... it's just who i am but the girl i like starting to talk about this bad point of me le.. sigh...
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You have to learn. If not how to go out to work next time?
Take it one step at a time. Learn to make small talk. -
i'm working now lor... ya, i'm very quiet... have problems handling phone calls.. but i'm tryin..
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i understand, phone conversations can be scary. i feel that sometimes.
practice makes perfect. youll get used to it soon. -
Do you have no topics to talk about, or you have specific speech problems?
Do share with us more so that we can give you better advice ya -
Well to all here...
l tink l oso posses a problem similar to TS
l dare to call up my good guy frenz and tok abt sch wrk and etc, ask them out...joke with them
But to those ppl...that l noe online...nver see be4 or tok be4 de...juz chat in msn and game..then one day...l hav to call them..tell them sumtinz...especially gals...l will be kinda nervous...like mind empty empty de...cnt tink of topics to say...very jialat...
Does anyone noe what is this problem of mine mah? l did ask a guy frenz..whether l am normal or not...he say of coz la...he told me if he were to speak to sumone he had nver spoken be4 on phone...he oso will be nervous...
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Your friend's probably right! Cos if you're not used to speaking with strangers or rather someone whom although you've known him but first time talking to him, it's quite natural.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Well to all here...
l tink l oso posses a problem similar to TS
l dare to call up my good guy frenz and tok abt sch wrk and etc, ask them out...joke with them
But to those ppl...that l noe online...nver see be4 or tok be4 de...juz chat in msn and game..then one day...l hav to call them..tell them sumtinz...especially gals...l will be kinda nervous...like mind empty empty de...cnt tink of topics to say...very jialat...
Does anyone noe what is this problem of mine mah? l did ask a guy frenz..whether l am normal or not...he say of coz la...he told me if he were to speak to sumone he had nver spoken be4 on phone...he oso will be nervous...
Like when people get mental blocks too
Maybe you can test this out? Write down what you need to tell the person, either in point forms or the entire sentence, so that when you really forget, refer back to the paper and get your message across.
Nothing beats practicing in this aspect. Talk more to people whom you've never spoken to before, and as you get used to it, words will just flow.
Best wishes to you...
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You mean the girl you like have discussed this issue with you?Originally posted by clueless007:sigh... if there's anything in the world i lack, i lack the ability to converse face to face, or on the phone... and this poses a problem for me.. i don't know what to do... it's just who i am but the girl i like starting to talk about this bad point of me le.. sigh...
You don't lack the ability, you lack the practice. -
that's what i do for business calls. good method.Originally posted by Dating Specialist:Maybe you can test this out? Write down what you need to tell the person, either in point forms or the entire sentence, so that when you really forget, refer back to the paper and get your message across. -
Yeah, sometimes you may find that it's not so much of the fact that you had it written down, bur rather the psychological effect of knowing you're safe with that paper, and it kind of puts you at ease.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:that's what i do for business calls. good method.
When one is relaxed, the mind tends to function very well!
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yeah, but when you get unexpected calls, thats another story.Originally posted by Dating Specialist:Yeah, sometimes you may find that it's not so much of the fact that you had it written down, bur rather the psychological effect of knowing you're safe with that paper, and it kind of puts you at ease.
When one is relaxed, the mind tends to function very well! -
Yup, unexpected calls tend to make one lose his stance right haha...I agree.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:yeah, but when you get unexpected calls, thats another story.
Still, that method can be used. As a form of rehearsal. we can always write down some greetings that is said more frequently. Do mental rehearsal and actual ones by saying out loud, so much so that it's being internalised.
And when that happens, even when an unexpected call comes, you'll know how to at least manage the conversation, though you may need some time to decide on whatever issue that caller wants to discuss with you.
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Last time I was like you... Now I just swings back and forth between quiet and noisy... In fact, sometimes I think I talk too much..??Originally posted by clueless007:i'm working now lor... ya, i'm very quiet... have problems handling phone calls.. but i'm tryin..> -
haha...you can try msn's video call. Its FREE and if your tired or run out of topics to talk...you can just pull out the handset and blame on technical errorsOriginally posted by clueless007:i'm working now lor... ya, i'm very quiet... have problems handling phone calls.. but i'm tryin..
Its a good platform for you to start with -
haha...you can try msn's video call. Its FREE and if your tired or run out of topics to talk...you can just pull out the handset and blame on technical errorsOriginally posted by clueless007:i'm working now lor... ya, i'm very quiet... have problems handling phone calls.. but i'm tryin..
Its a good platform for you to start with -
Originally posted by Click Here:haha...you can try msn's video call. Its FREE and if your tired or run out of topics to talk...you can just pull out the handset and blame on technical errors
Its a good platform for you to start with
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practice here.... and with platonic gal pals...