Feeling useless
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As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U!
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i also feel this way
but hey! this is life! everybody is different...i also wad, me is, i cant get wad i wan, currently studying something which i noe i hate it...but wad can u do?
make the best out of it, not juz stare at it n do nth....dun say such bad things abt urself yeah?....u are not the only one in this world...at least u made it to uni~ -
lax man. dnt feel low or small juz becoz u din achieve anything yet. u dnt have to excel academically to feel useful.....
u can b a gd son or watever... bt if ure gd in a way; say doing things or watsoever...ure juz useful... ure nt a tool anyway
u dnt need quantity frends...bt quality ones...niwae frends can b made almost everywhere...from kpitiam to shopping malls
dare for more... do more bungee jumping to gain confidence
@ least u feel for urself n tried the 1st step in taking the 1st step to changing urself. n dats confidence....
relax yeh, dnt overstress urself n get depressed over it... it takes yrs to grow a tree ..bt a few mins to cut it down. it's nt an overnight issue dat resolves easily...... expose urself to diff ppl n learn from dem... -
organise outings or go for outings wif the sgfers lo.
dey seem nice enuff to take u in their circle of frens. -
U just have to learn to live life alone.
Friends cant always be there for you.
I dun have any difficulty keeping to myself and i am perfectly fine. -
Yesterday when I was on mrt, 2 guys were talking about this too. One said he cannot study = useless (And he looked so sad), his friend (A happier guy) said he also useless, only know how to sleep (and luffed it off).
So dun worrie a lot of people share the same sentiments. I also
a) Alone most of the time (Even at work place, no colleagues to be friends with, or rather I choose not to tok to those weirdos)
b) Non existent career
c) Not much friends, at least I had colleagues in my previous jobs to have fun with
d) Poor memory leading to slow learning
Just writing a-d) makes me slightly sad. So stop thinking about it
Think about your positives....or just aim to be a nice and sincere person?
Just think like this, u are meant to be alive to enjoy yourself, no need to contribute to anyone or society one lah. (haha...irresponsible adult!). So just do things u like. If you hate your job, find something u like after work (afterall have the money to do so). Find an activity / sports. Even if you are studying, u can find ECA to indulge in / find part time job to make friends ? -
1) Cant make it to a university....l dun tink it is impt la...there are oso quite a number of ppl out there...who are juz holding a ITE or POLY certicfiate.Originally posted by newbie06:As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U!
2) If no interests or hobbies...u can choose to pick up one mah...know wad u like and want..and go create ur hobby urself..like me...l had the hobby of collecting GUYVER figurines...altot is a expensive hobby but l like it...
3) u dun nid to hav many frenz? for wad? juz a few good ones is enuf
4) slow in learning things...lol, l guess there are a number out tere who are slow too..l am oso a slow learner..but nvm la..tink openly, k?
5)Be more confident by telling urself that u nid to be confidence...^^
confidence is a very impt thing..l suppose u dun wan to indulvge in self pitiness bah -
i think u need to get a job fast
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Have confidence Improve in your yourself Expand you social circle MOre friends You'll not feel useless.
It lies in your confidence. -
Originally posted by newbie06:As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U! Is your mindset.
If you carry on with this thinking, you would probably remain this way for the rest of your life.
Failures always equip themselves with failures' mindset.
Break free.
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Well, learn to accept and respect yourself...the rest will come into place ..
No one is useless...only dunno where he is most useful at
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As far as intelligence is concerned, you are okay wad. At least your assessment of yourself is spot on! But you are useless coz you dun even know that new members must post their photos.....?
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Look at it this way, at least you r not fat, awkward and socially inept. There's hope yet for all of us.
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r u a pessimistic person?Originally posted by newbie06:As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U!
i am somehow like you or perhaps worst than you. i have been emotionally and psychologically defeated too many times thoughout my life that i really don't know what's the feeling like to be a winner.
i don't have many frens also, i am not comfortable knowing new people. i just keep to my very small social circle, people who accept me and don't look down on me.
i myself i am taking one step at a time to learn how to stand up again, so i don't know whether i qualify to give you advice or not.
perhaps you can start building up on your self esteem.
join some social clubs or pursue a hobby like what fellow forumers suggested.
when your self esteem is at a high level, you feel good about yrself, life will be full of hope and u will have the confidence to try out new things, pursue new hobbies, make new frens and stuffs. -
hai i share the sentiments with ya.....
doesnt help that still stuck in the ORganisation -
God loves you
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It is quite normal... you just need to discover where you passion lies. Just don't gamble in the casino and try to make lots of money fast. Find out what you want to do with your life. Seek and ye shall find! SEEK!Originally posted by newbie06:As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U! -
u need to mix around more... no everyone is suited to be superman, but u can still look for ur best skill and make good at it... go join the outings here and know more ppl...Originally posted by newbie06:As i grow up i am feeling more and more lousy of myself. I just feel that i am such a useless bum w/o any worth. I cant make it to university, do not have any interests/ hobbies, very few friends , slow in learning things , lacking the confidence to try out new stuff. With the limited number of friends, my social circle isnt expanding and gradually with friends busy with their own matters so they seldom come look for me. I am always alone doing my own stuff and sometimes when i have problem i dun even have someone to lend a listening ear. Any advice on how i can start to make myself feel better and turn things around. Thanks guys and God bless U! -
Ya agreed! ............finding a passion in life is very important. For most people, making money is passion, for others is excercise / arts. I finally had time to take up my interests recently, and life is much more lively. Being able to share tots with people of the same interests, also feels great.
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you need to have a breakthrough in thinking.
it's important to taste the first success in order to motivate yourself to think its possible. but your chances of getting success are low if you keep thinking the same loser thoughts. so you see, its really a vicious cycle. only you can break out of it by sheer will, taking the right action and probably a little luck. -
u dont need many friends, just a few gd ones would do...
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http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=184838
Poster: You will have to watch your post in AA.
Encouraging suicide is never a solution, here. You want to start your own forums and offer suicidal advices. Its fine by me.
DO NOT ATTEMPT to do so in Aunt Agony Forums.
Read up the link and do some reflection. -
Even bank robbers have better things to do than Commit Suicide.
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Commiting suicide is the end of all things if you are helpless.Originally posted by NotFromVenus:Even bank robbers have better things to do than Commit Suicide.
Considering that there are no gods,demons.