Mean nasty superior - wat confrontational tactics to use?
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There is this superior who likes to treat me like dirt. And is more of the attitude rather than work related matters. Is like, u ask her a harmless Qn (e.g. when will u pass me dat thing), she will need to purposely find her most hateful mean sacarstic voice to answer u back (Everytime). Act impatient. Show her power. She has so much hatred, she is the incarnate of saturn
I am not afraid to scold her back, but its' quite hard as u know its an attitude problem, and not like unreasonable work related matter where u can have an argument about.
But yet.........
I dun want to spoil my mood.
I dun want to stoop to her level.
I dun want to become a pitiful angry ghost like her
ya...on hindsight, she acts as if she was one of the remaints of the 7th mth ghost festival, the soul of a woman murdered and raped and torn into pieces.
Being a total "shi li yan", she only acts like this to me, coz I am most junior. Sometimes I listern one sentence from her, I feel so unhappy (meets the F***'s purpose) Really spoil my mood. Have to do one hour of body combat to calm down
(and u know who the target is)
Wat I cannot stand is the sacarism in her. But I am sure her boss and colleagues will side her ( not because they like her, but office politics) Dun want to quit a job just because of a crazy MIH patient.
I always have to convince my self that she is an orphan, with a verbally abusive husband, and mongolaid children, and parents & dog which abondoned her when young, to comfort myself why there is such a hateful creature lurking in my office. When she comes near my work station, I sense a ball of black air around me. If one day she was found to be some serial murderer, I will not surprised (Scarli I am one of the victims! Gosh!) -
i like your english, understandable
between how old is she? I haven't meet someone like her before? maybe she is a 30 year old woman who has not meet someone in her life and feel very frustrated in her life that she need to channel her negative her feeling to,
so you happen to be at the wrong place at the right time, or you have said something that irk her before? -
theres nothing much u can do cos she is still ur superior... maybe find ways to take her position thru politics or watever... if she got someone higher even better... can impress the higher authority....
Note: its a very dirty tactic and who know wat kind of retribution u will get so resort to tis at ur own risk... -
she jealous u nian qing and more chio la.
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Ignore the Hierarchy chain of command, go and 'seek' advice from your manager and tell him/her regard to this issue(cannot said its a problem), and 'ways' to improve this strained working relation that you want, and you want to, in hope will resolve this matter in fashionably manners
Maybe your PR skill need a reality check? -
No I dun think I have irked her before/ or to that extent where she needs to treat me to dat extent of hatred.
Actually she treats some of the chosen colleagues in the same manner , just that they dun have to face her shit frequently.
When I see her at the lift, I will not attempt to smile to her lor. Just my usual face (which probably is blacker upon seeing her, may need to take up body combat stance mah! Not my fault, body's own reaction).
I defintely will not initiate topics with her. I already passive state => Kena niao, Active state => May get into cat fight!
I keep to myself in the office, partly also coz I dun want to lunch in because the black warring god is lunching in with the rest of the colleagues. Dun want to spoil my mood. -
jz seek help from higher power....Originally posted by sheri:No I dun think I have irked her before/ or to that extent where she needs to treat me to dat extent of hatred.
Actually she treats some of the chosen colleagues in the same manner , just that they dun have to face her shit frequently.
When I see her at the lift, I will not attempt to smile to her lor. Just my usual face (which probably is blacker upon seeing her, may need to take up body combat stance mah! Not my fault, body's own reaction).
I defintely will not initiate topics with her. I already passive state => Kena niao, Active state => May get into cat fight!
I keep to myself in the office, partly also coz I dun want to lunch in because the black warring god is lunching in with the rest of the colleagues. Dun want to spoil my mood. -
Ya...from her reaction, u would think she is a 50ish sexually deprived female, who lives alone (or with aging parents who are demential). Heavy financial burden and wat nots.....
But is not! Is totally opposite. The reason why she is so full of hatred is because she HATES her job (I think). -
Poor thing, then she is one mean b i t c hOriginally posted by sheri:No I dun think I have irked her before/ or to that extent where she needs to treat me to dat extent of hatred.
Actually she treats some of the chosen colleagues in the same manner , just that they dun have to face her shit frequently.
When I see her at the lift, I will not attempt to smile to her lor. Just my usual face (which probably is blacker upon seeing her, may need to take up body combat stance mah! Not my fault, body's own reaction).
I defintely will not initiate topics with her. I already passive state => Kena niao, Active state => May get into cat fight!
I keep to myself in the office, partly also coz I dun want to lunch in because the black warring god is lunching in with the rest of the colleagues. Dun want to spoil my mood. -
sounds like the next thing u wanna do is hit her with a chair...Originally posted by sheri:Ya...from her reaction, u would think she is a 50ish sexually deprived female, who lives alone (or with aging parents who are demential). Heavy financial burden and wat nots.....
But is not! Is totally opposite. The reason why she is so full of hatred is because she HATES her job (I think). since tat way jz go be her best fren n advise her a better career... -
are you working in local company?Originally posted by sheri:Ya...from her reaction, u would think she is a 50ish sexually deprived female, who lives alone (or with aging parents who are demential). Heavy financial burden and wat nots.....
But is not! Is totally opposite. The reason why she is so full of hatred is because she HATES her job (I think). -
Your solutions :Originally posted by sheri:There is this superior who likes to treat me like dirt. And is more of the attitude rather than work related matters. Is like, u ask her a harmless Qn (e.g. when will u pass me dat thing), she will need to purposely find her most hateful mean sacarstic voice to answer u back (Everytime). Act impatient. Show her power. She has so much hatred, she is the incarnate of saturn
I am not afraid to scold her back, but its' quite hard as u know its an attitude problem, and not like unreasonable work related matter where u can have an argument about.
But yet.........
I dun want to spoil my mood.
I dun want to stoop to her level.
I dun want to become a pitiful angry ghost like her
ya...on hindsight, she acts as if she was one of the remaints of the 7th mth ghost festival, the soul of a woman murdered and raped and torn into pieces.
Being a total "shi li yan", she only acts like this to me, coz I am most junior. Sometimes I listern one sentence from her, I feel so unhappy (meets the F***'s purpose) Really spoil my mood. Have to do one hour of body combat to calm down (and u know who the target is)
Wat I cannot stand is the sacarism in her. But I am sure her boss and colleagues will side her ( not because they like her, but office politics) Dun want to quit a job just because of a crazy MIH patient.
I always have to convince my self that she is an orphan, with a verbally abusive husband, and mongolaid children, and parents & dog which abondoned her when young, to comfort myself why there is such a hateful creature lurking in my office. When she comes near my work station, I sense a ball of black air around me. If one day she was found to be some serial murderer, I will not surprised (Scarli I am one of the victims! Gosh!)
1. Get promoted over her.. When in position , deal out abit of fairness for her next underling.
2. Quit your job and find somewhere else to work in. -
Seriously, do you need this job to survive?Originally posted by sheri:No I dun think I have irked her before/ or to that extent where she needs to treat me to dat extent of hatred.
Actually she treats some of the chosen colleagues in the same manner , just that they dun have to face her shit frequently.
When I see her at the lift, I will not attempt to smile to her lor. Just my usual face (which probably is blacker upon seeing her, may need to take up body combat stance mah! Not my fault, body's own reaction).
I defintely will not initiate topics with her. I already passive state => Kena niao, Active state => May get into cat fight!
I keep to myself in the office, partly also coz I dun want to lunch in because the black warring god is lunching in with the rest of the colleagues. Dun want to spoil my mood. -
short of resigning
u can irritate her by being
completely in your face positive
always super cheerful and smiling
she criticise you be completely humble
smile a lot and irritate the hell out of her -
Make friends with her. Be the opposite to what she is.
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To the queries raised and the options available:
1) Cannot quit, not because of $, but due to working hours and need to attend to other non-work matters currently
2) Will never ever get promoted earlier than her ever, even if I go get my MBA now. In here, age is the main determinant to promotion
3) Hit her with a chair
, would prefer to do punches instead. More body contact and personalised.
Chosen path
To be a a 24/7 confrontational stance.
Sad that I have to stoop to her level. Whole day have to be on the guard for an impending war.
Could hardly sleep last nite.
Lucky no need to see the hateful spirit daily
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x2Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:short of resigning
u can irritate her by being
completely in your face positive
always super cheerful and smiling
she criticise you be completely humble
smile a lot and irritate the hell out of her -
yoda says more than one way is there to be confrontation. More effective is gentle resistance than brittle force. Peace in heart is great weapon for onslaught of hate.Originally posted by sheri:Chosen path
To be a a 24/7 confrontational stance.
Sad that I have to stoop to her level. Whole day have to be on the guard for an impending war.
Could hardly sleep last nite.
Lucky no need to see the hateful spirit daily -
One shot to the stomach, rinse and repeat. -
Ya....to think about it , rather quit than become a clone of her.
Ohm.....apparently doing yoga did not help me lei, too much "xin shi" cannot concentrate. Just thank god I dun need to liase with the "garbage bin face" daily. -
Actually my face is 24/7 HAPPY. But once she comes near, its like impending doom. Face auto will become black, coz defensive mode.
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Originally posted by sheri:Ya....to think about it , rather quit than become a clone of her. Ohm.....apparently doing yoga did not help me lei, too much "xin shi" cannot concentrate. Just thank god I dun need to liase with the "garbage bin face" daily.