i want to help my friend..
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my very good friend is currently under depression for some time already. im not sure abt why... he used to be very cheerful and talkative.. i've tried to talk to him about it but he shuts himself off from everyone. asked him wat problems, he said its personal problems regarding his future and job prospects available and doesnt wanna share more.. sigh, really want to help. but how to make him feel better? dats y i feel quite helpless as a friend... his bday is coming up... any suggestions of what i can do to make it one that he can really enjoy?
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drag him to see a shrink
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just be there for him
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its just short term depression, or he is just frustrated about his choice.....
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just feeling sad.
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at his bday, treat him for a meal.
den if is u n he onli, ask him wat happen lo. -
Show him your love and concern - as a fren la!
Cheers.
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yeah, just be there for him.
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As of now, I don't think he will open up if you ask him about it. What he needs is time to think about his situation. In the meantime you can lend him some books or shows to watch, preferably those with good laughter and invoke HUGE amount of hope in the story (if he can sees hope in it...). Know what are his interests? What he likes? Video games? Sci fi? Superstar? Sports?Originally posted by papercut87:my very good friend is currently under depression for some time already. im not sure abt why... he used to be very cheerful and talkative.. i've tried to talk to him about it but he shuts himself off from everyone. asked him wat problems, he said its personal problems regarding his future and job prospects available and doesnt wanna share more.. sigh, really want to help. but how to make him feel better? dats y i feel quite helpless as a friend... his bday is coming up... any suggestions of what i can do to make it one that he can really enjoy?
thanks guys....
As for his birthday, you can call him out and treat him something (what you planned), but try not to use this as an opportunity to ask him to open up. He can only open up on his own accord. If he refuses to go out, you can either go to his house to celebrate or simply pass him the present if you got one for him.
Be there for him and also be patient if you cherish the friendship with him. -
jio him watch
pursit of happyyness
hai..he so lucky to had u as a fren...who will care
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sometimes u just cant do anything. hopefully they will wake up from the bad spell. how u know if its depression?
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Shutting himself off from anyone is one sign of depression, even though its still vague and not a 100% case of it. We may have to see more to determine if its really depression.Originally posted by Pitot:sometimes u just cant do anything. hopefully they will wake up from the bad spell. how u know if its depression? -
i bid for x20Originally posted by SGpork:jio him watch
pursit of happyyness
hai..he so lucky to had u as a fren...who will care -
Don't try to talk to him about his problems.Originally posted by papercut87:my very good friend is currently under depression for some time already. im not sure abt why... he used to be very cheerful and talkative.. i've tried to talk to him about it but he shuts himself off from everyone. asked him wat problems, he said its personal problems regarding his future and job prospects available and doesnt wanna share more.. sigh, really want to help. but how to make him feel better? dats y i feel quite helpless as a friend... his bday is coming up... any suggestions of what i can do to make it one that he can really enjoy?
thanks guys....
Just call him up or ask him out occasionally and talk about other things instead...? -
Originally posted by SGpork:jio him watch
pursit of happyyness
hai..he so lucky to had u as a fren...who will care -
Sometimes its just a phase of changing.Originally posted by Bontakun:Shutting himself off from anyone is one sign of depression, even though its still vague and not a 100% case of it. We may have to see more to determine if its really depression.
I have a friend who thinks that he there are no such things as real friendship in the world and no matter how we try to argue, he still think that people are just using each other in one time or another. Nothing such as a friendship.
U gotta look at it from a diff way and just treat him like no other person. if u treat him specially instead of him thinking that u are trying to help him, he will start to wonder why are u becoming so good to him, perhaps trying to take advantage of him?
Sometimes it aint depression. Just someone reading too much and i mean way too much into things. Or it maybe that he just got onto the dirt with his friends perhaps got backstabbed or some other bad stuff.
It aint depression because he is doing fine in OCS now.
Its just that some people read stuff differently. -
Ya...maybe depend on how long he seems down, to determine if he is suffering from depression. But think its really hard to cure, esp if u dunno the problem.Could be Relationship problem, work problem, no aim in life problem, $...the list goes on. If dunno the problem how to solve. I am also a person who does not open up to others (in terms of my problem).So can understand why your friend dun want to tok (Esp if he really is sad about something). Think u need to contact more with him, and slowly pry open to know what went wrong .
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why not have nice meal at a place he likes, then can chit chat
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A couple of things:
Ask him if he wants to talk about it. If he says no, don't press the issue and just let him know you're available if he changes his mind.
If he does choose to talk about it, avoid trying to rush to solutions. Sit back, listen and make it clear you are doing so. One good way of letting him know you're listening is if you need any clarification about something he has said, ask. -
hmm . just be patient and be there for him . dont pressure him to tell you what's troubling him . when he feels secured enough to tell you , he would . (:
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i think wat u can do now is to leave him alone but let him know that you are most willing to lend him a listening ear anytime.
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We can only hope this is the case regarding paper's friend. Its more of different mindset and perception than depression.Originally posted by Pitot:Sometimes its just a phase of changing.
I have a friend who thinks that he there are no such things as real friendship in the world and no matter how we try to argue, he still think that people are just using each other in one time or another. Nothing such as a friendship.
U gotta look at it from a diff way and just treat him like no other person. if u treat him specially instead of him thinking that u are trying to help him, he will start to wonder why are u becoming so good to him, perhaps trying to take advantage of him?
Sometimes it aint depression. Just someone reading too much and i mean way too much into things. Or it maybe that he just got onto the dirt with his friends perhaps got backstabbed or some other bad stuff.
It aint depression because he is doing fine in OCS now.
Its just that some people read stuff differently. -
personally i think that he needs time to think abt his future and to sort his thoughts... well... Just be there for him....
to cheer him up, bring him out or bring him go and have fun....
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Originally posted by Sakuraflower:personally i think that he needs time to think abt his future and to sort his thoughts... well... Just be there for him....
to cheer him up, bring him out or bring him go and have fun.... x2