stop using my favorite line!!!Originally posted by gigabyte14:google is your friend.
As you know, and you couldn't solve them... Is he doing something about those 'problems'....?Originally posted by kuri:Been crying for the last few nights..feeling lost and depressed..feels so immensely inadequate,lonely and void in this relationship at times..there seem to b too many problems between us..just when i need some comfort n assurance he's chiding me with cold remarks after i tried so hard to be understanding,warm n encouraging..n he still apparently sees no reason wat could b wrong..like i must b looking for trouble again..how could he b so insensitive..i know to some of u who has read my previous thread u'd think i m whining again..but this is really making so depressed..trying to convince myself to give up but it hurts too much..i dunno wat esle can i do..i may sound silly but is there such counselling service as couple therapy or smt in singapore for unwedded couples?
Originally posted by kuri:Been crying for the last few nights..feeling lost and depressed..feels so immensely inadequate,lonely and void in this relationship at times..there seem to b too many problems between us..just when i need some comfort n assurance he's chiding me with cold remarks after i tried so hard to be understanding,warm n encouraging..n he still apparently sees no reason wat could b wrong..like i must b looking for trouble again..how could he b so insensitive..i know to some of u who has read my previous thread u'd think i m whining again..but this is really making so depressed..trying to convince myself to give up but it hurts too much..i dunno wat esle can i do..i may sound silly but is there such counselling service as couple therapy or smt in singapore for unwedded couples?
word.Originally posted by LifeIsWonderful:whats wrong with being single, if you keep looking at the gold bar, you'll never see the more precious gems behind you... there is more to life than 1 other person. there are people who say if they quit smoking, they will die, yet many people are able to quit without dying, the problem is not to give yourself any excuses before you even do it (do it, not try, try is for people who make up excuses for failure in advance).
amenOriginally posted by kuri:felt much better after we've had a heart to heart talk ytd..
but still the root of my insecurities with the relationship now isnt really resolved:that he still believes sex/close sexual intimacy is a part of what makes his love whole. even tho he says he respects my wishes he is not demanding it from me he's still a lil unhappy that he has to meet my expectations while i'm not meeting his. we'r sorting this out now..
told him i'm bound to feel insecure n uncertain bout the relationship if he's holding onto that expectation as what comes naturally and ought to b part of love in a relationship. as much as i want to put my heart and soul into the relationship the constant reminder at the back of my mind that he's not gona love me completely cos there isnt sex in our relationship haunts me and makes me holdback. i've told him that and he says we gona talk it thru tmr, we'r finally going on a movie date again after so long felt like we never had much 'normal time' or regular dates for most of the time we were together hope we can set things straight after tmr..i understand that love needs compromises but at the same time it's not feasible for one of us to morph into another person so we could stay together so we'll just hav to see if we can reach a satisfying balance..both of us seem really determined to work things out tho,so hope it does.
Rather, love is like poison. Even though we all know what's the ending of it, we still take itOriginally posted by nerfz:problematic love is like poison.
From what I know, I believe there're soem agencies in Singapore which do provide sort of 'counselling' for couples...Originally posted by kuri:Been crying for the last few nights..feeling lost and depressed..feels so immensely inadequate,lonely and void in this relationship at times..there seem to b too many problems between us..just when i need some comfort n assurance he's chiding me with cold remarks after i tried so hard to be understanding,warm n encouraging..n he still apparently sees no reason wat could b wrong..like i must b looking for trouble again..how could he b so insensitive..i know to some of u who has read my previous thread u'd think i m whining again..but this is really making so depressed..trying to convince myself to give up but it hurts too much..i dunno wat esle can i do..i may sound silly but is there such counselling service as couple therapy or smt in singapore for unwedded couples?
pats pats no need to worry if he is yours he will be yours, but if both are not meant to be then is just only time.Originally posted by kuri:felt much better after we've had a heart to heart talk ytd..
but still the root of my insecurities with the relationship now isnt really resolved:that he still believes sex/close sexual intimacy is a part of what makes his love whole. even tho he says he respects my wishes he is not demanding it from me he's still a lil unhappy that he has to meet my expectations while i'm not meeting his. we'r sorting this out now..
told him i'm bound to feel insecure n uncertain bout the relationship if he's holding onto that expectation as what comes naturally and ought to b part of love in a relationship. as much as i want to put my heart and soul into the relationship the constant reminder at the back of my mind that he's not gona love me completely cos there isnt sex in our relationship haunts me and makes me holdback. i've told him that and he says we gona talk it thru tmr, we'r finally going on a movie date again after so long felt like we never had much 'normal time' or regular dates for most of the time we were together hope we can set things straight after tmr..i understand that love needs compromises but at the same time it's not feasible for one of us to morph into another person so we could stay together so we'll just hav to see if we can reach a satisfying balance..both of us seem really determined to work things out tho,so hope it does.