Hard to find love.....
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A few months ago, I finally met a gal who can make me forget my ex(i haven't had a gf for 2 yrs after my ex
) She was very bright and cheery and we called each other everyday and meet up very often, enjoying each other's company. However, recently she started avoiding me and refuses to answer my calls. I even went to look her up at her work place only to be rebuked... Finally she told me that her reason for avoiding me was that she felt that she is getting too close and too dependent on me, which she doesn't wan it to happen.. she is starting to develop feelings for me but she says there's already someone else in her heart and she cannot love 2 persons at the same time n therefore decided to avoid me.... I feel so fucked up... It had taken me so much time and courage to decide to love again yet this had to happen... I'm really feeling very down, pls tell me what can i do? -
Despite what has happened, be glad and happy for the fact that the girl is at least truthful to you. You would definitely experience more pain and anguish if she is not truthful should you have continue to move forward the relationship.
The girl must have enjoyed being with you since you have meet up often and call each other daily. However, it is clear that she has decided it is someone else she loves at the moment. If you can respect her decision and maintain some kind of distance (ie, more as a friend), both of you can and/or may still stay as friends. This is tough to do though.
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Originally posted by marlboro:
How much do you like her? If you want her back, back off for a while and leave her alone for a while. Sometimes, they have to sort out things for themselves before accepting you.
A few months ago, I finally met a gal who can make me forget my ex(i haven't had a gf for 2 yrs after my ex ) She was very bright and cheery and we called each other everyday and meet up very often, enjoying each other's company. However, recently she started avoiding me and refuses to answer my calls. I even went to look her up at her work place only to be rebuked... Finally she told me that her reason for avoiding me was that she felt that she is getting too close and too dependent on me, which she doesn't wan it to happen.. she is starting to develop feelings for me but she says there's already someone else in her heart and she cannot love 2 persons at the same time n therefore decided to avoid me.... I feel so fucked up... It had taken me so much time and courage to decide to love again yet this had to happen... I'm really feeling very down, pls tell me what can i do?
Look also at your own actions, calling her and going to her office. Do you know what is a stalker is? These are big NOs NOs. It's scary and suffocating for her.
The next piece of advice is always strive to be a better man. Be relaxed and also challenging to her.... That's all for now. -
By now you should realise that this is sort of a one sided relationship...? Before you continue to swear and curse, I would like to share some GOOD NEWS with you....Originally posted by marlboro:A few months ago, I finally met a gal who can make me forget my ex(i haven't had a gf for 2 yrs after my ex ) She was very bright and cheery and we called each other everyday and meet up very often, enjoying each other's company. However, recently she started avoiding me and refuses to answer my calls. I even went to look her up at her work place only to be rebuked... Finally she told me that her reason for avoiding me was that she felt that she is getting too close and too dependent on me, which she doesn't wan it to happen.. she is starting to develop feelings for me but she says there's already someone else in her heart and she cannot love 2 persons at the same time n therefore decided to avoid me.... I feel so fucked up... It had taken me so much time and courage to decide to love again yet this had to happen... I'm really feeling very down, pls tell me what can i do?
BE GLAD, that this girl realise her 'mistake' and decided to put a stop to this thing before the situation gets even more complicated... No doubt you've chosen her and she might have proved to be the one who can change your stubborn heart, but she have also made her CHOICE clear.... You've chosen your path, she've chosen hers.... This is a relationship... And would take 2 hands to clap...
Maybe you feel that she should have given you that chance...? Well... Chance... You've got to earn it... Not push it though...? If it's meant to be and she've really got the torch for you, your chance would be here again one day....?
And since you've realise that there is this girl who can makes you forget about your past relationship, you should also realised by now that it's highly possible that there're others out there who can do the same? May she be a 'better' person or 'worse', just remember she's gonna be the one you love.... And not the one you should use to compare with the others... Not even with this one....?
My friend, if you can decide to love then it would be.... Just a matter of time.... Like people say "there's always a forest out there..." If you really think that she's the one for you and you're willing to wait and devote for her without expecting any fruit in return and without affecting this love of yours go ahead, this is call PERSISTENCE.... But if you turn overboard in your case and stand, eventually, you'll HIT RESISTANCE..... -
actually, this happened about a month ago... I tried very hard to forget her but I still think of her alot... I called her a few times after the incident but I can feel that she's trying to avoid me... Haven't seen her since... Miss her alot, yet dare not call her or look for her again as I'm afraid that it'll make things difficult for her.. Just wishing that I can forget her quickly...
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dun give up is what i will sae to u, dun give her up, try convince her u r the man for her, i regret already coz i give up b4...Originally posted by marlboro:actually, this happened about a month ago... I tried very hard to forget her but I still think of her alot... I called her a few times after the incident but I can feel that she's trying to avoid me... Haven't seen her since... Miss her alot, yet dare not call her or look for her again as I'm afraid that it'll make things difficult for her.. Just wishing that I can forget her quickly... -
she close to u before.. maybe she also like u . she just confuss...
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d oni thing u can do now iz to let her know ur true feelings, make things clear but know wheres the line n not cross it, ie, wait 4 her decision. hopefully she wont avoid u again. sumtimes thing cum when u least xpect it, n luv may juz hit u in d face when u least xpect it.Originally posted by marlboro:actually, this happened about a month ago... I tried very hard to forget her but I still think of her alot... I called her a few times after the incident but I can feel that she's trying to avoid me... Haven't seen her since... Miss her alot, yet dare not call her or look for her again as I'm afraid that it'll make things difficult for her.. Just wishing that I can forget her quickly...
1 word of advice, if she happens to break up with ur 'bf' or the guy reject her, be careful dat u may bcum d sparetire, dun curse at mi, cos i haf seen it b4, juz a word of advice -
Good for you then....?Originally posted by marlboro:actually, this happened about a month ago... I tried very hard to forget her but I still think of her alot... I called her a few times after the incident but I can feel that she's trying to avoid me... Haven't seen her since... Miss her alot, yet dare not call her or look for her again as I'm afraid that it'll make things difficult for her.. Just wishing that I can forget her quickly...
And once you've decided on your choice, don't go 'what if', 'what could have' things... There ain't really right or wrong choice, just different choices.... -
Shit happens. Be glad that the girl didn't play you for a fool and string you along with false hopes. Pick yourself up and get on with your life.
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Originally posted by shandower:Shit happens. Be glad that the girl didn't play you for a fool and string you along with false hopes. Pick yourself up and get on with your life.
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There are ups and down in life...
Good luck in your life dudez...
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Man...life sucks....
bad things always seem to happen to nice people.
And good things always happened to the bad people
Man......!!! -
Man...life sucks....
bad things always seem to happen to nice people.
And good things always happened to the bad people
Man......!!!
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hey thanx for saying i'm nice!! i like u already...Originally posted by Iron Maiden:Man...life sucks....
bad things always seem to happen to nice people.
And good things always happened to the bad people
Man......!!!
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.....Originally posted by jOhO:hey thanx for saying i'm nice!! i like u already... 
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Met up wif her again yesterday.. Suprised that she'll replied to my sms... went for movie, then chatted till very late before sending her back... Was the happiest man in Singapore last nite but she ignored me again today... what the fuck is she thinking??! I got a feeling that I'm only someone to feel up a gap whenever she's bored or sad..other days she won't even think of me at all.... Arghhhh.....
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i think u are quite a fool to still go after her despite the way she treats u. Come on man! there are much more lovely ladies out there who would love to meet u.Originally posted by marlboro:Met up wif her again yesterday.. Suprised that she'll replied to my sms... went for movie, then chatted till very late before sending her back... Was the happiest man in Singapore last nite but she ignored me again today... what the fuck is she thinking??! I got a feeling that I'm only someone to feel up a gap whenever she's bored or sad..other days she won't even think of me at all.... Arghhhh.....
On the contrary if u really love her, u should have a real good talk with her. Honest and straight from the heart and ask her what she sees u as. Potential mate, friends, or some guy to fill in the space? Be very clear on that and both of u should agree so that u 2 work on your relationship/friendship in that particular direction.
Read of the book 'Who moved my Cheese?' Recommend u to read it. can get it at Popular, Times.. MPH. It teaches u to let go of old things and seek new ones. Helped me abit. Try reading it and reflect on this relationship with this girl of yours. All the bes -
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..... It's YOUR CHOICE, it's YOUR LIFE...?Originally posted by marlboro:Met up wif her again yesterday.. Suprised that she'll replied to my sms... went for movie, then chatted till very late before sending her back... Was the happiest man in Singapore last nite but she ignored me again today... what the fuck is she thinking??! I got a feeling that I'm only someone to feel up a gap whenever she's bored or sad..other days she won't even think of me at all.... Arghhhh.....