What is wrong with my life???
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If thereÂ’s one problem which IÂ’ve been wrestling for the past 4-5 years, itÂ’s this pervasive sense of loneliness and rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when I’m in the midst of doing something, my mind will be filled with this “What is wrong with me??!!” thoughts… so much so that I’ll sink into a depressive state…
My personal life has been like down in a slump for yearsÂ… IÂ’ve only a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with anyone
My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that No one is remotely interested in me--- itÂ’s like people hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my current classmatesÂ… everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards me.
I’ve tried… from joining classmates for lunch after lectures, studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of social interaction comes from “formal activities” like attending classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, I’ll virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone… it’s like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do little about.... -
Have you tried attending any SDU function, it might enlarge your social circle.....
http://www.lovebyte.org.sg/web/ent_p_home.asp -
You seems quite desperate
Don't think so much,the time will come. -
Welcome to the club!
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how old are you?
try taking up hobbies that you Enjoy.... hmmmm gather more friends... don't focus on going beyond friends for now...
these things happen. they cannot be rushed or induced.
and like Teddybear said.... join the club!!
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Assuming I were put in your predicament and had to choose, I'd rather be in your state any day than to have tonnes of fairweather friends who are nowhere to be found when I need them...
Being alone ain't all that bad, you know? For a start, you've got unlimited freedom.
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
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If thereÂ’s one problem which IÂ’ve been wrestling for the past 4-5 years, itÂ’s this pervasive sense of loneliness and rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when I’m in the midst of doing something, my mind will be filled with this “What is wrong with me??!!” thoughts… so much so that I’ll sink into a depressive state…
My personal life has been like down in a slump for yearsÂ… IÂ’ve only a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with anyone
My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that[b] No one is remotely interested in me--- itÂ’s like people hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my current classmatesÂ… everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards me.
I’ve tried… from joining classmates for lunch after lectures, studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of social interaction comes from “formal activities” like attending classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, I’ll virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone… it’s like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do little about....
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Chiong to level70.
Join a good guild.
Raid everyday.
Then no more worries liao.
You also can increase your amount of friends. -
Very mildly autistic?
You are normal, but cannot connect with people.
Nothing wrong with you, just no chemistry.
Remember people always want something.
When they see no benefit in you, they are not interested in you.
Remember that, because you are vulnerable to confidence tricksters and hustlers, they will praise you and humour you and then rip you off.
You go out and do the things you like by yourself. To hell with those selfish blokes.
Helping those who need help always bring contentment.
Let your thoughts flow outwards from yourself. Flow inwards and you will be full of I, and you will fill despondent again. -
+1Originally posted by teddybear10:Welcome to the club! -
u are right mancha.. anyway thanx alot for ur reply first... i wld like to think myself as pretty normal, the only problem being my lack of chemistry with pplOriginally posted by mancha:Very mildly autistic?
You are normal, but cannot connect with people.
Nothing wrong with you, just no chemistry.
Remember people always want something.
When they see no benefit in you, they are not interested in you.
i'm not particularly shy nor introverted either... in fact it's sad cos i've taken the initiative to "make friends", join my classmates etc for lunch... in fact sometimes i'm even afraid to turn down anyone who 'jio' me out cos i know usually i get forgotten pretty easily...
sometimes u wld hear on radio delications where ppl would say stuff like "i'm so glad to have a fren like xxx who's always there for me, even thou i've always disappoint or neglected u etc etc"
i'm always (strangely) dismayed after hearin such delications, cos i've never had such unconditional friendship or love b4...
recently one of my classmate broke up with her bf (she's noticeably unhappy), but she still had her wide network of friends & classmates offerin her support (saw her blog, friendster with so many encouragements etc) ... i realized even her so-called low point of her life was way above my normal...
i seem to have to fight so hard for that bit of recognition, and when i'm down (and it happen so many times before) ..virtually no one ever ever offers me any concern -
hey prince..don think it this way la..aiyoh...you are nt the onli person living in the world...wat means u think this way? there are still yr loved ones out there caring for u ma
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
could it be a case of self-fulfilling prophecy? chicken and egg? almost everything in life results from your own mental state... from your mind... your mind creates the reality... try harder with a better and more positive attitude
If thereÂ’s one problem which IÂ’ve been wrestling for the past 4-5 years, itÂ’s this pervasive sense of loneliness and rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when I’m in the midst of doing something, my mind will be filled with this “What is wrong with me??!!” thoughts… so much so that I’ll sink into a depressive state…
My personal life has been like down in a slump for yearsÂ… IÂ’ve only a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with anyone
My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that[b] No one is remotely interested in me--- itÂ’s like people hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my current classmatesÂ… everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards me.
I’ve tried… from joining classmates for lunch after lectures, studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of social interaction comes from “formal activities” like attending classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, I’ll virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone… it’s like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do little about....
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Why don't u join a healthy social club to widen you friend circle?
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hahaha healthy cannot work, join an unhealthy one... our friend needs to gain more experiences fast without killing himself...Originally posted by soulwinner:Why don't u join a healthy social club to widen you friend circle? -
Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
Your nick says tons about you
If thereÂ’s one problem which IÂ’ve been wrestling for the past 4-5 years, itÂ’s this pervasive sense of loneliness and rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when I’m in the midst of doing something, my mind will be filled with this “What is wrong with me??!!” thoughts… so much so that I’ll sink into a depressive state…
My personal life has been like down in a slump for yearsÂ… IÂ’ve only a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with anyone
My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that[b] No one is remotely interested in me--- itÂ’s like people hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my current classmatesÂ… everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards me.
I’ve tried… from joining classmates for lunch after lectures, studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of social interaction comes from “formal activities” like attending classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, I’ll virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone… it’s like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do little about....
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i lack chemistry too.
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This is because you haven't learnt how to love yourself. You can only love yourself when you find yourself. Only when you've learnt how to love yourself can you find inner peace and be truly comfortable with yourself. And only when you know how to love yourself will you know how to love another!
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How to love yourself?Originally posted by :This is because you haven't learnt how to love yourself. You can only love yourself when you find yourself. Only when you've learnt how to love yourself can you find inner peace and be truly comfortable with yourself. And only when you know how to love yourself will you know how to love another!
Start by thinking well of yourself.
Looking well.
And collecting as many "Thank You" as you can.
The Boy Scouts' promise of one good deed a day is a good one. -
There is much new awareness that it is necessary to love yourself in order to love others. What is the nature of loving yourself? There are many different ways of seeing this: treating yourself as you would treat someone you highly respect and admire; giving yourself time for things that matter most to you; eating your food with affection, so that the love you give the food then goes into your body; and so forth.
Loving yourself, however, goes beyond such things. Loving is a unified experience that does not cut off any portion of your reality. When you are loving yourself, you are loving others. When you are loving others, you are loving yourself. When you are having joy in what you are doing, you are giving joy to the world--there is no separation between you and the world. If you have been holding back from treating yourself well for fear that doing so would detract from more important things, you are not seeing the connection between what you do for yourself and your contribution to the rest of what is. When you caress yourself, you are immediately giving the planet a warm and vitalizing touch; you are the planet. When you shout with glee, you release a ripple of color that the stars witness with a sense of gladness; you are the stars, the witness to your own joy. When you truly love yourself or love in any way, you leave a faint but unmistakable aroma of magic in your wake. Is this not at least as great a contribution to humanity as accomplishing item number ten on your "to do" list?
Any act of love is a step in the evolution of life. Love does not differentiate between the love you give yourself and the love you give others. Loving yourself is not self-centered. If you truly love yourself, your actions do not exclude others' well-being. Your true self-interest includes what is best for everyone. If you do what you truly love to do, you are in harmony with the whole.
Love is. You cannot honor the wisdom of the ages without coming to love. You cannot love others without loving yourself. You cannot love yourself without loving others. You cannot express love without being love. You are love, so that is not a problem.
"What about the parts of me that do not feel loving?" you may ask. "What about my anger toward my boss, my mate, or my neighbors?" The answer is simple: Love your anger. Love those who have perhaps trespassed against you, and love the force in you that seeks to protect you from further trespass or to impel you to appropriate action. Love it all.
Loving yourself has vast ramifications. It is not simply a way to increase your effectiveness and enjoyment; it is your primary means of coming to know the force that activates the universe -
When the expressions “loving yourself” or “self-love” are first heard, there may be confusion about what is meant. This is because we think in terms of the love we are familiar with, dependent love. If we try to love ourselves, we may take an approach similar to that used in dependent love, using ourselves as the object of our love. We may try to escape into ourselves, as we escaped into others. We may become self-absorbed and self-indulgent, putting our own needs first. The motive is still to escape. We reject unhappiness and, in so doing, reject ourselves.
Self-love has nothing to do with using yourself as the object of your love. Self-love means that your love comes from within, is generated from within, not from “loving” any object because it may please you tremendously, whether that object is someone else or yourself. Self-love is a condition of awareness, a way of perceiving, an attitude, which results in an integrated perception of the world.
The art of loving yourself begins with self-acceptance. They are essentially the same. You begin loving yourself when you stop rejecting yourself, especially on the feeling level. When you practice self-acceptance of your feelings as they are now, you will experience real changes in consciousness. You no longer try to juggle people or possessions in the external world in order to find fulfillment. You find fulfillment from within, simply by accepting, without acting out, your feelings as they are right now.
Do not underestimate the importance of self-acceptance. It can end the emotional pain that you feel or lead to the spiritual experience you want. Starting with the mundane, you will reach the highest of inner realization. In welcoming all your feelings, you become whole; life becomes holistic. You experience oneness. You no longer compulsively search for oneness in the external world, whether with another person or with an achievement. You accept and love yourself.
http://www.emclear.com/Emotions_lovingyourself.html
Be active in volunteerism.
This things/changes take time. -
What causes you not to love yourself and not to love others? Fear, Greed, Illusions, Delusions, etc etc... the best place to correct the problem is in your own mind.
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What you need are some hobbies.
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i oso likdat... only better then ts a litle bit...
haiz...
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Prince Cumming, maybe you are too normal so normal you blend in so well with the rest of the population, you loses your uniqueness that makes you "YOU". Anyway, try doing something different, telling a joke, or whatever that makes you stand out a little and people will notice you. Bring out the real you, doesn't matter if the real you are a bit humsup (judging from you nick, I can't help but feel this way ), at least people will notice you.
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Hobbies and religion may help too all the best...Originally posted by charlize:What you need are some hobbies.
Really.