unlucky year for me
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Hi I just feel very sad on what has happened to me since chinese new year.
first i lost about 1000 in gambling
second my girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me last week
third i just got into a car accident today. i need 10 over stiches on my lips and my front tooth broke.
Actually i am particular upset over my failed relationship. thats because i feel that i have put in alot of time and effort into it. i cook for her, spent all my free time with her, bought her 2k worth of diamond necklace. but she gave me reasons for the break up like: i am a smoker, i have a short temper, i dont have a degree. and she cried when she told me these stuffs.
however the trigger point was when last week while we were meeting up at the mrt she told me she wants a break up than i out of anger, i tear up the tickets meant for escape theme park which we meant to go. from than onwards she is so intent on breaking up. i was remoursefull after that and tried to ask her back. but she shuns my msg and even her family members also ask me to leave her alone. i feel so lost now
i know this is the end of us but after what has happened to me for the past month i feel so lost. dont know what to do now?? -
How do you make her your girlfriend at first? Maybe try to track back the time and do something which she likes
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i cooked for her and brought it over to her workplace for her lunch. But now even her mum tells me to give her some time and if we are fated than...
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All those reasons she presented lack of degree, smoking, bad temper...if she means so much to you change e above mentioned and woo her again
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Ya. you must change for the sake of your future and for HER.
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her mum also mention that i should go upgrade myself and change for the better. i think the entire family is against our relationship. i feel very hurt after all this time spent at her place consider all that i have done for her...
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What have you done for her besides e superficial? Bad temper and disdain for self improvement could be e main cause of break up..parental opposal just makes it even harder for her
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Maybe start by quitting smoking and changing your temper. No lady wants to be with a rough and hot temper guy.
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I wanted to change i even beg her and told her i will change but she just dont belive me. once i msg her i miss her and stuff like that her sis will reply and tell me to leave her alone. i really feel like giving up and just wait for her to call me again. cause we still have stuff in each others places and if she really wants it back than... i will understand. but i am afraid of an emotional hijack causing me to go crazy
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Listen to me.
Under any circumstances, Men should not hit a lady. -
i really want to change for her but actually i cannot do anything much. shall i call her and tell her of my accident today?? does it help
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Action speaks louder then words..who can blame her? It is one year into e relationship..but e boyfriend's still in e same rut she started out with
I apologise if I sound stern..but it doesn't make much sense to encourage you to woo her again when you havn't improved at all -
no not hitting a lady, i will never do that. just like telling her i missed her and i loved her telling her not to leave me stuff like that using sms. thats because i dont want her to feel terrible by calling her again but when i missed her so much i will say all this things..
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Ya.. maybe you should call and tell her..Originally posted by moletan2003:i really want to change for her but actually i cannot do anything much. shall i call her and tell her of my accident today?? does it help
You: call her number.
You : Hello... xxxxxxxx just now I have been in an accident. It was soo dangerous. The first thing which comes to my mind is you. I scare I couldn't see you again. I really miss you. Alot of things went through my mind at that time. All my mind were pictures of you and I together.. all the precious moment we spent together...
Her :
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humm sorry bro to hear about your accident,Originally posted by moletan2003:Hi I just feel very sad on what has happened to me since chinese new year.
first i lost about 1000 in gambling
second my girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me last week
third i just got into a car accident today. i need 10 over stiches on my lips and my front tooth broke.
Actually i am particular upset over my failed relationship. thats because i feel that i have put in alot of time and effort into it. i cook for her, spent all my free time with her, bought her 2k worth of diamond necklace. but she gave me reasons for the break up like: i am a smoker, i have a short temper, i dont have a degree. and she cried when she told me these stuffs.
however the trigger point was when last week while we were meeting up at the mrt she told me she wants a break up than i out of anger, i tear up the tickets meant for escape theme park which we meant to go. from than onwards she is so intent on breaking up. i was remoursefull after that and tried to ask her back. but she shuns my msg and even her family members also ask me to leave her alone. i feel so lost now
i know this is the end of us but after what has happened to me for the past month i feel so lost. dont know what to do now??
before you go after her. Let me ask you a few questions.
1) Why do you still want to go after her?
2) Can you stop smoking for her?
3) Can you stop being so short tempered..
4) Are you willing to study for a degree?
If you cannot do all this for her ...
Then why want her back? -
move on.
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Even if that happens to help.... It probably won't solve the root of the problem too...?Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Ya.. maybe you should call and tell her..
You: call her number.
You : Hello... xxxxxxxx just now I have been in an accident. It was soo dangerous. The first thing which comes to my mind is you. I scare I couldn't see you again. I really miss you. Alot of things went through my mind at that time. All my mind were pictures of you and I together.. all the precious moment we spent together...
Her :
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What I personally think...Originally posted by moletan2003:her mum also mention that i should go upgrade myself and change for the better. i think the entire family is against our relationship. i feel very hurt after all this time spent at her place consider all that i have done for her...
You should upgrade and change yourself for your own good... If that helps for your relationship, then good for you... If not, you'll probably have no loss in doing so too...?
Actions speak louder than words... But the rest is very much up to your gf (ex) for now....