my boyfriend to be husband.....
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Well, as said above I've just ROM with my boyfriend. But we r still waiting for our custom...etc.
well....I'm not sure why guys like sex so much? My bf wants it everytime we meet up. Although recently, after serveral talks on how I feel about him always wanting sex, he changed abit. Well, he told me that he would masturbate before meeting me in order not to make the request to me.
Sometimes, I feel very guilty towards him. Actually, everytime we meet, I just hope we can like talk about things that happened to us recently,you koe, a good heartly talk then go shopping,watch movies...etc. The normal things couples would do except sex.
But my bf everytime we meet up, he would do some irritating actions like touch me all over,then he will say he can't resist touching me and find me very attractive to him even if I'm not naked at all. It's true, sometimes while we walking ard, or shopping, after maybe holding me or hugging me for a while, his 'thing' will stand immediately. I find that very amuse, do guys really do that?
I thought you guys only stand when you see a naked girl? any guys out there have this kind of experience? can you tell me what you r thinking or how u r feeling at that time? -
You ladies very hard to satisfy...
Don't stand, you will complain that we guys don't desire you.
Stand all the time, you will complain we guys too horny.
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I think it's normal fof him to "stand" as he said you are attracted to him mar....You said wanted to do normal stuff instead of sex everytime. You'all can have sex first then do normal thing lor. U didn't specifiy everytime u'all meet is how often. 1 week? or everyday? if 1 week then it is very very normal. If everyday then maybe i think i should pity you. But One thing is for sure....his sex drive is higher than you. Or should I say....he can't satisfy u? Coz in fact ger's sex drive should be higher than guy.
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It is jus a normal reaction... some guys haf a higher sex drive and will stand when they see sexy girls, dun make a fuss about it...
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Hi juna,
As you might have read the above replies, it's true that some guys have high sex drive, it could be due to hormones overdrive or that person is being over-exposed to porn flicks. Whatever the reason is not the main concern.
I can see that this could be a future problem after marriage. We all understand that sex after marriage is healthy, but when the balance is not there anymore, meaning one party demands more sex than the other, it will ultmaitely affect the marriage life, causing stress and frustration for both parties.
Being a fiancee, it's good that you care about his feelings, but you don't have to feel guilty about not satisfying him in one way or another. I'm not saying that you shouldn't do it, but at the right time and the right place. it's a good sign that he's willing to change, but do not ignore this issue, after all you are going to be with him for the rest of your life, that I assume. Have a really good talk about this and make some plans and arrangement, explain to him about your feelings, while at the same time, think about his feelings too. The aim here is to have a win-win situation.
If he loves and cares about you, I'm sure he will understand. Let him know that there are many ways of showing intimate affection without sex. I always think that too much sex between a couple is not magical anymore, make love, not sex. -
when some guy are madly in love with u, u dun have to be nude or to be in some sexy position to turn him on...
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i dunno.. but im rather a low sex drive gal.. maybe becos i dun realli like farkinG?
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Maybe that guy's a VIRGIN?Originally posted by MoNsTer:when some guy are madly in love with u, u dun have to be nude or to be in some sexy position to turn him on... -
Try farting for a change?Originally posted by RuthBaby:i dunno.. but im rather a low sex drive gal.. maybe becos i dun realli like farkinG? " -
Tell him if you are meant to be his for life, why does he need sex now? This kind of things cannot give in if you are not willing to. If before marriage both of you all keep indulging in sexual intercourse, next time he'd be bored of your body and go for someone else. Nothing to feel guilty about protecting yourself.
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if b4 marriage have sex then after marriage liao no more fun leh
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i think i am die liao .. i see the one i love, i dont feel 'stand' ..she is attactive but like i dont have lust for her... why!!?
maybe truth love can forget about sex..
but when two love come together it is call 'make love'
then it will be more enjoyable...
this is how i feel ... am i wrong? .. enlighen me pls.. -
hi 7th signs...the gal u toking about is the one u mentioned in the other post isit?? the one u've liked for years?
well, i think sometimes loving someone doesnt necessary means that u must have a sexual desire for her ..like what u said , it could be just pure love ... but of course to a certain extent, u'll want some physical contact like hugging or kissing...that's not LUST ! that's normal expressions of love...
so remember, don't confuse love with lust..~ all the best!
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wah~ that means i see u from 20m away i oso will stand lor? Next time try~ hehehehe~!~!Originally posted by MoNsTer:when some guy are madly in love with u, u dun have to be nude or to be in some sexy position to turn him on... *just kidding~* heheh don angwee hor~ 
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Hey friend, u are really in love with her. Don't worry so much. When u start to love someone, its natural u have no lust for her, coz u respect her alot, full respect. Its your love that sex is not involved yet, thats the starting part.Originally posted by Seventh_Signs:i think i am die liao .. i see the one i love, i dont feel 'stand' ..she is attactive but like i dont have lust for her... why!!?
maybe truth love can forget about sex..
but when two love come together it is call 'make love'
then it will be more enjoyable...
this is how i feel ... am i wrong? .. enlighen me pls..
But one day when u both are together, kissing, hugging, etc etc will come.... then sex topic will slowly come in by time also.
Then u will find having to "do" with the person u've always loved so much is great... *both of u will do it with respect, then passion* and slowly u will want it more... this is how "sex life" derives between couples. But this kinda thing must control of coz, if not wait u or her become sian then jialat liao lo~
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Sit down, have a coffee and have a nice talk with him about what problems u r facing. Understand the situation and come to a conclusion. *Thats what i always do with my gf and it helps alot.*Originally posted by juna:Well, as said above I've just ROM with my boyfriend. But we r still waiting for our custom...etc.
well....I'm not sure why guys like sex so much? My bf wants it everytime we meet up. Although recently, after serveral talks on how I feel about him always wanting sex, he changed abit. Well, he told me that he would masturbate before meeting me in order not to make the request to me.
Sometimes, I feel very guilty towards him. Actually, everytime we meet, I just hope we can like talk about things that happened to us recently,you koe, a good heartly talk then go shopping,watch movies...etc. The normal things couples would do except sex.
But my bf everytime we meet up, he would do some irritating actions like touch me all over,then he will say he can't resist touching me and find me very attractive to him even if I'm not naked at all. It's true, sometimes while we walking ard, or shopping, after maybe holding me or hugging me for a while, his 'thing' will stand immediately. I find that very amuse, do guys really do that?
I thought you guys only stand when you see a naked girl? any guys out there have this kind of experience? can you tell me what you r thinking or how u r feeling at that time? -
it stands up very easily for most guys. This is a normal reaction due to electrical impulses sent by the brain. Anything from there on is self-control already. If dun stand up, something is very very wrong.
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I dunno if it's the difference between guys or is it actually the same guy but the way he feels about different gals.
i, for one, have been in a reln that is based solely on lust and another (not based SOLELY but very much so) on love. needless to say the one that was based on lust was a sex only affair.. and that would be the reason why we met most of the time. as for getting a hard-on in public, (which is rare i wasn't in public with her alot!) i found it quite uncommon. self-control or wat i dunno lar.. but it's just that i felt that it was impossible to have sex right there and then so no need to get so "worked-up" for nothing!
then the reln based mainly on love? sex wasn't the main thing in my head at all.
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[color=red]Well some people have high sex drive...dun worry juna, my guyis also like that...when we go out sometimes he love to touch me here and there...very normal of guys lar. I think if you really dun feel comforatable about it, try to talk it out nicely to him. Tell him how you feel. If not go to some consellor and get help. I am sure you and your hubby can work your way out. Good Luck!!
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Originally posted by Seventh_Signs:i think i am die liao .. i see the one i love, i dont feel 'stand' ..she is attactive but like i dont have lust for her... why!!?
maybe truth love can forget about sex..
but when two love come together it is call 'make love'
then it will be more enjoyable...
this is how i feel ... am i wrong? .. enlighen me pls..
I can't imagine how much closer you can get to the idea...? -
Men are naturally very selfish. They rather satisfy themselves first. Like woman they have their own priorities, that is sex. Maybe you can put it this way woman are shoperholic & men or sexerholic. (if there is such a word for it)
It is like, men don't understand why woman must shop & woman won't know why men "under standing".
That is why many woman don't enjoy sex becos they are not satisfied by their partners. Men are selfish...they want it fast and they want it first. When they cum before the girl do, they will stop. But for woman, it is a slow and steady game. They reach climax very slowly. Well, you can hardly find a endureing men with patience to wait....
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Originally posted by euphratis:Men are naturally very selfish. They rather satisfy themselves first. Like woman they have their own priorities, that is sex. Maybe you can put it this way woman are shoperholic & men or sexerholic. (if there is such a word for it)
It is like, men don't understand why woman must shop & woman won't know why men "under standing".
That is why many woman don't enjoy sex becos they are not satisfied by their partners. Men are selfish...they want it fast and they want it first. When they cum before the girl do, they will stop. But for woman, it is a slow and steady game. They reach climax very slowly. Well, you can hardly find a endureing men with patience to wait.... 
So what's your CONCLUSION?