No energy, no feeling, depressed
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I guess it's time for me to post something in this section.
Since the day I broke out with my gf...... i feel so depressed.
I feel depressed not be'coz we broke up. We both know it is happier that we go apart. We have a peaceful break and we are now brother and sis.
At first I think it is a good idea to be brother and sister. Anyway I have been more than a brother than a boyfriend to her. But things is not what I expected. I call her few times per week to ask her how she's getting along. But when I heard that someone else is chasing her..i really feel no good. But I keep telling myself......"Control yourself, we are not suitable...let other people take care of her".
So now I make up my mind...don't call her anymore...it's impossible for a very close relationship to be brother and sister.
and some more this country is getting worst to stay in. So difficult to save money dnt even say buy car, hse, married...
and I m working in an IT field....the benefit and effort given out is so unbalance. Getting more and more no interest in this job.
What can I do to get out of my depress mood. If this carry on.... I don't know what will happen to me. -
hey wake up man!! impossiable to become brother n sister wif her la unless you still bao zhe patching up wif her that feelings la... haiz..what ever it is you haf already broken up wif her,go lead your own life,stop thinking abt her...find a better gerfriend n get over the old one.all the best to you!!!
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Tx poolgal....that;s what I decided to do, not even call her, you will get the urge to patch back.
Anybody got any ways to earn money. I am getting restless working here. Pls dnt tell me network marketing. -
sell butt? sure earn alot..
haha haiz dun worry n worry no point
concentrate on how u would solve yr prob think of constructive stuff
n TAKE THINGS EASY BABY! girls come n go.. money earned should be spent... there is always public transport...
HURRAY!!! for life is still beautiful!
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Hi Anna! Maybe I am a bit greedy and impatient. I m currently 24, ORD, and work in a .com company for 1yr and doing part time degree. But still haven't achieve much. Thinking of my age, really a bit scared....when can i be successful.
I know it's very common for people like me from poly.....but I simply can't help worrying leh.
Sell butt? Seriously speaking....i don't mind if my client is not too bad.
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super4,
It is nice to know that you have ended a relationship amicably. After ending a relationship, it is not always possible to remain as friends or brother/sister relationship. It is a natural reaction to feel no good to know that your ex-girlfriend is showing attention to another person.
It is a good idea to stay away from her for a period of time (eg, 3 to 6 months). However, i do think it is possible that both of you can remain as friends. Rather than call each other, maybe both of you can like keep in touch via email once a while.
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and I m working in an IT field....the benefit and effort given out is so unbalance. Getting more and more no interest in this job.
--> What do you mean by this?
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What can I do to get out of my depress mood. If this carry on.... I don't know what will happen to me.
--> You are losing your focus in life and thus you are depress. I would suggest you to read self-enrichment/development books.
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Anybody got any ways to earn money. I am getting restless working here. Pls dnt tell me network marketing.
[color=indigo]--> Want to know about financial independence, you can start with reading the book 'Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki'. It can be a starting point towards earning money.
--> How much you know about network marketing.
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Originally posted by Super4:
Hi Anna! Maybe I am a bit greedy and impatient. I m currently 24, ORD, and work in a .com company for 1yr and doing part time degree. But still haven't achieve much. Thinking of my age, really a bit scared....when can i be successful.
Come on... You're still young ok...?
Sell butt? Seriously speaking....i don't mind if my client is not too bad.
Are you a gay? -
i know it's quite a normal for guy my age. But showhow I find that I belong to the impatient type. I can't C any future in the next 2 yrs so I become losing focus in life. I got no energy doing anything.
Seriously I consider leaving my company...but I don't know what I can do. How bad is the market now.
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u'll get through this brother...u will....trust meOriginally posted by Super4:i know it's quite a normal for guy my age. But showhow I find that I belong to the impatient type. I can't C any future in the next 2 yrs so I become losing focus in life. I got no energy doing anything.
Seriously I consider leaving my company...but I don't know what I can do. How bad is the market now.
I m not a gay..... 
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hey its ok... i remember when i broke up with gf last time i took 2 yr plus to get over her... now the forest is nicer and greener than ever, cos i know what routes to avoid, but of cos i not so adventurous anymore too
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You can try CAREER PLANNING? <- Though it may not be exactly the correct time to do this now during regression...?Originally posted by Super4:i know it's quite a normal for guy my age. But showhow I find that I belong to the impatient type. I can't C any future in the next 2 yrs so I become losing focus in life. I got no energy doing anything.
Seriously I consider leaving my company...but I don't know what I can do. How bad is the market now.
I m not a gay.....
Impatient type? Just some words of advice... "Better know where you're heading than to rush your way through and bang into the wall...?"
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what we own is not the problem, its our attitude towards the possession. if we have something and we enjoy it, thats fine. If we lose it, then its ok. but if we lose it and we are attached to it in our heart, then thats not fine. It doesn't matter what the object is,becos its not the object which is the problem. The problem is our inner graspin mind that keep us bound to the wheel and keeps us suffering. If our mind was open and could just let things flow naturally, there would be no pain. Do you understand?
We need our every day life to work on this to really being to see the greed of attachment in the mind and gradually being to lessen and lessen it
When we lose something we love, its our attachment which is the problem, not the loss. Thats what causes us grief. The buddha taught that with attachment comes fear and grief. We have the fear of losing and then we have the grief when we lose.Buddha never said that love causes grief
Genuine love and kindness is desperately needed in this world.
it comes from appreciating the object, and the rejoicing in the object, wanting the object to be happy
and well,but holdin it lightly and not tightly
Above was not from me, It was from the Book called Three Teachings by Tenzin Palmo. Hope it could help you cos it helped me to reason things out -
No doubt singapore is a very pressurize place to stay in.Everything is about money. Just hang in there. Try to be happy with what you have now, your job(although you dun really like it) but its better than you are jobless right?
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you are 24 worryin bout so many things. I am 24 too, i too worried bout what is install for me in the future. But when to think of it whats the use of worrying? When you worried you can't change things right? Just live everyday like a normal day, like me, i too just broke up with my GF months back. Tried to do something that you really enjoyed!
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Originally posted by ROCKSOLDIER:
I like this quote! Thanks RockSoilder! I just met my ex this few days to return her some photo. I was feeling really confuse, thinking of asking her back, try to be together again...all this thought although I know it may be a foolish things to do.
[b]what we own is not the problem, its our attitude towards the possession. if we have something and we enjoy it, thats fine. If we lose it, then its ok. but if we lose it and we are attached to it in our heart, then thats not fine. It doesn't matter what the object is,becos its not the object which is the problem. The problem is our inner graspin mind that keep us bound to the wheel and keeps us suffering. If our mind was open and could just let things flow naturally, there would be no pain. Do you understand?
We need our every day life to work on this to really being to see the greed of attachment in the mind and gradually being to lessen and lessen it
When we lose something we love, its our attachment which is the problem, not the loss. Thats what causes us grief. The buddha taught that with attachment comes fear and grief. We have the fear of losing and then we have the grief when we lose.Buddha never said that love causes grief
Genuine love and kindness is desperately needed in this world.
it comes from appreciating the object, and the rejoicing in the object, wanting the object to be happy
and well,but holdin it lightly and not tightly
Above was not from me, It was from the Book called Three Teachings by Tenzin Palmo. Hope it could help you cos it helped me to reason things out[/b]
But when I reach, she took a guy along with her. I think it means something..... so on my way back....I slap myself a few times to wake up my idea.
Now....ok life is getting real stress for me. Manage to pick up some interest in work. Getting back with my old friends. Sometimes will smoke esp at nite feel really lonely.
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Poolgal is right Bro/Sis ....? my ass.
dont waste your time....good advice -
