Depression - how does one handle
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......Originally posted by mistyblue:I don't bother to handle my depression anymore.
Just wait for an accident to end it all.
Meanwhile, why not do some meaningful things while ya wait? -
......Originally posted by mistyblue:maybe, maybe not. to a desparate person, even a second of peace even through death is bliss. -
to understand depression, you will know that nothing in this world is meaningful
its rather delibitating. its a selfish, self-isolating cycle. -
In the midst of depression, there'll be someone / something that makes you
(law of contrast / polarity) -
I know what you mean... Especially the idea of "denial". Everyone's trying to convince you that you're unhappy.Originally posted by dont know much:I thought that the best way to know something is to discuss among common folks, rather than the professional channel which will "consult" & "suggest" treatments. That's how $ is made.
The - "You are unhappy. You don't feel unhappy because you don't know that you're unhappy. Therefore you must be unhappy." - logic. If that's the case i don't see how else can they be wrong. -
yoz dude. your one not depression lah.Originally posted by dont know much:Although I'd not visited any relevant authorities (& I won't, for I knew it's a spiritual thingy, rather than a on-the-surface thingy that requires cheapos like medicines)
Therefore, I conclude that depression is a term made by man to make $ out of it.
Not to the extent that I think of suicide..
I still think of things. I still work. I still do sports. I still eat regular meals.
Maybe it's a monotonous life. Hence I don't feel anything.
Maybe.
1. I believe you are looking for your purpose in life. keke
Your next question to me may be "How?"
My answer to you will be "Dunno." dub~
But I have an interesting idea for you. What do YOU think is the purpose for an eagle? or cockroach? or an ant? Do they just live for the sake of surviving?
2. Second thing i'll wanna share is to have an open mind. No point asking for comments here where one's mind is close for possible solutions.
There's a story about the wealthiest man visiting the dalai lama for a consultation. The wealthiest man is an "Answer" man. He always comes out with solutions, ideas to whether problems he faced. When the W Man is granted audience to lama, the lama did not speak but pour tea for the W Man. However the lama did not stop even when the tea is over flowing and a large amount is wasted. W Man is shocked!!
Lama then say "If this cup is full, how is it going to contain new tea? If one's mind is already closed, believing oneself to be always in the right, how is one going to accept new and better solutions?" -
Meanings sometimes don't come to you.. You've got to look for it... At least you try?Originally posted by mistyblue:to understand depression, you will know that nothing in this world is meaningful
its rather delibitating. its a selfish, self-isolating cycle. -
The value of life is not whether you are living or not, it's what you do in your lifetime however short or long it is.Originally posted by mistyblue:I don't bother to handle my depression anymore.
Just wait for an accident to end it all. -
From what I observed, those broken hearted or failed relationships, etc always find solace and peace in church/bible/god.
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Yes, it's scary when everyone asks me if I am happy.Originally posted by untitledwav:I know what you mean... Especially the idea of "denial". Everyone's trying to convince you that you're unhappy.
The - "You are unhappy. You don't feel unhappy because you don't know that you're unhappy. Therefore you must be unhappy." - logic. If that's the case i don't see how else can they be wrong.
Therefore, I have to play the role of a happy man to suit everyone's expectation that one is supposed to be happy.
In fact, I'm not. -
You don't have to play the 'happy' role for the sake of anyone. The fact is.. There UPs and DOWNs to almost anybody's life...Originally posted by dont know much:Yes, it's scary when everyone asks me if I am happy.
Therefore, I have to play the role of a happy man to suit everyone's expectation that one is supposed to be happy.
In fact, I'm not.
You just have to figure and understand that it's ok for life to be like that... And it's not really the end of the world. Happiness.. Is... If really what you want.. You've got to FIGHT for it.... Go watch the movie 'The Pursuit of Happyness' and you'll understand better....?
I've been all downhills before too...? Been there and done that. Just phases in life. I've been all 'happiness' too...? So much happiness that made me wonder if there's possibly any other thing I can feel in life...? -
you'll soon find that...Originally posted by dont know much:Yes, it's scary when everyone asks me if I am happy.
Therefore, I have to play the role of a happy man to suit everyone's expectation that one is supposed to be happy.
In fact, I'm not.
if you keep that up long enough, u'll go crazy.
with no one to turn to this time
because no one will be able to believe that u can have problems. -
Hmm... Somehow you've got quite a point?Originally posted by udontknowme:you'll soon find that...
if you keep that up long enough, u'll go crazy.
with no one to turn to this time
because no one will be able to believe that u can have problems.
Or at least they would need some time to 'react' and accept the fact that you're not really such a happy person? -
lets put it this way, people dont like to deal with negative stuffOriginally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Somehow you've got quite a point?
Or at least they would need some time to 'react' and accept the fact that you're not really such a happy person?
if ur happy and fine and dandy, they'll be more than happy to interact with you and stuff.
if ur unhappy, sometimes its not so easy for people to understand and well, they may care, but they may also be afraid and uncomfortable dealing with it
many times, when something unpleasant happens, many people go into denial, block the issue out ect.
they'd rather keep on pretending that ur just the happy person you always were...even if it was all pretend. -
I discovered that most things don't interest me anymore. Am doing most things on a routine robotic-like feel; doing for the sake of doing.
I don't really like most things.
Hence I am still searching. Be it something or that special lady.
Eg. One is supposed to attend all occasions/gatherings in a happy-go-lucky mood. Now, I choose. Most of the time, it's a no-no, for everyone & everything doesn't interest me. & if I do really attend, I put on a "mask" entertaining- which is very very tiring.
People can sense me then. Despite it all, I chose to care for myself, rather than think about what others feel/think about me.
It's pretty scary when I'm not dying yet, but with a long way to go.
I'd a job. I do sports. I stay with my family. I eat regular meals. Means that I'm as normal as anyone else. Then again, I feel like that. (dead,unawaken)
Like when meet someone joyous, you feel his spirit, because he's inspired.(in spirits) -
I treat all my friend to shopping and my depression is gone..
CC burst, depression over...
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treat me?Originally posted by soulwinner:I treat all my friend to shopping and my depression is gone..
CC burst, depression over...
im also very depressed now.. -
Hey, do u feel something like that? Or similar?Originally posted by dont know much:I discovered that most things don't interest me anymore. Am doing most things on a routine robotic-like feel; doing for the sake of doing.
I don't really like most things.
Hence I am still searching. Be it something or that special lady.
Eg. One is supposed to attend all occasions/gatherings in a happy-go-lucky mood. Now, I choose. Most of the time, it's a no-no, for everyone & everything doesn't interest me. & if I do really attend, I put on a "mask" entertaining- which is very very tiring.
People can sense me then. Despite it all, I chose to care for myself, rather than think about what others feel/think about me.
It's pretty scary when I'm not dying yet, but with a long way to go.
I'd a job. I do sports. I stay with my family. I eat regular meals. Means that I'm as normal as anyone else. Then again, I feel like that. (dead,unawaken)
Like when meet someone joyous, you feel his spirit, because he's inspired.(in spirits) -
I once nearly got into thatOriginally posted by dont know much:i am.
went to TTSH NNI - Neuroscience Institute. Didn't want to tell doc specifically abt my pblm. Told him I was losing sleep & appitite......they put me thru many tests & many different types of medicine. Finally they found something which worked & it was for anxiety 
Now i'm out & i try to think positively as much as i can & pray with faith. Perhaps urs is similar to mine & its anxiety rather than depression. Cheer up my fren -
Thanks Buddy
Meaning to say, die die ; no matter what ; one must think positive in all situation.
Whatever the outcome is not an issue anymore. Since the cause(positive thinking) creates positive effect. -
Can we send you to Tanjong Rambutan or former Woodbridge, now IMH?Originally posted by browniebaobao:treat me?
im also very depressed now.. -
Originally posted by dont know much:
no problems buddy, learn to focus on positive things........when you move out of the low period u'll be a much stronger person, cheers
Thanks Buddy
Meaning to say, [b]die die ; no matter what ; one must think positive in all situation.
Whatever the outcome is not an issue anymore. Since the cause(positive thinking) creates positive effect.
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