Really confused.

• Devil1976

  2 Apr 07, 13:16

  Originally posted by freestyle:

  no worries your english is still in check.
  I wouldnt even dare comment abt marriage though she seems settled to marry me in the future? dunno whether its just a figure of speech.
  If we last till after my national service, i think things will pick up. Have huge doubts though. As mentioned by a forumite, her will power totally sucks. give in to temptation way too easily. Perhaps she likes to please and impress people too much that makes her like this. Something i cant stand.

  Care to elaborate on the highlighted part?
  
  Any other type of 'mistakes' which she might be making which really make you angry over?
  
  Since when have you been 'angry' with her?
• UrAdog

  2 Apr 07, 13:18

  yea, mayb u can tell us wad she did that pissed u off, and wad was ur reaction
• RedHairband

  4 Apr 07, 18:08

  Sth similar happened to me recently. My bf sorta broke his promises. Repeated the same mistake.
  
  I felt very betrayed. I couldn't let go the r/s nor forgive him. Then my friend told me, "why not just give him another chance? If he proves to have changed for the better then good. If not, at least you can tell yourself that you'd tried and he's just not worth it."
  
  Just patched up a few days ago. But the wound is still so fresh. I can't seem to trust him anymore. Hai.. Rebuilding trust is really really damn hard.
• freestyle

  5 Apr 07, 08:58

  Originally posted by RedHairband:

  Sth similar happened to me recently. My bf sorta broke his promises. Repeated the same mistake.
  
  I felt very betrayed. I couldn't let go the r/s nor forgive him. Then my friend told me, "why not just give him another chance? If he proves to have changed for the better then good. If not, at least you can tell yourself that you'd tried and he's just not worth it."
  
  Just patched up a few days ago. But the wound is still so fresh. I can't seem to trust him anymore. Hai.. Rebuilding trust is really really damn hard.

  yeah just had an arguement with her again last night. asked if i loved her less etc. i just told her honestly its the fear of committing thats why i may behave weirdly in certain aspects.
• Beckhamagic

  5 Apr 07, 10:23

  Originally posted by freestyle:

  Really dont know what to do anymore.
  
  I cant bring myself to trust her again. Probably because of the fact that she let me down a few times in the past. Even though she wants to change totally for me, anything that she does that might raised uncertainty i will think the worst of her. I suppsoe this is not healthy. I dare not even say i love her anymore. I wonder whats wrong with me.

  There is a chinese saying... which goes like this...
  
  If a person is not loyal to you once... never use or believe this person....
  
  If she can let you down for once... then she can do it the second time but sice she had did it a few times as what you had mentioned then be prepared for more to come....
  
  Just ask yourself how much can a person change for another person?
  
  Regards
• freestyle

  5 Apr 07, 10:31

  Originally posted by Beckhamagic:

  There is a chinese saying... which goes like this...
  
  If a person is not loyal to you once... never use or believe this person....
  
  If she can let you down for once... then she can do it the second time but sice she had did it a few times as what you had mentioned then be prepared for more to come....
  
  Just ask yourself how much can a person change for another person?
  
  Regards

  that is exactly how i think bro.
  
  the moment someone let me down once, i will not trust the person anymore. Its so difficult. Dont think she will understand that. Say im unreasonable for nt trying and keep thinking about the past. knn if so easy means i was never sincere about her.
  
  Just ask yourself how much can a person change for another person?
  
  she seems to be trying very hard she claims. i dunno... got to see. i got damn pissed with her and practically told her off for everything ytd for keep wanting everything to hurry go back to before. Its just not possible.
• Devil1976

  5 Apr 07, 13:13

  Hmm...
• cheekycheng

  5 Apr 07, 14:13

  Originally posted by mhcampboy:

  love

  more like obligation...
  
  if u dun trust someone theres no point being together no more... since u dun see a future with her theres no point talking about being together... on n off with her just shows how strong your relationship is...
• allentyb

  5 Apr 07, 18:10

  let her go
• freestyle

  5 Apr 07, 22:14

  Originally posted by allentyb:

  let her go

  im seriously considering that.... sigh.
• ^mR.yellow^86

  5 Apr 07, 23:20

  Originally posted by freestyle:

  im seriously considering that.... sigh.

  make up your own mind. if u regret it sometime later, slap yourself
• soulwinner

  5 Apr 07, 23:22

  Time to start afresh..
• freestyle

  12 Apr 07, 16:24

  And the agony pro-longs.
  
  sigh......
• mistyblue

  12 Apr 07, 16:35

  you have high expectations wor. expect her to change.
  
  how about you leh? Make some changes and see if you can do it ...