Really stressed up...
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Hais...nowadays suddenly alot of problems,the happy family which i had last time is now almost broken apart...firstly,my sis has contracted focal segmental glomerular sclerosis...a disease which affects the kidney..causing my family to be all stressed up,my mum had to quit her job and look after her,and due to the stress my parents are experiencing...they would have very bad tempers...which makes the whole family very sad...dunno what to do now..another problem is about my studies,i seriously can't get myself in the mood to study,and my O levels is just next year...can anyone help me get rid of these problems in my heart?
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Take things easy
Everyone life isnt smooth sailing and you can help handle the problem by visiting your sister more often and encouraging her 
As for your parents side,it is natural to see them getting hot tempered easily and try to put yourself in their shoes so you understand how they feel Dont ever let your personal problems affect your studies as they are two different things Give everyone some time..I am sure everyone in your family including you is upset over this issue..maybe you can try to get away from this issue for a short moment by doing other things like coming to sgforums to chat more often 
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hello.
after reading through about your current situation, i felt rather sad for you. maybe i won't understand how you are feeling right now but i guess i can at least give you some advices.
well,when your parents got rather stressed up,its definite that they will be having bad temper. maybe you are unable to do anything for them in order to relieve their stress. however,i guess that at least the only thing that you can do is to study and work hard so that they won't be worrying about you. at least,a burden off for them.
i know its hard to get yourself in mood to study but eventually you have to. at least score good results for your parents,at least make them happy and lighten their burdens off. i am sure they will be glad enough to know that you are able to take care of yourself and you are in good hands even though you are on your own.
study and work hard.
lighten their burdens off.
i guess they will feel much better knowing that you are disciplined and doing what you are supposed to.
cheer up and be strong.
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hopefully i could at least help you with just this little bit.
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Hi Simplify, please take care of youself and your studies, this is the most basic that you can contribute at this given situation. Your O's are next year and this makes you 15, 16 years old rite? To some you may still be considered young, but to your family, in times of crisis, you are expected to be old enough to contribute.
WHen your parents are stressed up, and looses their temper, they are not feeling any more good than you do. Do not take it to heart that they do not love you anymore or so.
At such times, a united family is very important. Give your parents any support they might need. Even if they do not say anything, ask if you can do anything, even how small to help. THe worse case is to isolate yourself from your family during this time. Everyone, no matter how strong they seem, needs support.
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I think the other forumites might have pretty much said the things I would like to say....Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:Hais...nowadays suddenly alot of problems,the happy family which i had last time is now almost broken apart...firstly,my sis has contracted focal segmental glomerular sclerosis...a disease which affects the kidney..causing my family to be all stressed up,my mum had to quit her job and look after her,and due to the stress my parents are experiencing...they would have very bad tempers...which makes the whole family very sad...dunno what to do now..another problem is about my studies,i seriously can't get myself in the mood to study,and my O levels is just next year...can anyone help me get rid of these problems in my heart?
Take care and stay focused on your studies.. Don't give your parents the extra burdens and worries... -
/pat /pat
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yea..feel better now,thanks all
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cheer up. send my regards to ur sis
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As you are only sec3 you dont really need to worry about your o lvls. I mean if im nt wrong u only need to pass english and 2 other subjects to get promoted right?Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:Hais...nowadays suddenly alot of problems,the happy family which i had last time is now almost broken apart...firstly,my sis has contracted focal segmental glomerular sclerosis...a disease which affects the kidney..causing my family to be all stressed up,my mum had to quit her job and look after her,and due to the stress my parents are experiencing...they would have very bad tempers...which makes the whole family very sad...dunno what to do now..another problem is about my studies,i seriously can't get myself in the mood to study,and my O levels is just next year...can anyone help me get rid of these problems in my heart?
What im trying to say here its not to abandon your studies or dun study. What i want to bring across to you is that perhaps you shouldnt be THAT stressed over your studies though they r still impt. As there are other issues currently bothering you, i feel that perhaps u shldnt be that stress over your studies. even if u dont excel this year. it doesnt affect your o lvls. Just treat it as a wake up call and study real hard nxt yr. Btw i had 35 for my L1r4 during my olvl prelims. Brought it down to 16. Aint that difficult after all. Really. -
oh,now can only hope my studies will improve for the better,cos my cca is shooting,and i wana continue this cca even after i graduate..then i heard only Jc has shooting as a cca...so that's why i wana get good results and go to a good Jc(unless i get into Youth Team then i will aim for poly la haha xD)..and i'm also afraid i can't catch up with school work...cos dunno why..i can't get into the mood to study,everytime come home would just sit in front of com and play,and totally no mood to study,and becos of this,i get really scared i would fail my exams,so hopefully i can get myself in the mood to study..Originally posted by freestyle:As you are only sec3 you dont really need to worry about your o lvls. I mean if im nt wrong u only need to pass english and 2 other subjects to get promoted right?
What im trying to say here its not to abandon your studies or dun study. What i want to bring across to you is that perhaps you shouldnt be THAT stressed over your studies though they r still impt. As there are other issues currently bothering you, i feel that perhaps u shldnt be that stress over your studies. even if u dont excel this year. it doesnt affect your o lvls. Just treat it as a wake up call and study real hard nxt yr. Btw i had 35 for my L1r4 during my olvl prelims. Brought it down to 16. Aint that difficult after all. Really. -
At least now you have a goal. But you must be willing to work hard towards it. If not for your sake then at least for your family's sake.Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:oh,now can only hope my studies will improve for the better,cos my cca is shooting,and i wana continue this cca even after i graduate..then i heard only Jc has shooting as a cca...so that's why i wana get good results and go to a good Jc(unless i get into Youth Team then i will aim for poly la haha xD)..and i'm also afraid i can't catch up with school work...cos dunno why..i can't get into the mood to study,everytime come home would just sit in front of com and play,and totally no mood to study,and becos of this,i get really scared i would fail my exams,so hopefully i can get myself in the mood to study.. -
You'll need to develop a consistent and meaningful study habit....Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:oh,now can only hope my studies will improve for the better,cos my cca is shooting,and i wana continue this cca even after i graduate..then i heard only Jc has shooting as a cca...so that's why i wana get good results and go to a good Jc(unless i get into Youth Team then i will aim for poly la haha xD)..and i'm also afraid i can't catch up with school work...cos dunno why..i can't get into the mood to study,everytime come home would just sit in front of com and play,and totally no mood to study,and becos of this,i get really scared i would fail my exams,so hopefully i can get myself in the mood to study.. -
WOW.. youth team for shooting. you sound great!
I hope you can move towards ur goal and throw the computer games away! they are evIL!! -
Hi, I tried reading up on the diesease, but cant find those I understand.
Can you describe yoru sister's movements? How does it affect the family.
Is she still able bodied? in pain? reliant?
Does she still wants to be independant instead of seeing all the bad tempers in the house?
Would you be comfortable if everyone chips in to help out instead of having the mother helping out alone and having the tempers all raised high because of her' sacrifice'? -
what a mess!Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:Hais...nowadays suddenly alot of problems,the happy family which i had last time is now almost broken apart...firstly,my sis has contracted focal segmental glomerular sclerosis...a disease which affects the kidney..causing my family to be all stressed up,my mum had to quit her job and look after her,and due to the stress my parents are experiencing...they would have very bad tempers...which makes the whole family very sad...dunno what to do now..another problem is about my studies,i seriously can't get myself in the mood to study,and my O levels is just next year...can anyone help me get rid of these problems in my heart?
Like it or not, you better start revising your O lvl materials before the prelims and the Os. You don't want your parents to worry about you eh? As for your sis, pray that she'll be okay. -
good for you!Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:oh,now can only hope my studies will improve for the better,cos my cca is shooting,and i wana continue this cca even after i graduate..then i heard only Jc has shooting as a cca...so that's why i wana get good results and go to a good Jc(unless i get into Youth Team then i will aim for poly la haha xD)..and i'm also afraid i can't catch up with school work...cos dunno why..i can't get into the mood to study,everytime come home would just sit in front of com and play,and totally no mood to study,and becos of this,i get really scared i would fail my exams,so hopefully i can get myself in the mood to study..
if there is a distraction at home, you can try to study in your neighbourhood library or the airport (if that's nearby). Maybe a change of environment will help. -
Sorry to hear about your situation...Originally posted by SIMpLiFy:Hais...nowadays suddenly alot of problems,the happy family which i had last time is now almost broken apart...firstly,my sis has contracted focal segmental glomerular sclerosis...a disease which affects the kidney..causing my family to be all stressed up,my mum had to quit her job and look after her,and due to the stress my parents are experiencing...they would have very bad tempers...which makes the whole family very sad...dunno what to do now..another problem is about my studies,i seriously can't get myself in the mood to study,and my O levels is just next year...can anyone help me get rid of these problems in my heart?
My advice is that you should even concentrate more on your studies now...
This is because your parents are already troubled enough by your sister problem thus the more you should show them that you are a grownup and they should be able to concentrate more on your sister now since she need more attention than you now...
Don't make them worry about your studies else it will just add on to their burdens and troubles...
If possible try to help them lighten their burden by taking care of your sister when you are free too...
Try to relieve their burdens...
All the best to your O levels...