Biasedness against PRC..
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i can't comment, because i don't like PRC as well.
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Man maybe ur mum has some bad exp with PRCs? i dun realli have a good impression of them either cus of some personal exp with em but i have ta admit i have also met a few good ones. However you shuld not blame ya mum as she has ya interests at heart and also she is older and has probably seen much more than you have esp in the area of judging people's character. Also you mentioned that you have been together only for 6mnths which is not realli a long time thus i suggest you do not trust her completely, i am not saying dun trust ya gf at all but do exercise some caution for the world is not really that kind and wonderful so just continue to find out more about each other and see how things turn out lo as for ya mum tell her u will get to know her better and decide for urself. also that you will consult her if you need her help. Remmeber never trust anyone completely unless the person has proven he/she is worth your utmost trust
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actually cant really blame ur mom....some PRCs really greedy to the extreme man...my mom's workplace got a PRC working there too...best thing about this PRC is that she is working here and getting double income back home in China where she 'pagak' with her friends to help her take attendance in her factory job in China.
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Originally posted by sonic_16:my personal experience with the 8-10 prc gals I'd met are:=
a) They are very very cunning
b) Very good in buying people's heart
c) Very tan xiao pian ye
d) Will smile smile smile even in front of people they hate to the core
e) Think very fast, know how to always change the situation to their advantage
f) Know how to act pityfull to get (esp) guys help (and the guys are stupid enough to help them. My boss kana backstab by one but still never learn his lesson, kana another time by another prc. haha)
Me also kana backstab once by them.
The above are from the 8-10 prc gals i know and am personally in contact with. They are some various backgrounds (local poly grads, uni grads).
TS, I can't blame your mum for being cautious. However, I think 6mths is too short a time frame to really see someone's true character.
I also know Singaporeans like that leh. Don't one bamboo stick smash every fellow on the boat.
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I agree.Originally posted by the.owl:you have this kind of attitude you still complain about them?
Dreamykite you sound like a rather materialistic person. When people buy you something, you should be appreciative of it no matter the price. Remember that at the end of the day, it's not the price but the THOUGHT that counts. -
Originally posted by sonic_16:
my personal experience with the 8-10 prc gals I'd met are:=
a) They are very very cunning
Bro, no offense, but generally the locals are considered dumb in my opinion when it comes to these kinda things. So when u meet a person who is just a little bit cunning, she will appear as "very very cunning". There are people like this everywhere in the world. Not just PRC.
b) Very good in buying people's heart
Same thing as above again. Stop being naive.
c) Very tan xiao pian ye
Erm, no comments on this one, becoz I am not Chinese
d) Will smile smile smile even in front of people they hate to the core
Since when ONLY PRCs do this?
Its done daily by a lot of our own local people.
e) Think very fast, know how to always change the situation to their advantage
Again, everyone does this. Too bad if we are not able to think on our feet and defend ourselves. You have to be smart and learn from what you see ard u.
f) Know how to act pityfull to get (esp) guys help (and the guys are stupid enough to help them. My boss kana backstab by one but still never learn his lesson, kana another time by another prc. haha)
Me also kana backstab once by them.
The above are from the 8-10 prc gals i know and am personally in contact with. They are some various backgrounds (local poly grads, uni grads).
TS, I can't blame your mum for being cautious. However, I think 6mths is too short a time frame to really see someone's true character.
I can't blame you in particular or anything, becoz most of the local people are like that. Please don't flame me =) I am a local too :/ Before we start criticising and giving examples of other country's citizens, look at our own selves. And how materialistic we can get -
yea... honestly ah... i had met singaporeans girls like wad sonic_16 had described... and i feel tat he should not jus put those bad characteristics on PRC girls only... he should go out and take a look... nowadays singaporean gals are like tat too... but not all la... there will always be exception...so do PRC girls... I agree with black_avarice... though I love my gf very much and trust her too... i must still excercise some caution... as 6 mths is still new... I will bear tat in mind... but hopefully me and her will last...
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tell ur mother. she wans u to marry a PRC or a malay.
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look for a viet girl
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Originally posted by eviljustice:tell ur mother. she wans u to marry a PRC or a malay.
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Hi TS,
PRC or Blangadesh
They are all mother's son/daughters.
Do you respect the Blangadesh cleaner who probably cleans your block or office toilet? Do you respect the PRC who drove the bus for you or any of your family members?
If you go to other countries, people will look at you and say Singaporeans? Eee... materialistic. Always like to act class. Kiasu. Quitters. etc etc... How would you feel.
Quality of people should be determined by what they do and not what they are.
Of course when there are cases of Blangadesh who goes to Orchard road and molest women or PRC women cheating men of money or work as a sex industry worker all those stuffs, doesn't mean you can relax down all your guard against such possibilities. But as you said your gf and you are loving each other, meaning both of you can trust each other. Why bother about what people want to say if it's nonsense? It's your marriage you are talking about! Unless they are making real sense else it's not going to be healthy for your relationship between you and your gf. But also, it doesn't mean that you should not care about your mother. Loving your gf and being filial to your mother are 2 different issues.
When I got married with my wife, I was not given blessings by her dad. He was strongly against marrying his daughter to me. Even until today coming to 4 years after our marriage, he still doesn't recognise me as his son-in-law. But I remember to fulfill my duties as a husband to take care of my wife. She's my wife and my other partner. If I know what others say are nonsense why bother? -
hahahaha. What if she says 'malay. bangladeshi also can but cannot prc.'Originally posted by eviljustice:tell ur mother. she wans u to marry a PRC or a malay. -
U sounds like TS mum..Originally posted by dreamykite:I dont think it is good to take PRC gal as gf or wife. It is true that they are nice in buying people heart. But do you find the things they bought for you are usually cheap stuff from china. Nothing to be appreciate of. No doubt they are quite pretty and well make up, but dont think can be long term. They are just using you as a bridge for their PR here. Dont be so tian zhen
Or yr love rival is a chio bu PRC which u have no chance of winning her? -
thx alot MS... yea... i should not bother about wad other people had said... She is my gf... and probably my future wife... I will not allow this kind of gossips affect our relationship.. I will cherish her and this relationship...Originally posted by MS:Hi TS,
PRC or Blangadesh
They are all mother's son/daughters.
Do you respect the Blangadesh cleaner who probably cleans your block or office toilet? Do you respect the PRC who drove the bus for you or any of your family members?
If you go to other countries, people will look at you and say Singaporeans? Eee... materialistic. Always like to act class. Kiasu. Quitters. etc etc... How would you feel.
Quality of people should be determined by what they do and not what they are.
Of course when there are cases of Blangadesh who goes to Orchard road and molest women or PRC women cheating men of money or work as a sex industry worker all those stuffs, doesn't mean you can relax down all your guard against such possibilities. But as you said your gf and you are loving each other, meaning both of you can trust each other. Why bother about what people want to say if it's nonsense? It's your marriage you are talking about! Unless they are making real sense else it's not going to be healthy for your relationship between you and your gf. But also, it doesn't mean that you should not care about your mother. Loving your gf and being filial to your mother are 2 different issues.
When I got married with my wife, I was not given blessings by her dad. He was strongly against marrying his daughter to me. Even until today coming to 4 years after our marriage, he still doesn't recognise me as his son-in-law. But I remember to fulfill my duties as a husband to take care of my wife. She's my wife and my other partner. If I know what others say are nonsense why bother? -
you didnt mention somethin.... thus what i would like to ask is....
did ur dad says anything bout this matter?
i think it's the media that caused her mom to have this mentality (that all prcs are bad, slutty, etc....) -
I hate momsOriginally posted by troubledguy2006:hi there! I got this problem with my mum and my gf.. I have a gf, as stated in the topic, she is a PRC... she is just like any other normal gal... i find her less materialistic than most singaporean gals.. ( sorry for tat.. ) she is very caring towards me... and she bought things back for us( me and family), whenever she goes back to china for holiday or visit her parents... but problem is... my mum have a very strong biasedness against them... she insists that all PRC gals are bad... they are open minded, and they are cheap and sIutty... can u imagine tat? I dont dare to tell my gf all these... I afraid will break her heart... She treat my mum not bad... buying things for her whenever she come across soemthing nice or wad... but this is wad my mum did to her.. sigh... And my mum insists i break off with her now and find a singaporean gf... But I love my gf very much... and she does too.. den i told her tat some singaporeans gals are materialistic too..she dont believe... she thought singaporean are 100 % good... unlike PRC girls... and when i try to talk to my mum tat she got buy things for us whenever she went back to china, she will say tat the PRC are good in buying people's heart... and she will not fall for tat... Sometimes I really very fed up with my mum... for wad she had said... i know she do this for my own good, as she is afraid me will be cheated... but... isn't she abit too far too? oh ya... btw me and my gf is together for 6 mths... i know it is short... I will let the time be the judge... hopefully my mum's opinion will change... can anyone here give me some opinion? -
Then u might as well transform back into a sperm, ungrateful leh ....u think very easy to give birth huhOriginally posted by kecang_puteh:I hate moms
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You really must cherish this relationship with her, I AJ here give you my blessing, I myself not that so lucky like you.... hahaha
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I think no matter what, still must exercise some caution.
Also i think way too early for you to say that both of you might end up getting married.
I tend to be on your mother's side. I don't think her worries are unfounded.
Being foreigners, whether PRC or not, they want to know a local first to familiarise themselves to the surroundings. Once they are familiar liao (say after few years), then i feel they will show true colours loh.. -
maybe you should state what your gf has done for you?Originally posted by troubledguy2006:thx alot MS... yea... i should not bother about wad other people had said... She is my gf... and probably my future wife... I will not allow this kind of gossips affect our relationship.. I will cherish her and this relationship...
maybe the forum people will change their minds? -
Love is blind. At this stage, the girlfriend is everything great one.
Your mom eat salt more than you eat rice. If she says that, she must have her reason. There must be something that she sees which you don't, cuz you're madly in love now. -
Can't blame your mum.. PRC gal create some problem to the life of the local...
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Have you visited her hometown with her yet ?
If not, I suggest you spend about 1 week or so there.
Visit her family and friends.
Because there are cases I know, where the gf actually has a PRC bf waiting for her.
Got one even worst, she actually has a spouse but lied to my friend.
When my friend confronted her, she cried a lake full of tears and begged my friend not to leave her.
I know you want to trust her, but better safe than sorry. You can trust her after you confirm she has no hanky panky back home.
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I know when you are in love, it is like the two of you gainst the world. I hate to say this but I believe mother's know best. It is a woman's instinct. Or maybe you are a Mommy's boy and she can't accept that you have a woman that you love more than her, so base human nature is to strike down your competitor with whatever means possible.
remember your mother carried you in her womb for 9 months and gave birth to you. She will always be your mother even after she die. But this girl could leave you for another man if she has a change of heart. Human emotions no matter what colour, race or creed is the same. You have only been together for 6 months so you are currently in the infatuation stage. Than you will reach the period where she wants to control your movements or vice versa, there are certain charecter flaws that you can't stand about each other, money issues etc which will lead to quarrels this is known as the reality stage where everything is not just peaches and honey. If you can through this stage than it will be the going for the long haul phase in which it could eventually lead to marriage or not.
But your mother will still be your mother from the time you open your eyes till the time you close it to go to sleep. Offending your mother is like offending God himself. Think about it. -
The ball's in your court. Do you want to do the right thing or the most pleasing thing?