I need help on this...
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Er guyz. . . can u guyz help me..im in a stuck ass situation...
Heres the Situation. . .
My best friend and god sis(once be4 till recently) have been steady for almost 3 yrs. But they quarrel alot and my best friend dont treat her really well.. sometimes yes sometimes no.. so one of tis day.. my so called "god sis" asked me to meet her as she wanna talk to me bout her relationship thingy and to relax. But something happen and we started to like each other. Btw, my friend is a possesive guy and always want to win, thats his attitude, and when my so called "god sis" wanted to break up with him, he threaten her telling her he will die if she wants to break..
AM i wrong in this situation? -
You are wrong if you step in now, let them settle the issue between themselves now. The girl must decide for herself what is good for her...Originally posted by MrAlson:Er guyz. . . can u guyz help me..im in a stuck ass situation...
Heres the Situation. . .
My best friend and god sis(once be4 till recently) have been steady for almost 3 yrs. But they quarrel alot and my best friend dont treat her really well.. sometimes yes sometimes no.. so one of tis day.. my so called "god sis" asked me to meet her as she wanna talk to me bout her relationship thingy and to relax. But something happen and we started to like each other. Btw, my friend is a possesive guy and always want to win, thats his attitude, and when my so called "god sis" wanted to break up with him, he threaten her telling her he will die if she wants to break..
AM i wrong in this situation?
Anyway you got try talking to your best friend or not? Try to understand his point of view too instead of listening to the girl only. At least you cannot be accused of being an a**hole.. -
Between honor and fondness for your god sister, it must had been hard to make a decision.
Actually in my humble opinion, there isn't any extreme right nor wrong. It is very much a grey situation that you're in.
I feel that unless you deliberately seduce or lead your god sister to like you and all, then it's unhonorable. But well, if your conscience is clear. Then prepare to face the music like a man, be honest to your friend and be a friend enough to support and lead him out of this nasty situation.
Last piece of advice is that do not be impulsive - remember every decision, every step you choose to take will trigger another series of events. So take time to ponder and ponder and ponder till you're sure about things.
Good luck with your situation, may you have enough wisdom and calm to go through this little obstacle in life.
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Either u choose to be a gd buddy or gd boyfriend.
I would murder u if I were the guy. Absolute betrayal of trust and speaks badly of your personal integrity. -
I think that is an overstatement. I believe that if the TS is able to be honest and tactful enough, the problem can be solved.Originally posted by Rock^Star:Either u choose to be a gd buddy or gd boyfriend.
I would murder u if I were the guy. Absolute betrayal of trust and speaks badly of your personal integrity.
Of course, in the event TS decided to come clean with his friend about the god sis and all. His friend would be hurt, upset and even angry. Then again, which break up is easy?
Lets not bash TS for being a betrayer or such. The mutual liking for each other between TS and his god sister is rather innocent. If TS has the intention to play a friend out, he wouldn't be troubled over the situation at all.
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Far from bashing TS, I'm giving him the perspective from the guy....the rest is up to him.Originally posted by Detached:I think that is an overstatement. I believe that if the TS is able to be honest and tactful enough, the problem can be solved.
Of course, in the event TS decided to come clean with his friend about the god sis and all. His friend would be hurt, upset and even angry. Then again, which break up is easy?
Lets not bash TS for being a betrayer or such. The mutual liking for each other between TS and his god sister is rather innocent. If TS has the intention to play a friend out, he wouldn't be troubled over the situation at all.
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This is painfulOriginally posted by Rock^Star:Absolute betrayal of trust and speaks badly of your personal integrity.
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i call that a loser.. tell ur godsis ask him to die. another loser gone will make a better placeOriginally posted by MrAlson:Er guyz. . . can u guyz help me..im in a stuck ass situation...
Heres the Situation. . .
My best friend and god sis(once be4 till recently) have been steady for almost 3 yrs. But they quarrel alot and my best friend dont treat her really well.. sometimes yes sometimes no.. so one of tis day.. my so called "god sis" asked me to meet her as she wanna talk to me bout her relationship thingy and to relax. But something happen and we started to like each other. Btw, my friend is a possesive guy and always want to win, thats his attitude, and when my so called "god sis" wanted to break up with him, he threaten her telling her he will die if she wants to break..
AM i wrong in this situation? -
Er im really stuck . . . my buddy still don't know bout tis thing.. and im wondering when i should continue or not.. i know im in the wrong.. but .. im reallt stuck up..
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Ask the girl to come clean with your good friend and tell him you're the new guy in her life.
Then ------> you lose a good friend.
Ask the girl to break with the bf and go steady with you but secret.
Then -------> you won't feel at peace either
Let go of girl and counsel the guy
Then --------> you can wait for a later time to chase the girl again. You keep your gd friend and may get the girl later.