sorry, think you replied before i finish my story.. continue to read on...Originally posted by greengoblin:I not old bird but maybe I say something lah...since she never do anything to you and you dun wish to make yourself enemy as well to those otehr fren of urs...best thing is just dun chup into the matter...this mess is created by her...she and those people have to sort it out themselves...if you join in only make things worse.
my 2¢ worth
Well, of course we must cherish our loved ones, but you were saying your friends did many pple wrong, right? Maybe this is her just deserts, but hope I'm not being sarcastic. I pity your friend's plight now too, however, what she can do now is just to love her closed ones even more. Joanne, you as a friend should encourage her to be stronger too...Originally posted by joanne:and although both of them are still rather young, she being 21 yrs old, and him being 26 years old, they planned to get married in the near future and apply for aussie PR. things were really going fine for them, and they are really in love for all these 2 years.. they co-habitated and share a car etc. they shared a life, to be exact.
yesterday, i received an email from her that i cried upon reading it. she told me that her bf, had a car crash, and it was such a bad accident that he broke his spine, and will be wheelchair bound for the rest of his life. not only that, he lost his memory completely, and he cannot even move.. all these happened after he woke up from a coma of 5 days.. the driver of the other car died in the accident..
right now, the guy is completely "blank out".. he cannot recognise anyone, including his parents and my fren. he cannot even move a bit, except for his head upon the help of a machine..
my fren cried and cried everyday, and i just feel so hurt as i can imagine the pain. she was all alone when all these happened, her parents were not there for her, and she was all alone. i wished i was there for her, but i couldnt as i got to go to sch.
right now, it's been 2 months, and the guy has returned to sg with his parents. the guy's mum does update my fren every 2 days with the latest news.. but the guy doesnt seems to be any better..
my fren really love this guy, and she wants to take care of him for the whole life despite his current state. she said that they used to have fun and laughter, love and joy, and she doesnt want to abandon him..
i do support her in this way, but i do hope that she can be strong. i am v afraid that she will not be able to take all these stress and pressure.. she is still alone there.. i wish i can take a flight down and give her a hug...
this post is for all, to remind you all to treasure your love ones, before it is too late..in the last sentence of her email to me, she mentioned that the last words she ever said to him before he left the house for classes was:"See you at home after school, love you..." she was glad that at least she told him that she loves him, before he doesnt even recognise her...![]()
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"Things be, be not... Not that Not's a loss....?"Originally posted by joanne:hi all, thanks for the reply. well, at this point, i just feel so so sorry for her, and i wish i was there in aussie with her. but of cos' i cant be there. anyway, all those that happened in the past abt what ppl told me abt her are really true, becos' those frens that told me abt her are my really really close frens, and in fact, they are once much closer to her than i do. they were childhood frens, and it's obvious that after she did them wrong, they shun from her. therefore, there is no reason that they would want to backstab her.
however, at this moment, i wouldn't want to approach her regarding those things.. it doesnt really matter right now i supposed. i just hope that she can be strong.
right now, she is really feeling terrible. she wants to be with that guy but that guy is right now back in sg with his parents taking care of him but my fren is still in aussie schooling.. she wants to be there yet she can't..
actually i posted this just to get this out from my heart, cos' i am really upset for her too. wanna hear some of your views. thanks for all who replied.
Originally posted by bigdeal:if you got nothign better to say, i will appreciate if you can save your useless remarks to yourself.
[b]Rest In Peace[/b]
Originally posted by Devil1976:Continuing to be her friend should means ALOT to her.... If you like, you can just find out from her why she did those things in the past.... But I reckon it shouldn't really matter for now, afterall, it's in the past... And for god's sake, I don't even know if those things people said about her really happened.... Even if they did perhaps she'd got her own reasons for doing them...? Her story, their stories, it's up to you to believe... But take it like a pinch of salt... Most probably you won't really be able to find out the 'truth' anyway? What's more they're already the past... Not directly linked to you....
If you wanna know more just ask her, but don't push her... If not just drop the case.... Meanwhile just continue to give her your support as a friend.... I BELIEVE your support is VITAL to her 'present existence'.... You can never imagine how IMPORTANT you might be to her at this very moment....? Whatever's in the past, whatever might happens in the future... I say she's YOUR FRIEND now..?What else can I teach you which you already not know to help her? Just keep up the good work for now...?