Dear Starlite,
well 1st, would like to let you know that no problem in this world can be stoopid, i mean, there's always a root to everyproblem, and in order to get an answer, we shall take a look at yr problem 1 by 1 and tackle them accordingly. I might not give the best advise ard but i sure hope it helps in one way or another.
I know how its feels when u know/think that yr dad actually have a woman outside, its just like yr bf had another gf, the feeling is the same. But then think of it on the positive side, does yr dad really kept her as a mistress? or was he just 'fen chang zuo xi'? i believe many guys do that ....... for the trills n kicks from such act. And the good thing is, at least he never break up the family cos of that woman. I admit its tough for yr mother to know of this and not to do anything, but they are adults? As children, we can only observe 1st. Dun be rush, let yr mum handle the things, i am sure she's in a better position. And only voice out when things out of control.
2nd, its not yr fault that yr EQ, or should i say yr relations with friends are not good. Some pple just lack this kind of things naturally. I do understand that its really hurting that after planning everything, pple put u 'aeroplane' or have to cancel it. I dreaded this feeling too........ guess u already know yrself where some of the problems lie liao, i mean, maybe cos u all doesn't have much common topic ard. As the chinese says 'hua bu tou ji pang ju duo', meaning to say that if there's no common topic ard, chances are the communication will break down easily. Not saying that its yr fault though. Ever realise that actually topic this kind of things flow smoothly? I mean, if u tried hard to come out with a topic, its quite 'mian qiang'. No matter how quiet a person is, there are bound to be 1 or 2 friends that u can talk freely to (like the guy u like in the past, not yr current bf). Maybe u can try chatting it in real life instead of through the net. Its different, and u will learn how to handle this type of situation. Like i have say, maybe they find going out quite bore due to the lack of topic (my apologises if its hurting). Maybe these pple aren't consider yr friend also, to me at least. Don't worry, u will open up slowly.Sorry to be naggy but i repeat, try communication in real life, u will learn. Pick up the skill slowly.
My advise for yr 3rd problem is, if u dun really like yr current bf, be fair to him. Let him know, no use hanging to a 'hopeless' relationship, ending hurting both parties. Quarreling everyday will only worsen things, affect yr mood etc, so what's the point? The reason abt liking another guy in the past, sorry to say is very lame, i mean if u still like him, why go steady with yr current bf? Its no difference from cheating, like what yr dad done to yr mum (Again, hopefully it doesn't sound hush to u). He's already in the past, put him behind you, u r only still schooling, many more yrs ahead of you. And sadly to say, he's the same, cheating you too, playing you out. This should also teach u a lesson, relationship from net doesn't help. If u had approach him in life, maybe things will be diff........ Be more carful next time who u r more 'open' to, for some might not be able to 'take it'. Generally, wanna say that yr love life is in a mess, just like a jigsaw puzzle, many missing parts/factors. U need time and patient to find what u want, don't rush, for u r still young. Only be with the person if u really like him, i am sure the feeling will be diff, and he can make up a lot of what u have loss.
Well maybe my advise doesn't really fit into yr problems totally, really but i do hope it helps, in one way or another. it does not sound stoopid, in fact its good to write it out, as i think no1's there to hear u grumble. Don't feel sad, there are still pple who cares ard. But the important thing is don't let all these change yr personality, you are what you are, and that's what makes u unique in this world.
Errrmmm..... sorry if i sounds like an old man, haha....... cos i believe u r errrmmmmm in yr teens yr? ard 16? Pple at yr age really need a lot of attention, from friends and family. Hereby, wishing u all the best~! Good luck.