Nuts over him
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My problem is a common one i guess. I bet you've heard it many times before, but the tension is killing me. I like a guy, who doesn't like me back.
I've tried everything to get over my crush. From giving myself hours of pep talks to beating up my pillow.
Basically, he is my close friend's cousin. We knew each other since last year but only became close since this year june. For some strange reason, he went out with me and my close friends, one fateful june day. Then after that, he got my number from my close friend and called me up.
From that day forth, we have never stopped talking. We have talked almost every night for about 1 to 2 hours. He did give me some FALSE hints on his feelings which i OBVIOUSLY misunderstood.
Because recently, he also started talking to another close friend of mine. Let's call her Sandy. Sandy invited him along to a trip in UK for ONE WHOLE MONTH and from then on, he's been talking about their holiday plans. How he's gonna try and sneak into her room at night.... don't worry, just for the company. How he's gonna hold her hand hug her like a bf hugs a gf. How they are gonna have so much fun... blah blah blah! He's now talking to her everyday and he's beginning to talk lesser to me.
We used to be quite close, but i really think he likes her as he keeps on telling me that he talks with her alot and how fun she is to talk to. Granted that she really cute and friendly, she really attracts guys like bees to honey. i am totally jealous now but there is no way in hell i am gonna admit that to him.
And of all things, i had to develop this stupid crush on him when he has no interest whatsoever in me! I can't eat, i can't sleep, and worst of all i can't study when my prelims are , not around the corner, but right in front of me!
What can i do to get over this crush. Ever time i think of them holding hands and giggling and hugging close together, i feel like tying both of them up and sending one to the north pole and the other to the south pole. Argh! I hope their hands freeze together in UK and then they can hold hands forever! Ok, i think i'd better stop before the webpage admin. reports me to the mental hospital. it felt good to get this of my chest, but i would appreciate some response if you didn't die of boredom while reading this. Thank you. -
Your problem is a tough one... and you just can't seem to get enough of him. There are 2 solutions to your problems as far as my eyes can see...
1) Tell him what you told us...and see the outcome...
or
2) Forget him for both your sake and his...
the choice is yours...but remember, your decision will have its both ups and downs...
Take care... and wish you the best of luck...
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Forbidden Love - ¤ß¨Æ
The stretch of my memory is rolling as a snowball accumulating regret. My imagination of warmth is elusive. Walking towards a desert with no colour, I'm wishing as I'm looking into an ocean of still tears. Tinted and cracked plaster is what's left in me.
I hear suffocated memories and looking at forgotten voices. My hopes all lowly lit,closing in,the edge of Darkness?
The answer falling; the muscles strained,the eyes died; the wounds wide.
Essence of Innocence, Dragonlance -
U really had a knotty problem. Think it's only bcos u r totally disgusted and jealous abt the other girl "Sandy".
Juz to tell u an old saying, what is yours is yours and what not meant to be yours won't b, understood? If that guy u said really gets along so well with the other girl and ignore u, it may b a blessing instead 'cos this type of guy dun give gals any sense of security, agreed?
Anyway, juz forget abt him for the time being and see if anyone better comes along. Moreover, u should concentrate more on your studies now, u should b a sec4 student now, rite? ICQ me at 62617763 if u wanna talk. I'm 8 yrs older than u, trust my advice...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Agreed... But I think it's just becoz he has a new interest on the new ger. It's normal for guys.. or rather for ost pple.. like u got something new.. something exciting.. u tends to prefer it.. Remember when u were young... u always carry ur new toy ard, and throw the old ones aside?? it's the same idea here.Originally posted by mikegk_76:If that guy u said really gets along so well with the other girl and ignore u, it may b a blessing instead 'cos this type of guy dun give gals any sense of security, agreed?
However, from wat u say he only knew this ger for a short while and he possess such lustful and undesirable tots... I'm pretty sure if he's wif u, chance are that he is bound up to no good.... I think it's better not to gif him a chance at all..
Sorryz maybe I'm a little harsh in this.. but I think the situation really p****ed me off. sorryz...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Thanks for ur response and advice, now that the uk trip as off, he has suddenly regained interest in me. but i'm not gonna be anyone's substitute "toy". i'm gonna forget abt him because, he's not gonna get me into a good jc, studying hard will. Thanks again.
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Yup, u done rite this time, concentrate on your studies and all the best for admission into the best JC.Originally posted by Darling84:Thanks for ur response and advice, now that the uk trip as off, he has suddenly regained interest in me. but i'm not gonna be anyone's substitute "toy". i'm gonna forget abt him because, he's not gonna get me into a good jc, studying hard will. Thanks again.
Take care and have a nice day.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
That's a good ger... TO be able to think logically... It will help u to get out of trouble sometimes.. I'm really happy for u. Like wat u say, u r not anyone's substitute... and that is true. U deserve pple to treat u better.. Furthermore, studies are really more important to u now. If u need help in ur studies, u can always email me.Originally posted by Darling84:Thanks for ur response and advice, now that the uk trip as off, he has suddenly regained interest in me. but i'm not gonna be anyone's substitute "toy". i'm gonna forget abt him because, he's not gonna get me into a good jc, studying hard will. Thanks again.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
I am proud of you! *hehee* You made the right decision. = p
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Forbidden Love - ¤ß¨Æ
The stretch of my memory is rolling as a snowball accumulating regret. My imagination of warmth is elusive. Walking towards a desert with no colour, I'm wishing as I'm looking into an ocean of still tears. Tinted and cracked plaster is what's left in me.
I hear suffocated memories and looking at forgotten voices. My hopes all lowly lit,closing in,the edge of Darkness?
The answer falling; the muscles strained,the eyes died; the wounds wide.
Essence of Innocence, Dragonlance -
I wish i had ur courage and determination...for to forget someone whom you cherished so much is so hard...
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Ferret,Originally posted by Ferret:I wish i had ur courage and determination...for to forget someone whom you cherished so much is so hard...
U'r having problems too??
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
By the way... do any of u have any suggestions on how to get over a really bad crush??
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Dun think abt him/her?? hee hee... dun think so... but maybe u try putting everything at the back of ur mind and concentrate on ur work or studies.. I believe things will just dissappear.. But the sad part is that at the sight of him, or at the next conversation or outing with him/her, u will feel really bad, and u will have to start all over a again.Originally posted by Darling84:By the way... do any of u have any suggestions on how to get over a really bad crush??
Unless u r able to confront him, amd make him reject or accept. Then I think ur heart will settle down and stop thinking of him/her anymore. Coz I think it's will be already 'dead' if he rejects u... he ehe...
But if u r connecting this qn with the problem that u haf posted at the beginning of this discussion, I think the best way is still to throw things at urself to do. then u will begin to forget him, and as time goes by.. then feeling will be gone...
Then again u can try telling urself that he is ur dream guy/girl. and u wun want to spoil his image in ur heart. Becoz when both of u are together, u will begin to see the 'dark' or negative side of the person..
Actually that's wat I'm doing... I had a very bad crush for this ger since Pri 4, and till now when I'm 20, I still have feelings for her.. but I told myself that no matter wat happens, I will not ask her to be my gf, becoz I dun want to spoil her angelic image.. hee hee.. Dunno wat u all think...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
I dunno how to put it across also...Originally posted by Bear:Ferret,
U'r having problems too??
*sObz*
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WaHHAhahahHAHHAhhahHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAAHhahhHAHahha
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Slowly... slowly say... we got all the time... we can also get help from other pple by putting up a discussion here. Then againz if u wanna email me, pls feel free to do so at [email protected].. I'll try my best to help.... coz I never like to see pple unhappy or upset... 8-)Originally posted by Ferret:I dunno how to put it across also...
*sObz*
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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Cheer up, try thinking he might not be the one suitable for you.
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Thanks for your offer of help ....But I think I'd rather try to handle it myself, for it's only me myself who understands what's going on....And only me myself who has to go on with life...Originally posted by Bear:Slowly... slowly say... we got all the time... we can also get help from other pple by putting up a discussion here. Then againz if u wanna email me, pls feel free to do so at [email protected].. I'll try my best to help.... coz I never like to see pple unhappy or upset... 8-)
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well Ferret, watever u think u should do it, then do it. but remember, sometimes u will regret the things u never did more than the things u actually did.
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okie.. but I think of us here in sgfprums will be willing to help u ever need them.Originally posted by Ferret:Thanks for your offer of help ....But I think I'd rather try to handle it myself, for it's only me myself who understands what's going on....And only me myself who has to go on with life...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
*hugz hugz*Originally posted by Ferret:Thanks for your offer of help ....But I think I'd rather try to handle it myself, for it's only me myself who understands what's going on....And only me myself who has to go on with life...
i know what u r goin thru
cheer up lar..
everyone has their ups and downs in life...
juz like me..
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Well, really tough, but once u set your mind to it, u can do it loh. Time heals all wounds, this is very true. Think it's impossible to ask u to forget all abt this guy, but try keeping yourself occupied with schoolwork perhaps, and go out more with friends so that u had pple to talk to and will not even had the time to think about this bad "crush" of yours. Easier said than done, huh? But no harm giving it a try...Hope it's feasible...Find someone to talk to if u really feels lonely at times, ok, *WINK*Originally posted by Darling84:By the way... do any of u have any suggestions on how to get over a really bad crush??
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Cheer up my friend, no use getting all depressed over a guy. okay okay, your love of a lifetime or even just a crush ... But do go out and try to be happy ... brooding about it will get you no where ... take their advice and always stay happy +)
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The night is near and dawn is coming... I Lay awake on my bed thinking of you... I wonder ... when will we meet again ? When will we talk once more ? I Know my love to you is deep and true ... but i wonder how you feel for me ... -
Well, really tough, but once u set your mind to it, u can do it loh. Time heals all wounds, this is very true. Think it's impossible to ask u to forget all abt this guy, but try keeping yourself occupied with schoolwork perhaps, and go out more with friends so that u had pple to talk to and will not even had the time to think about this bad "crush" of yours. Easier said than done, huh? But no harm giving it a try...Hope it's feasible...Find someone to talk to if u really feels lonely at times, ok, *WINK*Originally posted by mikegk_76:[QUOTE]Originally posted by Darling84:
[b]By the way... do any of u have any suggestions on how to get over a really bad crush??
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I agree totally, everything is possible..if i can do it, so can U!! Have some faith in urself, it hurts badly, but ppl get hurt to grow up sometimes...
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam