What do you do when you're mad at yourself?
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got la. too long nvr go already.
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Why never go! They stopped letting you in ah?
kidding ahh.
Ok umm, I think the moderators can close this topic already.
Thanks a megabyte.
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u sponsor me la?
because i found more ways to have the same level of enjoyment. -
Take refuge in doing something to soothe that anger. Rejoice in the fact you are not mad at anyone else. If you have a certain belief in something, that can be your source of 'anger management'.
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I usually spend some quiet time sorting myself out. Anger doesn't solve anything but only zaps your energies...............
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you don't want to know.Originally posted by MooKu:As above. -
Originally posted by missqi:I guess it makes me feel better, and I pay penance for what I did wrong.
You don't actually pay for your deeds; probably more like numbing your senses with pain.
Please don't.
PM anyone in AA if you need a listening ear. I am sure they will lend you.
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That is only self pitying and self delusion that whatever you did, as long as you THINK you are punishing yourself to atone for it, it will be fine.Originally posted by missqi:I guess it makes me feel better, and I pay penance for what I did wrong.
That does NOT solve the problem. You still have not check your heart and learn from the issue.
Paying the price does NOT = to repentance.
Can you imagine how many times you have to hurt yourself just to nullify the penalty you did? Or how severe you have to do it if the penalty is BIG in your point of view? You can hurt yourself until you have 0 HP left and STILL it will NOT do justice to anyone. Not to the person you hurt? Not to the people around who loves you. Not even to yourself. You are only limiting yourself to what you REALLY can do to atone for what you did.
If you really think you cannot control your anger or what. Get a close person to whom you can account to. Every time you are upset by your anger, tell that person. Let that person help you in your process to control your anger or whatever else you think you should improve.
And hurting self is irresponsible. Because by doing so, you are also hurting the people who loves you. In that case you are committing more penalties than you think you are.
Unfortunately I am also aware of my stand and where I come from. I understand I am no one to you. I am no one to anybody here. My words can mean crap. Who am I to judge and comment? Yet I still say my piece because I care. Take for example when XshevchenkoX commented on something. I will tell him my views and help him because I care for him. Likewise you too when you commented on things, I try my best to 'help' you (if you want to see it that way).
A message to readers who think by hurting oneself, one can atone for something he/she/it did:
There are BETTER ways to atone for what you did. A simply 'sorry' is good enough. A smile can also make a day. A helping hand will tell the person you care. A simple conversation will show that the person is in your mind and thoughts. -
why would anyone be mad at themselves?
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I wouldnt DO porky anytime ..Originally posted by skid:I do like porky...keep to myself and try not to talk to anyone. -
Why not?Originally posted by kopiosatu:why would anyone be mad at themselves?
Several people have responded in this thread, and they have, at one point in time experienced that.
You can be mad at yourself for being stupid, for missing opportunities, for not waking up in time, for forgetting a loved one's birthday... -
Go on a holiday..
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i'll isolate myself, den hurt myself. and continue to isolate till i feel better
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Everyone has different ways of dealing with anger, and I have my own.
I am violent towards myself yes, but they leave no scars, and after that, I move on and stop being angry.
I think it is a very effective way to stop being angry with myself(especially), and nobody wants to try because of the pain.
Trust me, when you're mad at yourself, bite your finger till you can't take it anymore, or spray hot water on your privates for 20 seconds, or punish yourself by running up 30 floors twice and not resting when you're tired and even when you're dizzy, or if you have braces, re-schedule your next appointment asap to NOW if you can.
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I'll spend some quiet time by myself to sort myself out.
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listen to music.
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hmmm i dun think i've been mad at myself to the extent where i thought that i was mad at myself.Originally posted by MooKu:Why not?
Several people have responded in this thread, and they have, at one point in time experienced that.
You can be mad at yourself for being stupid, for missing opportunities, for not waking up in time, for forgetting a loved one's birthday...