Too much at stake?
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When you ex and you have plenty of mutual friends, friends who are really close to you both, but when things dont work out anymore, and you begin to see another guy, you have too much at stake?
sigh
Never thought that disclosing a relationship can be so stressful.
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Haiz..
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har?
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beri common.
You dont want to lose your friends.
Yet you want to include your new love into your circles of friends.
And the embraressment with your ex being still with the group. -
And to make matters worse, the new guy i am seeing is someone within the group.
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ok so?Originally posted by galfriend:And to make matters worse, the new guy i am seeing is someone within the group.
you make the decision, now you are whining
post at whinehouse...... -
Cheer up..
If you see relationship as a burden don't go for it...
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aiya, guang ming zheng da abit la. so what if u disclose?
u scared gossip izzit? -
K....understand. and if this new guy dont work out. You are definitely going to be ostracize from the group. correct?Originally posted by galfriend:And to make matters worse, the new guy i am seeing is someone within the group. -
also gotta be extra sensitive to everyone's feelings, making sure no one gets hurt or keeping discomfort to the lowest.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:K....understand. and if this new guy dont work out. You are definitely going to be ostracize from the group. correct? -
thats kinda hard to do.
especially in Singapore's small circle of people.
both of you might have to consider moving away from the group of friends and making other new friends. -
Worst thing now, ex is apologising and asking me to go back to him, to get married.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:thats kinda hard to do.
especially in Singapore's small circle of people.
both of you might have to consider moving away from the group of friends and making other new friends.
a past relationship of 5 years VS a new relationship of 2 weeks -
this is serious, my advice is you ought to think carefullyOriginally posted by galfriend:Worst thing now, ex is apologising and asking me to go back to him, to get married.
a past relationship of 5 years VS a new relationship of 2 weeks -
Had friends in similar predicament before.Originally posted by galfriend:Worst thing now, ex is apologising and asking me to go back to him, to get married.
a past relationship of 5 years VS a new relationship of 2 weeks
It could be
a) ex knows about the new relationship and is apologising to get you back to spite friend?
b) ex really realised his mistake and geniunely wants you back?
c) ex is jealous and doing so to stir shitz among your group of friends to ostracise you and new boyfriend out of the group: The kind of stuffs to paint you both as traitors? He has no intention of getting back with you.
What are your options? What do you think is more possible and what do you plan for your future? -
Really depends how serious u with your new beau....as well as can you see the future in the new r/s
Ultimately, there's no right or wrong in the love game as you have the sole responsibility of your own happiness and the consequences of your decision.
I am not in a position to give uneducated/uninformed advice, but I can say you must follow...your path of your heart but guided by light in your head.
Good luck and best wishes.... -
hmmm
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i try not to be attached to someone i know from my close frens..
and after break up, i try not to get attached to his fren..
dun wana complicate matters. -
Sometimes its better to keep a low profile...at least...you won't get so much problems if both of you do break up...
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I know how that feels. Try having a close friend who lives 2 mins away, and an EX who lives 5 minutes away from you.Originally posted by galfriend:When you ex and you have plenty of mutual friends, friends who are really close to you both, but when things dont work out anymore, and you begin to see another guy, you have too much at stake?
sigh
Never thought that disclosing a relationship can be so stressful.
Not forgetting the place you frequent to be like your surroundings. *SIGH* -
wow, now tats complicated man..Originally posted by galfriend:Worst thing now, ex is apologising and asking me to go back to him, to get married.
a past relationship of 5 years VS a new relationship of 2 weeks -
i will take the risk to go for new r/s. Dont go back to walk the old path.Originally posted by Cool-gal:wow, now tats complicated man.. -
I would take the easier way...
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wait 9-12 months?? Cos that's how long the "re-bound" period usually takes, at least for some of my friends.
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im not tat adventurous as u.Originally posted by Quinsy:i will take the risk to go for new r/s. Dont go back to walk the old path.
i would rather not having the chances of being caught-in-between.
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Why hesitate after you've made your decision? i.e., leaving your ex-boyfriend?
If you've made up your mind then, make up your mind now.
Dragging this on does not benefit any of you. Why are you hesitating?
If you still have feelings with your ex-boyfriend, why did you break up with him at first?