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Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
Why am i feeling this way?
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You're still living in your memories...
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u cant forgive urself for wad u have done to her or u cant forget abt it?
well, learn from it and keep ur head up. -
I cant forgive myself. I still fell angry abt what i did .Originally posted by Pitot:u cant forgive urself for wad u have done to her or u cant forget abt it?
well, learn from it and keep ur head up. -
But isn't it like too late for that?...And i feel that you should move on...and not drag that prob with you wherever you go?Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:I cant forgive myself. I still fell angry abt what i did .
Cheer up =) -
Who initiated the breakup?Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:I cant forgive myself. I still fell angry abt what i did .
You're not letting go of your past; Humans all make mistakes. If you feel guilty, then learn from them.
Don't do it again. Cherish your next girlfriend. Living in your shadow wouldn't help you live the life you should be living. -
yea, wads done cannot be undone.
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Harsh advice.
Let it go. It is over. She has a BF now.
Learn from your mistake and treat your next GF better.
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it's normal. u'll get used to it, then u're free again.
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Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
Why am i feeling this way? 
Your thoughts are regressing; they are considering the 'what if'.
Your mind is telling you 'Hey Scania, if you didn't treat her this way, things might not turn out like that you know?' There might be a little anguish residing in your emotions, as you probably deemed that you are also capable of treating your woman right and shower her with a little bit more love.
But the fact is that more often than not, we won't know what's wrong until we witness dire consequences and regret. Or at times, it's not just some things which you may not have done well.
Perhaps your fate with her has ended and what's left of this seeming 'glorious civilization' is a 'book' inscribed with of all its 'history'. The 'city' is gone no doubt, but what you could do is to study its 'downfall' and see if you could create a bigger and stronger 'civilization' in the future.
Understand what you may not have done well and work to improve upon it the next time round. No point crying out spilled milk as it stagnant our growth. Muster a little courage and strike out.
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becoz u have grown up.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
Why am i feeling this way?
u learnt something out of it, dun u?
treat ur next gf better n avoid ur mistakes.
smile. -
just one word..........regretOriginally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
Why am i feeling this way?
what's done cannot be undone, somehow deep down u still have feelings & that's the reason why u feel this way.
yes, all you can do now is to be happy for her.......when u do get into another relationship, do not commit the same mistake again, in the meantime, cheer up & look around -
you dont need to really ponder too much about why.
It's because u are human and u have got feelings, no matter what u all were once together... but time will slowly fade all those unpleasant feelings
Move on bah..and make sure u dont repeat ur mistakes in ur next r/s.... -
cos you are human and have feelings..Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
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It normal to feel this way... and think about the "what if's" ...what if you hadn't done certain things, hadn't broke up...things would perhaps still be good... Also maybe it's a bit hard to swallow sometimes, as we're all human, that her new bf could be better, more suited to her than you... I'm not saying you're bad or anything, it's just normal to make such comparison.
Nevertheless, when you meet a better gf, one who is more suited to you and who loves you dearly and whom you love, you will see this break-up as a blessing.
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if not for what u did, she wouldn't have such a good bf now..
thank god u two broke up. -
So what exactly did you do?Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
Why am i feeling this way? -
kind of a harsh statement ... But it was a fact too .Originally posted by browniebaobao:if not for what u did, she wouldn't have such a good bf now..
thank god u two broke up. -
Keep the first part. Delete the last part.
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my sentiments exactly.Originally posted by browniebaobao:if not for what u did, she wouldn't have such a good bf now..
thank god u two broke up.
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i said that hopefully u will feel better.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:kind of a harsh statement ... But it was a fact too .
if u din break up with her, would she be so xing fu now? -
Haha i did feel better. Thx arh !Originally posted by browniebaobao:i said that hopefully u will feel better.
if u din break up with her, would she be so xing fu now? -
you're welcome.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Haha i did feel better. Thx arh ! 
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because you are only human?Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Greetings ! I've been feeling like this for quite a few days already . Here is what i felt.
My ex GF has a new BF now. Im feeling happy for her, since she found someone whom she really love and its very obvious to me that the guy loves her alot too . I really happy for her.
However , whenever i see her happy being with her BF together , i cant stop myself from thinking about what i had done in the past that hurt her . I felt angry and upset about what i had done to her in the past. I just simply cant forgive myself about what i had done . I keep forcing myself to think that its all in the past and now that she has a nicer BF than me , i should just feel happy for her . But i got really upset whenever i sees her and the memory and images of what i had done just came back all of a sudden . I just keep bugging me.
Why am i feeling this way?
the first thing you must do is to accept yourself for what you are...
the second thing to do is to find ways to cope, like posting your "issue" in AA
the last thing you must do is find a new gf to hug whenever you are feeling down...
and BTW whenever you are feeling down, eat something and go to sleep... it helps. -
Sleep? No way ! LOL ... I on the com and play com . An hour later feeling good and fresh !Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:
and BTW whenever you are feeling down, eat something and go to sleep... it helps.
Thx for the advice btw.