Commitment in a relationship.
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A man, 30 years old. lets say is A.
Has a Girlfren named B.
Both of them in a relationship.
One day, A met a girl C, 20 years old online and they agrees to go out for a movie.
C and A involved themselves in a little hanky panky during & after a movie.
C later annouces to the world about that hanky panky.
Is B advised to continue staying with A even after knowing the hanky panky?
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its up to B...Originally posted by viciouskitty74:A man, 30 years old. lets say is A.
Has a Girlfren named B.
Both of them in a relationship.
One day, A met a girl C, 20 years old online and they agrees to go out for a movie.
C and A involved themselves in a little hanky panky during & after a movie.
C later annouces to the world about that hanky panky.
Is B advised to continue staying with A even after knowing the hanky panky?
Whats your advise against this kind of infidelity? -
if D continues to stir this, D will be banned w/o warning
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Why is this stirring? Pray tell your understanding of what it actually means?Originally posted by FireIce:if D continues to stir this, D will be banned w/o warning -
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here we go again
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why suddenly rake up the past....?
i wonder who is B. -
Nobody states any name.Originally posted by Y_Shun:why suddenly rake up the past....?
i wonder who is B.
But they are real person, in real life, happening all around us to our friends and families.
Lets say it happens to your friend.
Whats do you think should be your response for that friend? -
This forum should change its name to "The offend me and I will crush you completely forum".
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Hanky Panky called infidelity? Oh dear....
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LOL.....Originally posted by curiousOrange:This forum should change its name to "The offend me and I will crush you completely forum".
If I name names, and put in additional scenerios. Will it help to re-direct you to another situation? -
DOriginally posted by FireIce:if D continues to stir this, D will be banned w/o warning -
K. heres the story.
Mr Chuan, 30 years old, Finance Consultant with a local aviation company.
He got a galfren, Derrie, age 23, a small business owner selling prepack spices.
Chuan & Derrie knows each other on the internet and is officially a couple now.
Chuan continues to trawls the internet and dated this 20 year old student Jeanna for a movie.
during the movie, Chuan made a move on Jenna and they subsequently continued their hanky panky at Chuan's car.
Jenna later announces to the internet group she was at that she and Chuan had sex in his car.
Chuan appears remorseful to the group. And the group felt that because they know Chuan and Derrie personally, and that Jenna is a newbie. So they decide to comfort and pressure Derrie to stick with her man. At the same time, exerting pressures of Jeanna, flamming her too, at the internet group. -
Well... its up to B and only B. Nobody else.
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Its totally entirely up to B.
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If you folks like to think that your world only revolves around your small internet group of people and imagining other people's slights against your own little world.
treating your own little misadventures as your highlights of your life.
Who am i to argue? -
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wat B wanna do is none of D's, E's, F's, G's, H's, I's, J's and so on business...
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plights not slights.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:If you folks like to think that your world only revolves around your small internet group of people and imagining other people's slights against your own little world.
treating your own little misadventures as your highlights of your life.
Who am i to argue?
Then again, this is YOUR forum. Who am i to argue huh? -
Yep.
Its entirely up to B.
But seeing the peer pressure of the group, to conform her to their choices to keep the relationship.
Is that internet group friends providing her a choice as 'her choice'?
Whats your defination to commitments in a relationship if this scenerios does happens to you?
If you are a guy, and your galfren does that to you in a reverse situation?
How many of us has advised people with similiar situations as above. But the advise was adjusted to suit the persons reading it? -
Slights, not plights.Originally posted by curiousOrange:plights not slights.
Then again, this is YOUR forum. Who am i to argue huh?
v. treat disrepectfully, ignore. from The little oxford dictionary. -
agree.Originally posted by ditzy:Its totally entirely up to B.
but what happens if some people are preventing that options to B.
By claiming stirring, and in protection, tells B not to listen to differing opinions and choice other then the protector? -
How are they preventing?Originally posted by viciouskitty74:agree.
but what happens if some people are preventing that options to B.
By claiming stirring, and in protection, tells B not to listen to differing opinions and choice other then the protector? Are they pointing a loaded gun at B? Still up to B to make the call right? -
Lets just say, B is very confused now.Originally posted by ditzy:How are they preventing? Are they pointing a loaded gun at B? Still up to B to make the call right?
And the internet group of people, are her friends that she knew, are also friends with A (Chuan).
A (Chuan) appears remorseful. And the internet friends are believing his remorse.
B (Derrie) dont know what to do. She is hurt at the betrayal and feeling lost, doesnt want to give up her relationship as yet.
But the internet group of people. While supporting her telling her: 'We will abide by your decision, though I think its a waste that you will let this relationship close because of this one small incident. And he appears remorseful!'
What are the boundaries then. Should such infidelities are accepted.
What is considered infidelities? The touch here, touch there, but no sex is okay. Or is sex suppose to be the final word on infidelity?
And if so, is it a waste to drop a relationship on such grounds? -
And did that little oxford dictionary of yours tell you D is a sh!t stirrer?Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Slights, not plights.
v. treat disrepectfully, ignore. from The little oxford dictionary.