Should i break up?
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Currently I'm working, my so call gf in Aust studying for her degree together with 2 guys (They were her poly mate & one of them has been waiting for her for 5 years) They have been living under one roof for the past 8 months now. Who should i trust? The first 3 months abroad she called me at least once a week. But after that her excuse was "can't find me so it is better for me to call her". Claims to be busy wif her school work and stuff. Shld i wait for her? R shld i venture beyond and find someone else in SG. This guy who has been waiting for her for past 5 yrs now. I got her jus after 2 weeks of dating and we been together for almost 1 1/2 yrs now. In terms of looks and height i'm much superior to him but in terms of patience and caring he knows her more then i do. Afterall 5 yrs of waiting ain't tht short. She always expects me to pay for her a decent meals even when i myself ain't eating. Even till today. There are times i feel she is comparing me to her ex who drives a car and 5 yrs older then me. During our first few dates after we are together, she lied to me about going out with this older guy behind my back even though they were through. Even until now he still contact her even though she knows i don't like it. No one of her guy friends knows my existence. Not even that old guy. She would never tell her guy friend about me as a bf just assuming those who seen me with her shld know. She has this habit of getting very irritated when i happen to steal a look at girls. Even worst even when i'm not looking at gers jus looking straight on the street. A girl pass by infront of me and she told me off:" Why u look at girls for wht?". Tht spoilt the day. I've already told her tht she is my one and only and there is no one else in my life except her alot of TIMES. And yet her ans is:"If i'm the only one why do u hve to look? If u look means u hve lost interest in me and wnts to get another gf." This i can tolerate but wht i can't tolerate is she still keeps in contact with ther old guy (27 to be exact, i'm 24, they been together for jus 1 yr but as u see he sign on, got car, she waited for him for 1 yr to return from studies and yet i'm wif her while after he came back from aust she would cry to me and ask me why does he treat her so cold when I'M HER BF!!) Rite now i'm just working not knowing wht would happen when she cums back. Shld i hold on to this relationship? R shld i face the truth and move on? Cum on guys and girls with 2 guys staying with her under one roof There is little chance of her not "doing" with them? Even a slight petting could be possible? Girls will get lonely out there? As for me making money is my top priority rite now. Wht shld i do?
(I post to alot of times to you guys but no one respond)
Recently i jus say this ger at mech master at paya lebar working at the counter. Interested in her as she (I'm not sure either) show sign in me. It happen when i wore only once (as i'm alwasy wearing casually) my cousin polo tee. Quite fitting for me as my pecs and nipples poping out. (Is jus a fact) i feel tht she might notice me more often then usual, jus a feeling. As she now tok to me more then a little while when i used to jus xchange my coins for arcade coins, playing cs. Jus a feeling or m i being too overly sensitive becos of my lonelyness? Sorry guys if this takes a while to read. Jus join this forum not long and i wish to get some advice on it. Thks again -
Since you say you haf post lots of times n not even one ppl reply you,i reply you now...keke... erm...think that ger dunn really love you ..maybe can say she want the both of you..you noe the feeling of being chase,i dunn suggest break up,she complain that she cant get through your line then you try calling her instead if she dunn tok to you at least she dunn haf any excuse rgt?Then you say when you two went out she accuse you of looking at other gers, maybe can say most gers are like that,jealous you noe want attention on ownself..regarding the ger you haf look upon,try to be friend with her first loh,no harm noeing my friends rgt if you feel that she reallly the one for you rather than your gerfriend ,at least can go for her ..
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i dont see why not, afterall you seems to have lost interest and confidence in her.
but dont just breakup without knowing where were the hiccups, maybe she has explainations to your woes. both of your need to talk.
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dun break man....juz relac and see what's else is up her sleves.. and in the mean time, you yourself should not lay barren also, that is, jus let yourself out and have fun with other girls.
keep your options wide open, and even if something is really up her sleves, there's always a back door for you to retreat. of cus i dun mean go and fool around la....
dun feel guilty of yourself with thoughts like being unfaithful to her or what, you're not..you're only keeping a larger social circle...
sometimes, we've got to deal with bitches the way they deserve it. (of cus i dun mean yours)
only my 2 cents worth -
Originally posted by bigdeal:u must know that paya lebar mechmaster counter gals very flirt 1 leh... especially a few that doll themselves macam japanese
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yah is true man...tink they hardly can settle down one loh..Originally posted by bigdeal:u must know that paya lebar mechmaster counter gals very flirt 1 leh... especially a few that doll themselves macam japanese 
Givache 
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Huh ur friends? u work there? at paya lebar? Hey first of all it is not cheap calling my so call gf in Aust Cost me $300++ in jus 1 month time. Another thing after serious consideration, i guess the guys r rite. The gers there meet countless number of guys (yandao, bengs n machos) Somemore i look 29 i doubt she would be interested. I think she jus want the attention. Saw tis tall ah beng toking to her ju last week wif hp exchange liao so i dun think she interested in me. Anyway abt my gf thks guys for being here, she never call since the last call i made 1 month back. I doubt she will ever call me if i dun call her. She'll b back tis Dec with her 2 poly mates. They used to be my friends now seeing them together wif her felt disgusted especially the one who hve been waiting for her since poly. I actually hug him when he told me there would b nothing between him n my gf. And yet my gf told me he ask her if they could start out after their graduate from aust. Shld i jus let her go, i'm a lonely man, making friends is not on my list, making money is (but i'm not doing tht well either, my business jus flop now working for people). Wht shld i do?Originally posted by poolgal:Since you say you haf post lots of times n not even one ppl reply you,i reply you now...keke... erm...think that ger dunn really love you ..maybe can say she want the both of you..you noe the feeling of being chase,i dunn suggest break up,she complain that she cant get through your line then you try calling her instead if she dunn tok to you at least she dunn haf any excuse rgt?Then you say when you two went out she accuse you of looking at other gers, maybe can say most gers are like that,jealous you noe want attention on ownself..regarding the ger you haf look upon,try to be friend with her first loh,no harm noeing my friends rgt if you feel that she reallly the one for you rather than your gerfriend ,at least can go for her .. -
sweet and simple.....i wont advise u but i'll ask u think think abt tisOriginally posted by karter:Huh ur friends? u work there? at paya lebar? Hey first of all it is not cheap calling my so call gf in Aust Cost me $300++ in jus 1 month time. Another thing after serious consideration, i guess the guys r rite. The gers there meet countless number of guys (yandao, bengs n machos) Somemore i look 29 i doubt she would be interested. I think she jus want the attention. Saw tis tall ah beng toking to her ju last week wif hp exchange liao so i dun think she interested in me. Anyway abt my gf thks guys for being here, she never call since the last call i made 1 month back. I doubt she will ever call me if i dun call her. She'll b back tis Dec with her 2 poly mates. They used to be my friends now seeing them together wif her felt disgusted especially the one who hve been waiting for her since poly. I actually hug him when he told me there would b nothing between him n my gf. And yet my gf told me he ask her if they could start out after their graduate from aust. Shld i jus let her go, i'm a lonely man, making friends is not on my list, making money is (but i'm not doing tht well either, my business jus flop now working for people). Wht shld i do?
no trust = ???
since u said until like tis alreadi wat do u meant? wat do u realli wan fr us to say? patch wit her? b nice to her?
hmm....i guess not la...
since u r able to say her till like dat...it shows u hav no trust in her alreadi so if there's no trust wat does it show??
i wont say much alreadi....think abt tis...there's a glass in front of u..u break it...and it shatters....so even if u r gonna put it back piece by piece....how long izzit gonna take? do u have the patience? if yes....my next question...can u mend the glass back to normal without any cracks??
think abt it man -
hey man u got a job......rejoice!! remember its a recession now lehOriginally posted by karter:Shld i jus let her go, i'm a lonely man, making friends is not on my list, making money is (but i'm not doing tht well either, my business jus flop now working for people). Wht shld i do? -
hmm
seems like quite a familiar case
hmm
sometimes, u have to trust loh, because of not being there, and knowing that they stay under the same roof, can make u think wildly....
if her actions dun really make it seemlike she's having u as bf in her mind...perhaps u shld have a talk wif her...
from what i can see, ur gf i's a possesive gf, and yet, she still goes out wif her ex, and hang ard guys that she like....
most prob she craves attention.... and perhaps u do not give her enuf attention..
that's y she bothers so much abt u, whenever u look at other gers..
to break, is of course never the no. 1 choice..., however.... this u have to see for urself, if things get really bad... u juz have to have a nice talk wif her... and perhaps things can sort out by themselves...
and abt the ger in the mechmaster... if u still have faith, and trust in ur gf, u shldn't go after that ger yet.... be fair to urself, be fair to the ger working there, and be fair to ur gf....
hope this helps