Something to ponder.
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When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option? -
You do not "trust" the bystander... when you ask for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th ..... opinions.Originally posted by Capricieux:When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option?
What you are doing is you are trying to get as many alternatives viewpoints as possible because people are limited and not omniscient.
After a while, you will find that you have all the possible alternatives and will stop asking because you get the same opinions over and over again...
Then you can weigh the various options and make a decision and suffer or enjoy the consequences... of your decisions.... -
You cannot guarantee that in the course of providing second and third opinions, people are objective.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:You do not "trust" the bystander... when you ask for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th ..... opinions.
What you are doing is you are trying to get as many alternatives viewpoints as possible because people are limited and not omniscient.
After a while, you will find that you have all the possible alternatives and will stop asking because you get the same opinions over and over again...
Then you can weigh the various options and make a decision and suffer or enjoy the consequences... of your decisions....
You also cannot guarantee that you will sway towards one or two opinions.
Albeit the ultimate decision lies with yourself, you have been influenced.
But I'm not implying people should hence keep the decision-making process entirely to themselves. -
if u cant sort it out then better seek opinion and see wat others hv to say.. after listening then ur mind calm down n u go do the final evaluation urself...Originally posted by Capricieux:When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option? -
Don't take 100% of what others said. Ultimately you are the one involved not them. However, its good to listen to what others think, as a reference because for the very same reason of you being the one involved, you might not see something that is obvious.
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It's better and easier for yourself to manage the problems and woes that you face in a relationship...Originally posted by Capricieux:When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option?
No one knows, understands, believes, concerns your partner better than yourself...
Sometimes for non-relationship issues, you can of course seek for opinions, but only take it as reference...
There's no plug-and-play solutions in relationships, and solutions only come from your hope in resolving it yourself ultimately... -
There r some comment ppl or even god will not say eg. break.
Many a time thing happen cannot be explain in detail, only you can recall what had happen with his/her expression/reaction/tone/hint and rethink it back slowly and find some cue. R/s is a indirect interaction that come with feeling and love that only u can feel it and nobody else can, unless yr friend is very close to u both. -
sometimes... i feel that when we have r/s problem, b4 we even seek for advises or opinions from a 3rd party... we have aldy make up our minds... just that we want someone to support our decision...
but it can also be... someone to change our decision with valid, strong points... -
Originally posted by Capricieux:When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option?
One should always seek wisdom in words, not generic answers.
One should seek sense of direction, not an ushered route.
Cheers -
Maybe in the end we need to learn to take responsibility for our own decisions. =|
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bystander can see certain issues u can't, but at the same time, they can't see the perspective u view.Originally posted by Capricieux:When you bump into relationship woes, is it really better to seek a second, a third, a fourth and so on, opinion?
Or is it better to listen to your own heart?
Some people may say the situation looks clearer to a bystander. But can you really trust the bystander? And are you sure you will not blame him/her for his/her input if anything goes wrong?
Could be that some people are truly at a loss. But why not stop and think what is it your heart desires, and think harder if pursuance is a sensible option?
its not about trusting other ppl's opinions anot but u have to find out your own balance. whatever other people say, its only as a reference, not a commandment.
balance, dude, u gotta balance it. -
Hehe it's not really me. My little cousin was crying about it after she ended a rocky relationship with her bf last week, and it got me thinking a while.Originally posted by Ito_^:bystander can see certain issues u can't, but at the same time, they can't see the perspective u view.
its not about trusting other ppl's opinions anot but u have to find out your own balance. whatever other people say, its only as a reference, not a commandment.
balance, dude, u gotta balance it. -
ur little cousin is how little?Originally posted by Capricieux:Hehe it's not really me. My little cousin was crying about it after she ended a rocky relationship with her bf last week, and it got me thinking a while.
intro leh. 
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It all depends...i think some people just find other people to listen to their whining...which is...seriously...waste of time and energy...
If people could question themselves...they won't need to opinions of others right?