Nothing to Do at home
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Hello,
This is my first topic in AA. Have read alot of AA thread ever since i have join sgforums. Well, now its my turn to write now. Not really into BGR though
Well, i used to be a gamer, ever since i was 13 (sec 1). I began gaming when i got to know my new classmates from my secondary school. Ever since, i can be call as a gamer, as i play in almost all rpg game in both PSx and SS Console. I even play alot of arcade games, from racing game, shooting game to fighting games. Therefore, i was always the Gaming Boi in my friend's eyes. I have also stuck to Online game at the age of 17, but luckily... I only get addicted to a few games like Pristontale and TsOnline. Even during my Ns, i continue to play game! Either arcade, or home console. As for my BGR, I still have a few girlfriend before, even though I spend most of my time gaming. They understand that gaming is my life and still stay together with me. But they are all history, cause we already broke up. Ok, here comes the Main Point.
Problem#1
I do not know when it starts to happen... but i think i am starting to get tired of playing games, but not giving up. How do i explain this... Example, i am still keen on getting the latest Console (ps3) getting the latest PC Game (C&C3) and also upgrading my com to the highest when possible for perfection in gaming mmorpg. But when i start to play the game i wanted, i grew tired easily... Its not physically tired, its mentally. I can't concentrade on the game that i wanted to play. Therefore, As new games came out, i Still buy them. But they are all played once and left in the shelf. There are still alot of titles that i didn't even touch them yet... lolx.
After my work, i can't find things to do. Try to play game but grew tired. Nothing to surf from Internet also. Not interested in Tv Shows. Thats the problem...How can i kill time?
Problem#2
This is a BGR problem loh, I have this girlfriend that have been together for 3 years coming October. We do not quarrel nor fight. We do not have any problem with each other as well, no major arguements. The problem i THINK i am facing is... lack of topics to talk, lack of activites to do during weekend. And, there are times that I had alot of things to say to her. But when i see her, i juz don't have the feeling to say or explain what ever i wan to say. Don't know whats wrong with me...How can i improve myself?
Problem#3
Now the last problem is with my temper. I can say that i have a short and hot temper. I can get upset and angry when irritated. I can list a very good example... My girlfriend's english's level is not that high, and when she ask me how to spell or whats the maining of a quite basic english word... I will feel irritated about how come she don't know such a basic easy word. And my temper will come and i will not explain to her. Strange of me rite? I have always told myself to change my temper, but its hard for me to control. I do not wish to regret in future, due to my bad temper. How can i control my temple?
Well, thx guys for those who have spend sometime reading all my 3 problems.
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nothing agony about your post,
simple, exercise self control on your time spent on the net, divert your attention on something else,
you probably is going through a low period with your girlfriend, perhaps, you could find something to do together with your girlfriend
if you are hot temper or trigger happy, have you serve finished your NS? before you are going to blow your temper, tell yourself, there is nothing in this world, is needed for me to throw my temper.
if you really want to find something to kill time, then why not, do something useful, buy yourself a pet or do some charity work, or maybe spend more time with your girlfriend, or when she is gone, you will regret that you didn't spend more time with her at all -
Problem #1Originally posted by CasperX:Hello,
Problem#1
I do not know when it starts to happen... but i think i am starting to get tired of playing games, but not giving up. How do i explain this... Example, i am still keen on getting the latest Console (ps3) getting the latest PC Game (C&C3) and also upgrading my com to the highest when possible for perfection in gaming mmorpg. But when i start to play the game i wanted, i grew tired easily... Its not physically tired, its mentally. I can't concentrade on the game that i wanted to play. Therefore, As new games came out, i Still buy them. But they are all played once and left in the shelf. There are still alot of titles that i didn't even touch them yet... lolx.
After my work, i can't find things to do. Try to play game but grew tired. Nothing to surf from Internet also. Not interested in Tv Shows. Thats the problem...How can i kill time?
Problem#2
This is a BGR problem loh, I have this girlfriend that have been together for 3 years coming October. We do not quarrel nor fight. We do not have any problem with each other as well, no major arguements. The problem i THINK i am facing is... lack of topics to talk, lack of activites to do during weekend. And, there are times that I had alot of things to say to her. But when i see her, i juz don't have the feeling to say or explain what ever i wan to say. Don't know whats wrong with me...How can i improve myself?
Problem#3
Now the last problem is with my temper. I can say that i have a short and hot temper. I can get upset and angry when irritated. I can list a very good example... My girlfriend's english's level is not that high, and when she ask me how to spell or whats the maining of a quite basic english word... I will feel irritated about how come she don't know such a basic easy word. And my temper will come and i will not explain to her. Strange of me rite? I have always told myself to change my temper, but its hard for me to control. I do not wish to regret in future, due to my bad temper. How can i control my temple?
Well, thx guys for those who have spend sometime reading all my 3 problems.
Cheers~
You can get burnt out playing games (this coming from a gamer. I need breaks from WoW too)
Take a break and go out
Spend time with your gf or something
Read
Take up a hobby like maybe model cars or robots
Problem #2
Read the newspaper for topics to talk about
Learn something new together
Go to a new resturant or a new park together
Watch a movie and talk about it
Just spend time bonding
Problem #3
Is yr temper due to too much gaming
i get irritated when ppl talk to me in the midst of a game too
If not count to 3 and tell yourself to be more patient coz she is afterall trying to improve herself -
1) good dat u've grown tired of it...
at least u cn save money by not buyin anymore games...
2) is there any common hobby dat u 2 do together?
there is somethin that bonds the 2 of u...
3) try to accept her flaw...
either u did or u didn't know when u went on with her...
so just accept it...
she's afterall still tryin to learn rite?
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Maybe to you, its not agony cause you are not the one experiencing it. I guess you mis-read, i don't spend time much time on the net.Originally posted by allentyb:
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nothing agony about your post,
simple, exercise self control on your time spent on the net, divert your attention on something else,
you probably is going through a low period with your girlfriend, perhaps, you could find something to do together with your girlfriend
if you are hot temper or trigger happy, have you serve finished your NS? before you are going to blow your temper, tell yourself, there is nothing in this world, is needed for me to throw my temper.
if you really want to find something to kill time, then why not, do something useful, buy yourself a pet or do some charity work, or maybe spend more time with your girlfriend, or when she is gone, you will regret that you didn't spend more time with her at all
I am trying to find something to do, and u still ask me to find something to do. lolx.
I have long finish my NS 3 years ago >.> And i am still trying to control my temper.
Its a waste of money in getting a pet and i have totally no interest in a pet. Are there Charity Work at night? We only meet during weekends.
Its not that i need a break or something, I still have the interest in playing games, but my heart can't go on. I hate books and to me, keeping model cars or robots are a waste of space and money. Thats my IMO.Originally posted by elindra:Problem #1
You can get burnt out playing games (this coming from a gamer. I need breaks from WoW too)
Take a break and go out
Spend time with your gf or something
Read
Take up a hobby like maybe model cars or robots
Problem #2
Read the newspaper for topics to talk about
Learn something new together
Go to a new resturant or a new park together
Watch a movie and talk about it
Just spend time bonding
Problem #3
Is yr temper due to too much gaming
i get irritated when ppl talk to me in the midst of a game too
If not count to 3 and tell yourself to be more patient coz she is afterall trying to improve herself
Ya, we do read up newspaper. There ain't new resturant or park in singapore you know, we ran out of places~ No good shows to watch for movies
I don't know if the past gaming have created my current temper or not, cause i don't game much now but my temper is still the same persistance. I will try the count to 3 method.
I have grown tired of games, but not my interest. The major problem is i still continue to buy new titles and console. Upgrading of com for gaming but i am not playing them @_@~Originally posted by RiverFoX:1) good dat u've grown tired of it...
at least u cn save money by not buyin anymore games...
2) is there any common hobby dat u 2 do together?
there is somethin that bonds the 2 of u...
3) try to accept her flaw...
either u did or u didn't know when u went on with her...
so just accept it...
she's afterall still tryin to learn rite?
No, we don't have a common hobby.
Ya... I accept her flaw but i juz can't control myself
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how about going on a short trip overseas, maybe nearby countries? bring your gf along too.
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Since nothing works how about going for a road trip?Originally posted by CasperX:I have grown tired of games, but not my interest. The major problem is i still continue to buy new titles and console. Upgrading of com for gaming but i am not playing them @_@~
No, we don't have a common hobby.
Ya... I accept her flaw but i juz can't control myself -
Write love letters to her..explain all in thereOriginally posted by CasperX:Problem#1
I do not know when it starts to happen... but i think i am starting to get tired of playing games, but not giving up. How do i explain this... Example, i am still keen on getting the latest Console (ps3) getting the latest PC Game (C&C3) and also upgrading my com to the highest when possible for perfection in gaming mmorpg. But when i start to play the game i wanted, i grew tired easily... Its not physically tired, its mentally. I can't concentrade on the game that i wanted to play. Therefore, As new games came out, i Still buy them. But they are all played once and left in the shelf. There are still alot of titles that i didn't even touch them yet... lolx.
After my work, i can't find things to do. Try to play game but grew tired. Nothing to surf from Internet also. Not interested in Tv Shows. Thats the problem...How can i kill time?
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Try engaging in sports? soccer, basketball etc.
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Problem#2
This is a BGR problem loh, I have this girlfriend that have been together for 3 years coming October. We do not quarrel nor fight. We do not have any problem with each other as well, no major arguements. The problem i THINK i am facing is... lack of topics to talk, lack of activites to do during weekend. And, there are times that I had alot of things to say to her. But when i see her, i juz don't have the feeling to say or explain what ever i wan to say. Don't know whats wrong with me...How can i improve myself?
buy her an electronic dictionary.Problem#3
Now the last problem is with my temper. I can say that i have a short and hot temper. I can get upset and angry when irritated. I can list a very good example... My girlfriend's english's level is not that high, and when she ask me how to spell or whats the maining of a quite basic english word... I will feel irritated about how come she don't know such a basic easy word. And my temper will come and i will not explain to her. Strange of me rite? I have always told myself to change my temper, but its hard for me to control. I do not wish to regret in future, due to my bad temper. How can i control my temple? -
We don't have the time for a short trip, working and studying makes us not free for a trip.Originally posted by huiz:how about going on a short trip overseas, maybe nearby countries? bring your gf along too.
I am spending my weekend with my girlfriends, where to play soccer and basketball during the nite? (After work)Originally posted by 0°C_Serenade:Try engaging in sports? soccer, basketball etc.
I try emailing, but I don't know how to write, even though i know how to write :SOriginally posted by 0°C_Serenade:Write love letters to her..explain all in there
It seems you mislead yourself somewhere, its not about her english... Its my temper.Originally posted by 0°C_Serenade:buy her an electronic dictionary -
hmm. i think gaming has affected u ba. first, i suggest u control and cut down on gaming. den u will realise all other problems will be solved. this is a domino effect =)
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I suggest you stop playing game and maybe just get a pt job. Gaming too much hurts your brain.
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Oh no~ you guys did not read properly or i did not express well myself. hmmm
I have already stop gaming (not totally though) I can't concentrade on a game, when i start playing a new/old game, i will juz play and stop very soon. Its like those... san fen zhong ri du. U know? Despite this problem, i am still continuing to purchase new release games...
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one of the reason u are short temper is becos of gaming, all the killing and fighting makes u flare up easily in real life, try to go out more often so that u have less time to touch the comp and ur addicition will be lesser.
Set a goal in life, u are at a phase where u don't know wat to do becos u have not goals in mind. Set a goal, like wan to earn $x amount of money or become a CEO of a company and work towards it, u will then live a more fulfilling live. Period. -
nth to do? no topic rite? teach her english
1 tthing settle all 3 prob
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not even free to go malaysia or nearby islands? for half a day during weekends?Originally posted by CasperX:We don't have the time for a short trip, working and studying makes us not free for a trip.
by the way, what type of activities do you like? eg activities that:
- make you move and sweat?
- make you think?
- simply let you enjoy, dont need to think too much?
- need patience? gives you a sense of accomplishment upon completion?
- need to do hands-on work?
if you can tell us, it would better for us to suggest activities that you can do.... -
Adios to the guy with agony.... juz my 5cent worth of advice.....
Problem#1 - solution : com upgrades r nvr ending...buy 1 gd 1..last it for 3 yrs...den bury it... same for games...buy cheong 1 .....den bury it once ure sick of it... no pt getting console ...unless u get smth interactive like nintendo wii...can play games with ur gf....
Problem#2 - Solution : get to noe ur gf better...like so call 'unlearn n relearn' wat her likes n dislikes..... @ least she'll get to noe dat ure putting in effort to understand her...
Problem#3 : this 1 ...really up to u ...nt body can change u ....bt u can n will learn to ctrl ur temper 1 .... -
Me still play arcade game..VF4 tekken 5.. KOF... etc.Originally posted by CasperX:Hello,
.Even during my Ns, i continue to play game! Either arcade, or home console.
and i am 28.
so is that a problem?
i dun think so..
each have his /her own hobby.
some ppl can spend hours on golf,
soccer. blogging... etc.
but i find myself settle for gaming..
and my wife also join me in arcade also.
once in a while.
as for nothing to do at home.
how about just open ur door and get out of it..
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shi fu! i also KOF~ cheap lor KOF in camp...20 cents nia....Originally posted by spycampers:Me still play arcade game..VF4 tekken 5.. KOF... etc.
and i am 28.
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0.0 your personalities and mine are exactly the same except for the age and the gf part.
The way i changed my temper is after my gf broke up with me. After that break up i've not only changed my temper i had changed how i treasure my gf.
I am not asking you to get a breakup or whatsoever just trying to say if you don't start to know your gf more and when it really disastrous. You'll cry uptill today i still miss her =( The phrase time will heal, it doesn't it will numb you make you forget things, eventually you will still remember them. -
find activties to participate =D
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You're just jaded. Go into hibernation.
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TS also play C&C3!
hmM~ play all you want!. -
hm. she's innocent. rmb tat.
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dun be a bastard. treat ur gf well. My mum is uneducated too but my dad treats her well.
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Problem#1
This very normal.
As you grow older. Your priority changes. Now you have other distractions in life.
Take this light heartedly. ok?
Gaming is like s e x .
Gaming is a pleasure.
When you first started, it was a thrill, very pleasureable.
You wanna do it everyday, you commit time to do it.
After a while, you stop committing time to it.
You only do it when you have the time. It becomes a leisure.
It's not that you don't like it , it's not that you don't find pleasure doing it.
It's just, you grew out of the initial stages of this pleasureable activity. Now you do it leisurely.
So, very normal.
Problem#2
Lack of topic is common for all relationship.
How many topics can one think of in a life time ?
I mean, you can repeat the same topic over and over again. But it will get boring.
But take heart, a women don't need a chatter box to make her happy.
Sometimes spending quiet time with her alone is good enough.
Just don't abandon her and go do stuff on your own too often.
You want her to be your g/f because you want companionship.
You are her b/f because she wants your companionship.
Problem #3
You are starting to take your girlfriend for granted.
Women are easy to please. Just don't threat her like your mother.
Your mother will tolerate your nonsense no matter what.
But your girlfriend will leave you if you treat her bad enough.
She will also feel hurt when you belittle her.
She will also feel frustrated when she feels her boyfriend don't respect her.
Just remember, whenever you lose your temper on your girlfriend.
You are essentially stabbing a knife in her heart.
Now ask yourself, do you really want to hurt her ?