she wants to immigrate to other countries...
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me and my gf plans to ROM next yr but a few weeks ago she decided she wants to immigrate to either Australia or New Zealand within the next 2 yrs!!
But my plan is to immigrate in 5 or 10 yrs' time. I dunno what to do now. She is very determined and refuses to accept the 5 yr and 10 yr plan idea. Any ways that i can try to convinced her to accept my idea?
I feel that 2 yrs is too fast and besides my family, career and frens are all here. I need time to plan. I love her a lot but she wants a break up if i dun accept her idea.
wat shld i do now?
i'm lost...
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hmm mayb u tell her it too fast lor u still nid time to plan everytin lor... juz tell her u wana plan & make sure verytin goes fine so dat wen u migrate u wum hv any prob,u wan everytin to b comfortable..Originally posted by dreamer:me and my gf plans to ROM next yr but a few weeks ago she decided she wants to immigrate to either Australia or New Zealand within the next 2 yrs!!
But my plan is to immigrate in 5 or 10 yrs' time. I dunno what to do now. She is very determined and refuses to accept the 5 yr and 10 yr plan idea. Any ways that i can try to convinced her to accept my idea?
I feel that 2 yrs is too fast and besides my family, career and frens are all here. I need time to plan. I love her a lot but she wants a break up if i dun accept her idea.
wat shld i do now?
i'm lost...
Help...:=(
i tin she fear 5yrs is too long u might change ur idea of not mirgrate...mayb hw abt u cheng to 3 yrs? tell her 3yrs lor i tin juz a yr i tin she wum mind 1 lar
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the thing is i dun wish to leave s'pore so soon......
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hmm den wen u wana leave spore? mayb to her 5yrs is too long.. mayb u & her can cum up wif a time agreement lor..Originally posted by dreamer:the thing is i dun wish to leave s'pore so soon......
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that's funny. you 2 are about to get married or issit engaged at ROM soon.. but, on such a small topic about the differences in years to migrate, she can suggest to break up suddenly? you 2 are about to share vows for life.. and such a trivial topic can lead to a break up?
you should consider twice and talk to your girl. she needs to set her priorities right. why is she running away from singapore so quickly? unless you have the funds waiting for you, or the other countries opening their arms wide open waiting for you.. -
because she dun like s'pore anymore. i too feel her decision to immigrate is too harsh and i have no intention to leave at all initially...Originally posted by Dolce Vita:that's funny. you 2 are about to get married or issit engaged at ROM soon.. but, on such a small topic about the differences in years to migrate, she can suggest to break up suddenly? you 2 are about to share vows for life.. and such a trivial topic can lead to a break up?
you should consider twice and talk to your girl. she needs to set her priorities right. why is she running away from singapore so quickly? unless you have the funds waiting for you, or the other countries opening their arms wide open waiting for you..
i felt that i have been 'forced' to immigrate to be wif her...
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no, to begin with, you two are going to be wed! oh my god, you don't let her dictate such things as and when she likes.. if she likes, she want go migrate.. does it mean if she is unhappy about you, you two will just divorce *touch wood*? it sounds abit harsh and thoughtless kinda decision. doesn't she have any family members here or what?
pardon me.. she sounds abit childish in my opinion. -
tell her if bo pian break up loh... make her come to her senses.
be a stayer not a quitter.
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Agreed wif Dolce Vita - u 2 are gonna be spending the rest of ur lives together. If no 2-way communcation or compromise very difficult to live together lar.
Talk to her again
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if u reli being force i guess even if u migrate wif her u wum b happy at all mayb u becum worse..u might hate her or angry wif her & tis eventually will lead to weak bonding & preharps breakup.. mayb u shld tell her hw u feel juz let her knw u dun reli 1 2 migrate lar.. if u nv say u will regret in future.. dat quite sadOriginally posted by dreamer:because she dun like s'pore anymore. i too feel her decision to immigrate is too harsh and i have no intention to leave at all initially...
i felt that i have been 'forced' to immigrate to be wif her...
is this 'healthy'?
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Are you sure that the 2 of ur are really suitable for marriage or even think abt that at this point of time.Originally posted by dreamer:I feel that 2 yrs is too fast and besides my family, career and frens are all here. I need time to plan. I love her a lot but she wants a break up if i dun accept her idea.
wat shld i do now?
i'm lost...
Help...:=( -
hey ar.. you sound should check out the sydneyguy question. maybe you or your girlfriend can meet him up sydney. i feel many girl including i want to immigrate overseas
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i like singapore to a certain extent i guess..
my family and friends are all here.
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haha, u think want to migrate then can migrate so easily and so fast meh? migration involves sooooo much to do, and it's not something that can be done in one two weeks..
you got to wait for the delay with the procedure from the SIR, and form the country you want to migrate too.. i think in the end, even if she insist on migrating, she might have to wait for another few years... so dun worry lah!
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maybe it is easier to marry an australian singaporean chinese ar
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have a chat with her...make her understand...after much time being together and even going to ROM, i dun think she will break it of so easily...both u you juz need some understanding...frankly it is not easy to immigrat like what joanne has stated...i doubt u will be even given citizenship within 5 yrs...less to say for 2 yrs...
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precisely...sometime she juz dun take into consideration my feeling. if i say no...she will break up wof me cos she says no future as she defintely wants to migrate. From her point of view, she conclude that i choose my parents instead of her....SIGH!!Originally posted by Si|verGer:if u reli being force i guess even if u migrate wif her u wum b happy at all mayb u becum worse..u might hate her or angry wif her & tis eventually will lead to weak bonding & preharps breakup.. mayb u shld tell her hw u feel juz let her knw u dun reli 1 2 migrate lar.. if u nv say u will regret in future.. dat quite sad
really dunno hos to handle her...:=(( -
i agree wif u totally!! she's dying to leave s'pore even if its 5 or more yrs later...she juz dun like s'pore anymore.Originally posted by joanne:haha, u think want to migrate then can migrate so easily and so fast meh? migration involves sooooo much to do, and it's not something that can be done in one two weeks..
you got to wait for the delay with the procedure from the SIR, and form the country you want to migrate too.. i think in the end, even if she insist on migrating, she might have to wait for another few years... so dun worry lah!
but i like s'pore... -
sigh...tok to her alr..but she is determined. Hard to convinced her, i'm lost!Originally posted by ]A[na-FennY:have a chat with her...make her understand...after much time being together and even going to ROM, i dun think she will break it of so easily...both u you juz need some understanding...frankly it is not easy to immigrat like what joanne has stated...i doubt u will be even given citizenship within 5 yrs...less to say for 2 yrs...
maybe its time for me to let go? :=( -
.. but i thought you 2 were getting married.
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that's serious stuff, for goodness sake. -
Simple Solution:
Both side compromise lah
leave in 2.5 yr or 3 yr time ?
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This is a little out of topic... I'm a little disturbed by the statement "she juz dun like s'pore anymore". What's revolting about Singapore? I would like to understand this a little more.Originally posted by dreamer:i agree wif u totally!! she's dying to leave s'pore even if its 5 or more yrs later...she juz dun like s'pore anymore.
but i like s'pore...
Dreamer, sorry but don't you feel a little disappointed that she is so willing to threaten breakup when there is differing opinion? This migration issue has a long term impact and I really feel that you mustn't compromise too much or decide too hastily.