Need help. [serious help]
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Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her? -
first of all, its none of your business
second of all, you like her, is it? and you must be jealous and furthermore, she is old enough to make her own decision, who is she mixing with?
and this is nothing serious at all
and this is her own life, she has the right to do whatever she wants, so mind your own business, you are not her parents, or related to her
as a friend, either you could comfort her, when she wake up from her lalalala dream, or annoy her
if your problem is so serious, then let me tell you something
i have a friend, who is already so negative in life, that she tells me, that she fantasize her mum death and she is a hikkomori and she doesn't know the meaning of life anymore, and she has suicide record
to be honest, mind your own business, if she realise that the guy is just fooling around with her, i am sure she will wake up her idea
and nowadays, teenage need to learn a hard lesson before they learn to grow up
this is just another form of jealously that you are showing, goodness, i think you are just darn 17 years old -
If you advice her and she refuse to listern what can you do.Originally posted by ShaoMing:Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her?
Is the same as if I advice you not to help her but I know you will.
It is the same thing, Remember this you can advice and help her see the truth but if she refuse to listern there is nothing you can do.
1) you are not her bf so your words will not mean a thing to her at all! -
Your girl friend is not of legal age yet.
Please let her parents know about this.
It is very obvious the 30+ guy is taking advantage of your friend.
If the guy do anything "wrong" with your friend, he is breaking the law.
If you are a true friend, you would protect your friend from becoming prey to such sick predators.
Do not delay. -
Legal age is 16 for the girls wat. Can already la.Originally posted by jojobeach:Your girl friend is not of legal age yet.
Please let her parents know about this.
It is very obvious the 30+ guy is taking advantage of your friend.
If the guy do anything "wrong" with your friend, he is breaking the law.
If you are a true friend, you would protect your friend from becoming prey to such sick predators.
Do not delay.
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let her be.
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advise her give her your best solution if nothing work
show her this thread =D -
Originally posted by ShaoMing:Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her?
Under Guidelines in Aunt Agony, try not to post people's problem. Furthermore, from the way I look at it, it doesn't really seemed like a problem to her.
Just do what you can as a friend, other than that, it depends on her own wisdom. Even if people post their valuable, well constructed advice/s regarding this situation, what's good of it if only YOU - not her - can read it?
Cheers -
she got feelings for this old man?
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no one can force her to go out with that guy wor..
if she really dun like it, she wun be going out with him liao. -
x2.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Under Guidelines in Aunt Agony, try not to post people's problem. Furthermore, from the way I look at it, it doesn't really seemed like a problem to her.
Just do what you can as a friend, other than that, it depends on her own wisdom. Even if people post their valuable, well constructed advice/s regarding this situation, what's good of it if only YOU - not her - can read it?
Cheers
if they almost did something wrong... that means your friend is willing at times rite? that could send the wrong signal.
You can say all you want... but for now... i guess it really depends on her. -
Advice part 2Originally posted by ShaoMing:Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her?
Just wondering have you asked her why is she so willing to go out with him?
1) she knows is dangerous but still want to go out with him? Strange?
2) Tell us more about the girl seems like you do not know her well. -
Hai~~~~sad to say there is nothing you can stop her from doing...Love is blind....The more you advise, the more she will felt that you are disturbing their relationship.....
Let her learn her lesson and she will keep this in her mind forever.....Either you learn your lesson in a easier way or a harder way..........Let the fate to herself to think...... -
Sometimes ppl just got to learn thru the hard way. The more you try to interfere the more she might hate you. So just keep cool and be by her side when necessary
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Originally posted by ShaoMing:
How to help your friend depends on you.
Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her?
1. Contact some of you and the girl's mutual friends and discuss how to convince her that this guy is a bastard. It is more convincing to let her listen to the opinions of those she believes to be neutral parties than yourself who has an interest in the girl.
2. If convincing her does not work, obtain concrete proof of the old guy's activities. e.g photo of him kissing another girl etc...
3. If she still stubbornly refuses to listen to reason, then show whatever photos/info you have obtained to her parents. All parents love their children and will usually take the necessary action to put and end to this. -
Its her decision how you gonna help..?Just let her do what she want if she like the guy then its her decisions...But if you Like Her just admit maybe i can give you some advice ...
And i dont see any problems maybe the guy also love her leh..?When they together maybe the guy will dump her gf?So its all Possible But Very likely you are jealous...
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wah biang eh, 30+ yrs old guy sianing a 17 yrs old girl, sg guys really very despo hor? i am speaking with the context that the 30+ guy is not going after true love, but lust itself.
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all i can say is...
some people have to learn the hard way.
trust me... she is enjoying herself, and enjoying herself far more because the guy is attached - there risk and uncertainty involved adds to it.
she knows full well what she is doing.
let her be. -
Knowing the man has a gf already and she still goes out with him? That shows what kind of character she is. Itchy and greedy. Itchy because waiting to get laid. Greedy because the man driving a car and giving her treats.Originally posted by ShaoMing:Hi people my first post here, fear not i'm not a clone.
Having a serious problem now, hope you guys can help me out.
I have a fren, a girl, this year 17+. Recently she just went out with the 30+ year old guy. This 30+ year old guy, is attached with another girl. But yet, this guy always drove his car all the way to find this girl and to offer to bring her out to eat and drink water and have a ride. but most sickening thing is here, the guy kissed my fren for a few times but my fren turned away from yet, also there are a few times both of them nearly did something wrong.
So people please advice me what i can do to save this girl i really dun wan to see her get hurt cause she will defitnetly be in the losing end, her friends and I had came out with a plan of finding her and advice to her properly but i really fear its useless! forumers please advice me what to do to prevent the guy to keep finding her?
So, your friend tells you about their outing eh? Even to the point of telling you the guy been kissing her and also to the point they almost do 'that' thing? If you two are that close do you really need help in telling her that 30 year old man was a pervert? And what is so pervasive with the behavior of the man when your friend literally asked for it.
Honestly, if she kena 'jiak' by the man, she deserved it. I don't have any pity for this type of girl who 'tam jiak tam lim'.
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she already knows that shes going out with a perpetual attached man, so she knows what shes getting into . it's her fault that she just ignores the end outcome of this relationship. so if something happens to her. you are not inclined to help, because you tried to help her and she blatantly disregards it.