Advice needed...urgent!
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Ok, it goes like this..
When I first came to this company, every morning, there will be a guy opening doors and letting me out of the lift first like a gentleman. I thought nothing of it as I thought he was just being courteous.
Recently, I felt lonely & I suddenly thought if this guy. So I searched my company's database & got hold of his company's number (he worked just next door to me, we r in a industrial bldg) & I called the company not knowing who wld answer my call & trying my luck.
Alas, he was the one that answered! I pretended to ask him how much it is for fixing the comp & he told me that he wld get back to me, so i gave him his number & i asked for his name, let's call him John. So I also gave him my name (he does nt know who am i yet, he didn't see my face yet) so i waited but no calls back, so i called again. This time is his friend who picked up & i pretended to hurry them up wif the cost charges & he told me the same, he wld get back to me.
No answer back to me, also.
But I didn't give up, so the next day I called them again and asked for John. Then he finally told me he dun do home based fixing, so i was thinking, ' oh, why didn't u told me so? why must drag & drag?' Anyways, I hanged up but I really wanted to know him so when lunch hr came, I called the no. again & was stammering all the way....
But he was good, he was coaxing me (so sweetly) to talk slowly..so i finally said something like, ' you wanna go lunch wif me?' Actually, I was hoping for the worst but surprisingly, he said 'yes' so readily & say ok we meet now & I was soooo elated!
ok, so fast forward to the lunch eating session..I was determined to drill him so I asked him from 'do you have a gf' to 'if any outings, pls call me!' Sad to say, he told he's attached but he seems to be lying..cause when he told me abt his things, he soo conveniently left out what he does wif his gf..weird. Anyways, he bought me a drink and I offered to pay but he said 'nah it's ok'Anyways, the only thing that he seemed to be not lying is that he's busy wif his work & school exams that's all.
So i got his hp no. & he got mine. After lunch ended & we go our separate ways, I smsed him saying if he thinks the canteen food is boring, i can help him taupau from the kopi tiam instead. He smsed back saying thanks, it's troublesome, no need, thanks anyways...
After I got his message, I did my work & a few hrs later, I smsed him saying if he needs somebody at his side, he can always call me up, ok dun stress you le..indirectly offering myself la in this case...then no reply was made frm his side.
After all these, whenever I see him, I avoided eye contact wif him & from my corner of my eye, he seems to be like staring at me..question is..
Shld I continue the chase or give up? -
let nature take its course
don't rush things bah........ -
Dunno. To me if i were him... You would seem like a stalker and perhaps he would not accept this romance because he thinks like me. Where got people do such thing one lor.
most people would think that there is no free lunches in this world. Something's not right. Let it take its course and maybe he would find that you are okay. -
1) Why do you like him so much?Originally posted by Coffee Gabriel:Ok, it goes like this..
When I first came to this company, every morning, there will be a guy opening doors and letting me out of the lift first like a gentleman. I thought nothing of it as I thought he was just being courteous.
Recently, I felt lonely & I suddenly thought if this guy. So I searched my company's database & got hold of his company's number (he worked just next door to me, we r in a industrial bldg) & I called the company not knowing who wld answer my call & trying my luck.
Alas, he was the one that answered! I pretended to ask him how much it is for fixing the comp & he told me that he wld get back to me, so i gave him his number & i asked for his name, let's call him John. So I also gave him my name (he does nt know who am i yet, he didn't see my face yet) so i waited but no calls back, so i called again. This time is his friend who picked up & i pretended to hurry them up wif the cost charges & he told me the same, he wld get back to me.
No answer back to me, also.
But I didn't give up, so the next day I called them again and asked for John. Then he finally told me he dun do home based fixing, so i was thinking, ' oh, why didn't u told me so? why must drag & drag?' Anyways, I hanged up but I really wanted to know him so when lunch hr came, I called the no. again & was stammering all the way....
But he was good, he was coaxing me (so sweetly) to talk slowly..so i finally said something like, ' you wanna go lunch wif me?' Actually, I was hoping for the worst but surprisingly, he said 'yes' so readily & say ok we meet now & I was soooo elated!
ok, so fast forward to the lunch eating session..I was determined to drill him so I asked him from 'do you have a gf' to 'if any outings, pls call me!' Sad to say, he told he's attached but he seems to be lying..cause when he told me abt his things, he soo conveniently left out what he does wif his gf..weird. Anyways, he bought me a drink and I offered to pay but he said 'nah it's ok'Anyways, the only thing that he seemed to be not lying is that he's busy wif his work & school exams that's all.
So i got his hp no. & he got mine. After lunch ended & we go our separate ways, I smsed him saying if he thinks the canteen food is boring, i can help him taupau from the kopi tiam instead. He smsed back saying thanks, it's troublesome, no need, thanks anyways...
After I got his message, I did my work & a few hrs later, I smsed him saying if he needs somebody at his side, he can always call me up, ok dun stress you le..indirectly offering myself la in this case...then no reply was made frm his side.
After all these, whenever I see him, I avoided eye contact wif him & from my corner of my eye, he seems to be like staring at me..question is..
Shld I continue the chase or give up?
a) looks?
b) cos he is a gentleman?
2) Do you have a bf before?
3) If I said he is not interested in you will you give up ? -
Originally posted by zeny:1) Why do you like him so much?
a) looks?--- I dunno..at first when I first saw him, I didn't think much of his looks..it's only when I kept seeing him, he looks ok to me
b) cos he is a gentleman? ---- Partly if nt mostly, yes
2) Do you have a bf before?----- nope
3) If I said he is not interested in you will you give up ?-----
Yes, I will, no point forcing.. -
Then i say he is not interested in you at all.Originally posted by Coffee Gabriel:
He just want to be friendly.
Thats all
If you look back at your actions, you will find that is only one sided.
My advice for you, be less pushy the next time you find a nice guy.
Guys do not like to be force.
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Ok..sure..anyways, I wld like to hear others ppl opinion too.Originally posted by zeny:Then i say he is not interested in you at all.
He just want to be friendly.
Thats all
If you look back at your actions, you will find that is only one sided.
My advice for you, be less pushy the next time you find a nice guy.
Guys do not like to be force. 
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why are you so desperate?
if u continue doing this everyday, he will run away de..
sekali very soon, u wun even get to see him at that building le. -
guy should make the first move?
or girl?
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You sound like someone I know.
She's crazy.
Move on with your life! -
You have already send the ball into his court.
Now it is up to him to reciprocate.
Dun keep pushing. -
Ball?Originally posted by jojobeach:You have already send the ball into his court.
Now it is up to him to reciprocate.
Dun keep pushing. She's already gone over to his side, pretty much nude, and just lying there wide open with the sign "TAKE ME I'M YOURS"
Seriously you got to back off >> he has probably lost all interest he initially had ... and most likely a little freaked out as well -
Agree.Originally posted by Coffee Gabriel:Ok..sure..anyways, I wld like to hear others ppl opinion too. 
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u go girl!
i like girls who dare to make the first move
but u seems a little over aggressive
must be like fly kite......hold a bit, let a bit............
dun scare him or make urself seems despo......
leave him alone for sometime
eye contact is ok.....and rber to smile.......
make urself noticeable to him
and dun try those SMSes again. -
Yes please don't ever do anything remotely close to that again. The smses you sent in a matter of hours, after the brief interaction you had with him ... even creeps me, an anonymous bystander out ...Originally posted by FireIce:and dun try those SMSes again. -
Woah keep it slow and steady lady. Don't rush things especially matters of the heart. Think that guy must be freaked out. Guys usually don't prefer ladies taking too much initiative.
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I can't help but to agree with this.Originally posted by rmyfrm:Yes please don't ever do anything remotely close to that again. The smses you sent in a matter of hours, after the brief interaction you had with him ... even creeps me, an anonymous bystander out ...
You know people are attracted to others for various factors - e.g. charm, challenge, humor, physical appearences and such. Appearing desperate is definitely not one of the factors.
I think in your situation, your body language and actions are like expressing your desperation and neediness over and over again.
Keep your cool, amigo. Take a step back and assess the situation. Why are you behaving like this? Are you really interested in him? Or are you just lonely working in your environment? Only after you are confident of your intention then you can decide if you should "continue the chase" or just give up.
Keep your cool, I can't stress enough. I'm certain you want to appear as attractive before him instead of needy. : -
Take heart and solace from the fact that you've initiated something - it is indeed admirable for a woman to initiate something in what's primarily a conservative society when it comes to such etiquette.
I think you've done more than enough to alert him of your interest - just wait for him to reciprocate... -
Hi! thanks for all the advices!
Anyways, like I've said in my last sentences, after i sent him those smses, I stopped completely..I realised I was being too 'open' liao. Anyways, now, I didn't even talk to him or sms anymore. I guess I have to step back further...I dun wanna scare him any further
ahhh, even u ppl say it scares u a bit..haha..guess I too 'hiong' already. -
seeing TS's nick and seeing the post... i tot its some guy and guy thingy...
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oi... people attached you still go and chase??
what do you mean by "he's lying to you about it" ??
sheesh!! -
actually if he's really lying about it..Originally posted by the Bear:oi... people attached you still go and chase??
what do you mean by "he's lying to you about it" ??
sheesh!!
that means he's not at the least interested in her liao. -
or he's a habitual liar...
TS needs to wake up..Originally posted by browniebaobao:actually if he's really lying about it..
that means he's not at the least interested in her liao. -
I think the damage has already been done and he is definitely not interested in you after he realized it was you. It must have come as a shock to him when he realized it was you, the lady whom he was just being gentlemanly to and you had just misinterpret his intention. What was worse was the continuous smses you sent him. You definitely has scared him off and I wouldn't be surprise if he thought he was glad he had lie to you of being having a girlfriend. I suppose you might ask then why he had taken your offer to meet for lunch. My guess was he didn't know it was you. If you have said you were the woman he met in the lift every morning in the first place, I guarantee he wouldn't have accepted your invitation.
Do you go around tracking someone down when the guy was just being a gentleman? Looks to me like you were reading too much into someone's innocent gestures. -
ya same...same feelings lolx ...Originally posted by mhcampboy:seeing TS's nick and seeing the post... i tot its some guy and guy thingy...