How do i tell if a girl likes me (too)?
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basically it's kinda impossible to tell..
the only way is to ask her.. -
Bravo! well said..Originally posted by nanren4ever:Its hard to tell if the girl likes you or not, judging from what u have said here. But then again, since when has it been easy for people to tell if other people are interested in them or not. Coz people are always capable of giving mixed, or even wrong signals.
All I can suggest is go out with her more, get 2 know her better. Going out 1 to 1(1 on 1 sounds like u two going 2 fight
) doesn't mean that she has that special feelings for u, but rather, that she likes you as a friend, and trust you enough to go out alone with u.
Your talk about anticipating of her phone call, sms etc seems to suggest that you hope that she takes some initatives too. Don't wait for her to approach u, but u go approach her instead. In the end, its all about taking initatives, and grabbing whatever chances you have. Don't be scared or worried that ur persisent wooing may scare her off, coz if she's really scared off by you, and tries to avoid u, at least u know she don't like you liao. Sms her, and see the type of reply she gives you. If its a short, few words answer, it will suggest that she do not have the time or energy to want to waste on you. Then u should get the hint.
All the best to you. Don't be like me, always waiting for others to take the initative, then in the end, nothing will ever happen. Life is not about leaving it to fate, but rather, seizing the chances that come your way, and making something happen out of it. Fate and destiny is make out of how you take ur chances, and not pre-destined.
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maybe while u were waiting for her smses and stuff... she on her side is doing exactly the same thing too? she waits too... then wait and wait and wait and feelings diminished and that's it... so as a guy, do what a guy's got to do man... all the best!! ;D
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Do something stupid.... slit your wrist infront of her and profess your love for her...
She will definitely love you in return.... -
Originally posted by Misogynist:Do something stupid.... slit your wrist infront of her and profess your love for her...
She will definitely love you in return....
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Scientist have actually been researching on this for zillions of years
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and they're still gazillions of years away from an answer!Originally posted by pervertboi:Scientist have actually been researching on this for zillions of years -
Why you want to know??
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hmm... dun be so quiet! be the centre of attraction! make urself interesting! dun be boring! that's really impt and do talk on topics that really interests her... u noe it when she goes, "OH REALLY?! ME TOO!!!".
u can tell that she STARTS to gain an interest/like you when:
1) she begins to open up to u by sharing with u her own matters or suddenly keen in matters about u...
2) she keeps glancing at u when u are with a grp of frens from time to time and when u turn to look at her, she looks away...
3) when u speak to her and look into her eyes, her pupils are dilated. indicating that she is really really interested in ur conversation.
4) she starts to tease u, of cos u shld tease her back 10 times more... thats where the fun begins.
it really depends on ur techniques too... usually girls tend to mature faster than guys and they tend to like guys that are more mature... so u need to be someone that's mature with a secret charming & cute side that will keep trying to get u to show her... making her to do the work instead of u...
and it depends on how old the girl is... her personality... etc etc... it's something that requires experience... and u get the experience by hanging out with diff types of girls so u noe wad u want eventually...
saying is easy, doing is another thing... luck also takes a factor... so good luck my fren... -
Wow, thanks for all the advices above. They do help but i'm still not so sure. Yeah, i guess many of us go through this at some point or another. The girl is of the same age as me so i guess we can relate in that sense.
Anyways, she does stare at me pretty intently when i'm speaking. And just a question to the girls, would you share a drink (same straw) and ask a guy to take a bite of food from your spoon even if the guy is "just a friend" or is it because people are more liberal minded nowadays?
Everything is just plain confusing but i guess good things come to those who wait it out (and have patience.)
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going out with a girl 1 on 1 doesn't mean she likes u. it only means she's ur friend and that's about it. i go out with girls 1 on 1 all the time only coz they're my friends and i doubt any of them like me
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You just want an endorsement from someone to tell you she feels positive, don't you?Originally posted by shadez:Anyways, she does stare at me pretty intently when i'm speaking. And just a question to the girls, would you share a drink (same straw) and ask a guy to take a bite of food from your spoon even if the guy is "just a friend" or is it because people are more liberal minded nowadays?
Reading the part above, I believe I'm speaking for many - I'm assuming both of you have an Asian heritage and not a liberal, Western one - that those gestures would have transcended the boundaries of "just friends"...
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Sorry to tell you but sharing a drink using the same straw or food using the same spoon doesn't mean anything either. Do it all the time.Originally posted by shadez:Wow, thanks for all the advices above. They do help but i'm still not so sure. Yeah, i guess many of us go through this at some point or another. The girl is of the same age as me so i guess we can relate in that sense.
Anyways, she does stare at me pretty intently when i'm speaking. And just a question to the girls, would you share a drink (same straw) and ask a guy to take a bite of food from your spoon even if the guy is "just a friend" or is it because people are more liberal minded nowadays?
Everything is just plain confusing but i guess good things come to those who wait it out (and have patience.) -
Well, i guess i'm thinking too much into it...Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:Sorry to tell you but sharing a drink using the same straw or food using the same spoon doesn't mean anything either. Do it all the time.
I suppose people at this age are more liberal thinking. (Some of them.)
I think i'll take it as it comes, a step at a time and maybe build up on this friendship first. But it's hard when that person is busy...
I suppose time will leave all matters to rest then. -
Try flirting with her and see how she responds.Originally posted by shadez:Well, i guess i'm thinking too much into it...
I suppose people at this age are more liberal thinking. (Some of them.)
I think i'll take it as it comes, a step at a time and maybe build up on this friendship first. But it's hard when that person is busy...
I suppose time will leave all matters to rest then. -
go grab her hand and you will know the answer. it works evertime!(in the movies.. hehe)Originally posted by shadez:I like this girl. But i don't know if she likes me the same...
I have went out with her 1 on 1 on numerous occasions. (girls, would you go out 1 on 1 with a guy you don't LIKE?)
We get along quite well and can talk about things easily. I'm more of the quiet one...
I have her on my mind most of the time, and i always anticipate a call or message from her on my mobile.
But she doesn't sms or call me frequently and has not once msg me to ask me "how am i feeling etc.."
As you know, if you love someone and don't get much feedback from the person, it feels miserable.
So now, im confused. Could any kind soul(s) share his/her opinion with me?
I appreciate it. Thanks. -
i also in similier situation now.......but i already giv hint to her.
she nv avoid me nor seems to show alot interest....
wad can i do next..... if she nv show interest means no point trying?. -
male friend[no feeling] call me. not excited sms me also dont reply fast fast fast!
the guy i like call me, fast answer, fast reply.
hmm you always 1 on 1 outing with her, so mostly the girl might be feeling the same as you ba, just that your not zu dong cu ji
just my opinion, i might be wrong. dont try if your unsure, if you do, its only your problem please dont blame me
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Exactly my problem. She doesn't show any disdain but neither does she show any, if much, interests...I guess it might be that the girl isn't looking into being in a relationship at the moment yet. At least that's what i deduced after some days of thinking.Originally posted by TzX-b:i also in similier situation now.......but i already giv hint to her.
she nv avoid me nor seems to show alot interest....
wad can i do next..... if she nv show interest means no point trying?.
So i guess we should take it easy, get closer and increase the bonding with the other party first. Build up on the relationship. I guess that's the only way to it. -
haiz yaya, tat's the way now. but how?
i dunno wad to do anymore.
no courage already.
dunno how to
proceed.
wad to
do
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If you honestly like her, you should tell her in the first place. Why keep hiding your feeling inside?? That's no point doing it.
If you really like her, u should be honest about every little things that you share with her.... Honesty is the most important thing the gal wants form the guy.Hope for the best, Prepare for the worst !
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u gt to ask her frankly, just like i did. it worked though for me cheers!Originally posted by shadez:I like this girl. But i don't know if she likes me the same...
I have went out with her 1 on 1 on numerous occasions. (girls, would you go out 1 on 1 with a guy you don't LIKE?)
We get along quite well and can talk about things easily. I'm more of the quiet one...
I have her on my mind most of the time, and i always anticipate a call or message from her on my mobile.
But she doesn't sms or call me frequently and has not once msg me to ask me "how am i feeling etc.."
As you know, if you love someone and don't get much feedback from the person, it feels miserable.
So now, im confused. Could any kind soul(s) share his/her opinion with me?
I appreciate it. Thanks. -
Originally posted by nanren4ever:
I like what u said here
Its hard to tell if the girl likes you or not, judging from what u have said here. But then again, since when has it been easy for people to tell if other people are interested in them or not. Coz people are always capable of giving mixed, or even wrong signals.
All I can suggest is go out with her more, get 2 know her better. Going out 1 to 1(1 on 1 sounds like u two going 2 fight ) doesn't mean that she has that special feelings for u, but rather, that she likes you as a friend, and trust you enough to go out alone with u.
Your talk about anticipating of her phone call, sms etc seems to suggest that you hope that she takes some initatives too. Don't wait for her to approach u, but u go approach her instead. In the end, its all about taking initatives, and grabbing whatever chances you have. Don't be scared or worried that ur persisent wooing may scare her off, coz if she's really scared off by you, and tries to avoid u, at least u know she don't like you liao. Sms her, and see the type of reply she gives you. If its a short, few words answer, it will suggest that she do not have the time or energy to want to waste on you. Then u should get the hint.
All the best to you. Don't be like me, always waiting for others to take the initative, then in the end, nothing will ever happen. Life is not about leaving it to fate, but rather, seizing the chances that come your way, and making something happen out of it. Fate and destiny is make out of how you take ur chances, and not pre-destined. -
Honestly speaking, if u got no courage, then dun bother to jio her liao , and dun bother to get into a relationship, u get wat i mean?Originally posted by TzX-b:haiz yaya, tat's the way now. but how?
i dunno wad to do anymore.
no courage already.
dunno how to
proceed.
wad to
do
next?. -
ya, thanks. i hav been thinking thru. i think i should just stay low. remain as friend... not becos i got no more courage. but i think if she nv show interest than no point continueing because that is not wad i wan... one sided ..Originally posted by *=Optimus=*:Honestly speaking, if u got no courage, then dun bother to jio her liao , and dun bother to get into a relationship, u get wat i mean?