Am I right in doing this???
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He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it??
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well i tin it quite ok but if tis continue too long u are wasteing his time so try not to make it too long lor..Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it??
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take the second option. be fair to him and yourself.
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by the way, why do you think he will blame you for telling him the truth?
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from my opinion, u r wrong from the start..u shouldn't start when there is no love..Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it??
but now tink if u really hav no love for him, leave him and giv both of u other alternatives bah..
Givache 
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I think its better to tell him how u feel abt him right now....perhaps give urself and him a time limit and see if by then u will grow to like him even more and if the chemistry increases...if it does, then good for u...if it doesnt...then i guess it isnt meant to be.Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it??
hmm...do u really like him for who he is or do u feel obligated to "like" him bcos he is being so nice to u?
And if u think he's not really the one for u, then i suggest its better to end it...if not both parties will get hurt in the end. Be fair to him and be truthful to urself.
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Initially i dunno i like him a not.... I dun feel good when I can't get him... I tot i like him... but gradually i realised tt my heart don't pump fast when I'm with him.. I don't have the urge to see him everyday... Something juz seems to be missing... haizz...
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hate to say this but sounds like u r just having a "fling"?Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:Initially i dunno i like him a not.... I dun feel good when I can't get him... I tot i like him... but gradually i realised tt my heart don't pump fast when I'm with him.. I don't have the urge to see him everyday... Something juz seems to be missing... haizz...
Is it bcos in the first u havent got him and he seems so-ohhhh-desirable to u...but now u are bored with him and u dont feel the chemistry like before?
If this is the case...then point carrying on a relationship which is leading to nowhere, rite? -
maybe u shld ask urself why u have no feeling for him since u think he is such a ....nice and wonderful guy! ask urself what u really want... dun be too impulsive to give him up and regret ... nice guy are hard to come by...u can nv find another identical him once u lose it!!
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Love is not just about having a "great feeling". Or having a fast beating heart when you see someone.
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is chemistry that important to you? it doesnt happy everyday. u could be thinking too much like ally mcbeal.
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HI cookie long time no see
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I think dat since u dun have feelings for him instead of dragging it on u should end it soon.... If it drags on you will not be happy and he might just fall even deeper in love with u and when u eventually tell him, he might not be able to stomach it..Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it?? -
dont leave the poor guy....
gan qing shi ke yi pei yang de...
give u and him another chance mah... -
Originally posted by greengoblin:Love is not just about having a "great feeling". Or having a fast beating heart when you see someone.
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If you think that's not really it.... Tell him that you think that you're not really ready for this relationship and needs his understanding and respect for that... But let him know at the same time that you might be interested in him... Make it a no obligation and the choice is his if he stills wanna just hand around you?Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:He is very nice to me.. I dunno how we started but we're together now.. I don't love him but I do like him.. He's a very nice guy and he's very nice to me too... No matter how far or how late, he'll try his best to pick me up from wherever I am and send mi home.. He don't mind sending my franz home even if it's quite out of the way.. It's not that I treat him bad.. But I dun have e kind of chemistry towards him.. Am i right to stay together with him hoping that one day I'll develop feelings for him or should I just tell him the truth now and pray hard that he won't blame me for it?? -
Why not you just tell him the truth and then you say you need two weeks to think about it, maybe when you two no contact liao, then you will feel that you really missed him and really do have feelings for him......... If you really do, go back to him.........
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let your feelings flow
follow what your heart tells you to
chances are but a momentary thing...
grab it before it vanishes....
believe in yourself, him, and your heart
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wei....u want ur heart to pump faster??? later got a heart attack then how?Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:Initially i dunno i like him a not.... I dun feel good when I can't get him... I tot i like him... but gradually i realised tt my heart don't pump fast when I'm with him.. I don't have the urge to see him everyday... Something juz seems to be missing... haizz...
take it easy. if it's love than u'll know it...
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maybe from the start u are wrong,in leaving a trail for him to follow.whether ornot it is intentionally,it is best u do some soulsearching abt urself.
if u find out u dun really "love" him,juz try to bring up the topic while u were chatting wif him den try to express it.or u can be very direct and ask him whether ornot he like u,den u tell him how u feel
i guess u are rather troubled thatif u told him abt ur feelings,he would stop giving u the kind of "affection" he is giving u now
juz my 2cents worth
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think before u act...dun leave a cut in a guy like him!!!!
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oh yes so true. love consists of many other elements. even negative onesOriginally posted by greengoblin:Love is not just about having a "great feeling". Or having a fast beating heart when you see someone.
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hello girl pls do not lead the poor guy on? from my heart i feel for the poor guy who's going to be devastated when he hears that actually you do not love him at all. and from the start you 2 started out as if everything was fine, those "i love u, u love me, we are happy family" types.
but in actual fact it is only him that is doing the loving. you play along and induces him into believing that he struck gold and you're his one and only. NO. this is not the way girl, please, save this poor guy from his future agony. tell him now, tell him straight. dun keep for him to sacrifice himself more and get deeper before you break the truth to him. he will be in deeper pain.
do it now. pick up the phone
the worst thing to do. is to give people false hope in a relationship.
my 2 cents