Awakened
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Greetings !
I was "awakened" from my sad past, through a nightmare .
Today morning , at 2am+ i was trying to coax myself to sleep . I couldn't . I was on MC today , so i cant switch on the lights to read or watch TV . I began "counting sheep" and gradually fell asleep ... But what followed wasn't what i expected .
I dream of my dad beating me up because i scolded vulgarities and hurled abuse at my sis . My dad was angry as a result and he began to slap and beat me up . I was very defiant and made him more angry ... He beat me even harder ..
All was ended when i woke up .. However , i was feeling very scared and frightened . Tears trickled down my cheeks . The reason being that this was no ordinary nightmare . What i dream happened to me many years ago , when i was very young . Me dad would beat me up very harshly whenever he was very angry with me . He used a cane (very ordinary , it didnt make any impact on me .) , belt with buckle , and last but not least, his hand . Dont underestimate his strength . If he gives you a wack on your hand , your skin will swell a little .
There was this punishment he gave me, which brought tears to my eyes when i remembered it . Have you guys seen before TV shows where the husband grabs the wife's hair and pulls and yanks ? Instead of doing it to others, my dad used that method on me , when he exploded in rage . He would grab my hair and pull violently for 3secs . The next day, i would get a series of headaches .
The belt punishment . My sis and I dreaded this . Altho i mentioned buckle , i couldn't remember any occasion where he used the buckle to inflict pain on us . He only used the strap as a substitution to cane . It hurts alot more than cane .
My dad has since ceased to show such violent behaviors , since we all had grew up . I never blame anything about him , for i know that i did something wrong and i ought to be punished . My dad is a very loving man . He would feel remorseful after he gave us such punishment .. But i guess the hurt inflicted on me is too deep . I forbid anyone criticizing my dad, for i know he's a great man .
Anyway back to myself ... I just couldn't control my emotions . Remembering this sad and violent past just never fails to bring tears to my eyes...Why is this so?
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You know you can sue him...
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No point . He's my dad and i love him very much . Sue-ing him will only bring sadness . Since he has stopped showing such behavior , i feel very much relieved.Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:You know you can sue him... -
1. You will probably do it to your own children.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Anyway back to myself ... I just couldn't control my emotions . Remembering this sad and violent past just never fails to bring tears to my eyes...Why is this so?
I suggest you meditate and talk and work it out of your system... otherwise... see point one. -
zzz...Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:You know you can sue him...
On what grounds?
Frivolous lawsuit.
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Well you know, I still hate my dad for using those violence..Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:No point . He's my dad and i love him very much . Sue-ing him will only bring sadness . Since he has stopped showing such behavior , i feel very much relieved.
If one day I am financially-capable, I guess I will serve ties with him ar. -
All the grounds proposed here are absolute ... anyway ...
Mediation works best when there is an existing dispute/friction; this would be a pointless avenue to pursue (based on the facts)
You can't just sue anyone; just because you read in the news that somewhere else in the world (e.g. the States) someone is bringing an action over nothing doesn't mean it applies here. We are a common law country and past precedents have not taken a lenient view towards frivolous law suits // don't get costs awarded against you for nothing .. you'd be looking to pay a substantial amount.
TS your problem lies within yourself. Seek counselling if this bothers you. -
Thanks .. Anyway , i didnt bother me very much . I've long forgotten this 'incident' .Originally posted by rmyfrm:All the grounds proposed here are absolute ... anyway ...
Mediation works best when there is an existing dispute/friction; this would be a pointless avenue to pursue (based on the facts)
You can't just sue anyone; just because you read in the news that somewhere else in the world (e.g. the States) someone is bringing an action over nothing doesn't mean it applies here. We are a common law country and past precedents have not taken a lenient view towards frivolous law suits // don't get costs awarded against you for nothing .. you'd be looking to pay a substantial amount.
TS your problem lies within yourself. Seek counselling if this bothers you.
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nah...like that u cry liao, juz part of the growing up process
u noe last time what my parents do to me anot when l was young for being naughty
Punishment l had
l was stripped naked..and tied up and kana caned by them for quite sum time before they stop ..and is mother and father tag team ...2 canes furiously beating on me...
l oso kana slap a few times by my dad..
belt oso kana before...
haiyo nthing lai de la...cuz when small..we naughty mah...parents had to let us learnt through the hard way..so dun nid upset ...
now we big liao...parents oso nver cane or do such things to us le mah -
Hi Scania, I hope you can be as strong as your nick suggests. The Swedish Saab Scanias make one of the best vehicles in the world.
My dad also does violent acts to me. He'd grab my hair and wham my head on any wall he can find. In the lift or at home. So long no one sees it. I always use my hands to cushion the impact. When I tried to stop him from attacking my mother during my secondary school days, he used my boken and whacked very hard at me aiming at my head. I blocked the attacks to protect my head with my left arm ending up in minor fractures & severe swelling.
He still rains loads of different violent acts on me. It only stopped 10 years ago when I fought back the first time. That time, my gf was around, so I was very worried he might hurt her and I really fought back hard. He was totally unable to use violence on me anymore. Then he started to curse that I'd die, I'd move out of the house etc etc. Make up lies about me etc etc. He does these to my mum and sis too. The irony will be that when I called the police, he acted pitiful and told the police "I will never beat my wife and children."
My mum applied for PPO. Just last year, he initiated a divorce thinking he'd get 50% of the proceeds from the house. But ended up getting only 20%, it was even 5% short of the initial price proposed by my mum. Anyway, I haven't met him since 2003. I dun know how he looks like now and I'm not interested. For a man who doesn't work to support his family yet subjects the family to immense violence and suffer the effects of his integrity problem, it is best not to associate with him. I don't hold against him, but I will not want to have anything to do with him. He is the sort who'd for personal gains pretend to fall down and accuse you of assaulting him. How dangerous it is to associate with this kind of people.
There are many types of people in the world who are still fathers. Your story is not the worst, neither is mine. But we should be glad that you're not in the worst case scenario. Focus on your future instead. It is your foremost priorities now. Studies and career. You'll realise that they outweigh your past pains more than you can imagine.
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oh....how old are you now?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:nah...like that u cry liao, juz part of the growing up process
u noe last time what my parents do to me anot when l was young for being naughty
Punishment l had
l was stripped naked..and tied up and kana caned by them for quite sum time before they stop ..and is mother and father tag team ...2 canes furiously beating on me...
l oso kana slap a few times by my dad..
belt oso kana before...
haiyo nthing lai de la...cuz when small..we naughty mah...parents had to let us learnt through the hard way..so dun nid upset ...
now we big liao...parents oso nver cane or do such things to us le mah -
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I noe this is out of pt but why MC cannot on light?
Anyway if u cannot get it out of ur system...i suggest u go for counselling...because u may nv noe if u beat up ur child next time...i am sure u wont wan ur child to experience the same thing rite.. -
Hmmm dont worry ... Altho i do scold vulgarities now and then , i dont beat up anyone .Originally posted by Xtrider:I noe this is out of pt but why MC cannot on light?
Anyway if u cannot get it out of ur system...i suggest u go for counselling...because u may nv noe if u beat up ur child next time...i am sure u wont wan ur child to experience the same thing rite..
Erm for the question you asked ... Its because if i on the light and read books , my mum will come in and say "Eh ! Ok already arh? Tml go study ! "
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No larh ... I not those explode in crying one ... Its normal reaction leh .. Just brings tears .Originally posted by xShevchenkox:nah...like that u cry liao, juz part of the growing up process -
Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Hmmm dont worry ... Altho i do scold vulgarities now and then , i dont beat up anyone .
Erm for the question you asked ... Its because if i on the light and read books , my mum will come in and say "Eh ! Ok already arh? Tml go study ! " kengster -
Just a memories of the past...
cheer.. -
yea ...dats why it brings tears ...Originally posted by soulwinner:Just a memories of the past...
cheer.. -
l am 19 now gg 20 le...Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:oh....how old are you now?
haha dun wry much la...l guess alot of boys who are notorious when they are young..get such treatments de
parents mah..they oso scare we mite get bad mah..so when small teach and control us strictly, and if can using the cane or belt to scare us..then when we grow up...they noe we will tink so wont do anything le =) -
oh lclc..haha that is still okie.. l tot u explode in crying mode...Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:No larh ... I not those explode in crying one ... Its normal reaction leh .. Just brings tears . 
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that one is "straight to the counseller!"Originally posted by xShevchenkox:l tot u explode in crying mode...
anyway...thx for the help/advice you people have given me . Felt much better .
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u r welcomedOriginally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:that one is "straight to the counseller!"
anyway...thx for the help/advice you people have given me . Felt much better . -
Victim of family violence..
suggest u go and see a counsellor.. coz cant see that it has cast a deep shadow on u over the years. -
no la..l tink is alrite...when small..alot of child learnt by the hard way..parents had to taught them in the hard way to let the child learn and get things riteOriginally posted by browniebaobao:Victim of family violence..
suggest u go and see a counsellor.. coz cant see that it has cast a deep shadow on u over the years.
juz part of growing up process
l oso kana beat when l was small that time, l remember l was beaten until vomit ..look at me now, still walking and hoping fine
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wat hoping fine? Is alive and kicking !Originally posted by xShevchenkox:no la..l tink is alrite...when small..alot of child learnt by the hard way..parents had to taught them in the hard way to let the child learn and get things rite
juz part of growing up process
l oso kana beat when l was small that time, l remember l was beaten until vomit ..look at me now, still walking and hoping fine
But ur case is really....painful...
Anyway cheers !! We are happy now aren't we?