A true life Story .......
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It all started in the new Millennium March.
Fresh from NS and got my very 1st job in this media company with a young and desperate heart to get a girlfriend .Like every other guy using the fisherman method spreading the net and hope to have a good catch so can choose....
1st encounter with a nice, cute and bubbly gal who is younger than me ..... get a long well but things just dun turn out well when u are just Desperate when u broke the Heaven or Hell question, which is I love u. What's most important is not the question but having to send out to all the person in the department ......so embrassing and kana rejected in the end....
2nd encounter comes to the girl till now.......
Don't think with the mention till now...... u must be thinking sure steady rite but no.........
What happen is..... she is an ordinary, not chio, no figure ..... not even eye catching ...... but it happens in May the month when she entered the company....
All seems well, until one fine day..... also dun know why... maybe god playing a trick on me... i fell in love with her...
After the 1st incident, i dare not act rashly but act normal until in the mid of july..... i broke the Heaven or Hell question to her using SMS...... indirectly ..... for ur info she's 2 year older than me.... what to say it goes hell and we did not talk after that....
Often call her but u guys or gals should know lar.... like got wall in between .... also attitude change..... SO SAD
But birthday is just round the corner, with a few colleague having the same birthday or around the corner ....... we invited her along .....( pray she will go )
She did turn up but it ends with a bad ending at the celebration..... i got drunk with a few mug of Beer..... emotion got loose and mind turn upside down..... sec past ... min past..... she did not even talk to me..... situation got out of hand and i'm out smoking....... till she came out and bids me goodbye.. I still remember, its 1030pm that night and its raining cats and dogs..... i held her hand forgetting the 1st time its been very long and she was scared stiff........
After 10mins she left..... i rush down the stairs hoping to see her the last time for the night ......she's gone...
Climbling the 3 storey stairs unsteadily..... eventually got to my ktv room.... listening to sad songs sung deepen the emotion further and tears fell ..........
Reaching back in office the next day..... stories ,mocking and all sorts ..... came right to my hear..... its so unbearable ...... n we did not talk for months................
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Eh... i think u are either bloody cock or damn desperate. I know its that kind of fresh out of army, into the job... suddenly thrust into an environment with girls again, no more fucking sergeants and officers! But u gotta get used to that feeling first, that initial rush of excitement and passion to jio girls.Originally posted by Hokou:It all started in the new Millennium March.
Fresh from NS and got my very 1st job in this media company with a young and desperate heart to get a girlfriend .Like every other guy using the fisherman method spreading the net and hope to have a good catch so can choose....
1st encounter with a nice, cute and bubbly gal who is younger than me ..... get a long well but things just dun turn out well when u are just Desperate when u broke the Heaven or Hell question, which is I love u. What's most important is not the question but having to send out to all the person in the department ......so embrassing and kana rejected in the end....
2nd encounter comes to the girl till now.......
Don't think with the mention till now...... u must be thinking sure steady rite but no.........
What happen is..... she is an ordinary, not chio, no figure ..... not even eye catching ...... but it happens in May the month when she entered the company....
All seems well, until one fine day..... also dun know why... maybe god playing a trick on me... i fell in love with her...
After the 1st incident, i dare not act rashly but act normal until in the mid of july..... i broke the Heaven or Hell question to her using SMS...... indirectly ..... for ur info she's 2 year older than me.... what to say it goes hell and we did not talk after that....
Often call her but u guys or gals should know lar.... like got wall in between .... also attitude change..... SO SAD
But birthday is just round the corner, with a few colleague having the same birthday or around the corner ....... we invited her along .....( pray she will go )
She did turn up but it ends with a bad ending at the celebration..... i got drunk with a few mug of Beer..... emotion got loose and mind turn upside down..... sec past ... min past..... she did not even talk to me..... situation got out of hand and i'm out smoking....... till she came out and bids me goodbye.. I still remember, its 1030pm that night and its raining cats and dogs..... i held her hand forgetting the 1st time its been very long and she was scared stiff........
After 10mins she left..... i rush down the stairs hoping to see her the last time for the night ......she's gone...
Climbling the 3 storey stairs unsteadily..... eventually got to my ktv room.... listening to sad songs sung deepen the emotion further and tears fell ..........
Reaching back in office the next day..... stories ,mocking and all sorts ..... came right to my hear..... its so unbearable ...... n we did not talk for months................
To be continue........................
Nvr Nvr Nvr eever use that heaven or hell phrase on girls u are not sure they like u. U must be damn sensitive to know whether they got feelings for u, or at least they like u. Most girls wun go ahead with relationships with the 'give chance, see whether can develop' mentality. most guys can do that, labelled desperate... When girls like u, they will drop hints, most wun be direct to say they like u but will still drop hints to lead u on. Singaporean girls are still conservative by nature, so u got take this important point then.
Dun think ur 'i love u ' phrase is gonna drive them crazy with excitement that they are gonna reciprocate ur feelings, sorry pal, doesn't work that way. Most girls are gonna only get all the most awkward and feel uncomfortable being with u, Remember this point too. U say that phrase, u run the risk of 95% that they are not gonna be ur frens anymore. Its the conservative mentality too. Take down this point too. Even then u dun have to say 'i love u' but put ur words in a more subtly way. Best is to keep things as frens and yeah, u can try to be more than frens but becareful and sense it from her cause girls give signals whether they want more or only want u as frens. U gotta be able to sense it. Best: Keep as frens, and develop more. If u know it ain't possible as lovers, at least u still have a good female fren!
Smoking, drinking, drowning ur sorrows, it juz shows how terrible as a gentleman u are, not able to control ur emotions. is this the kind of image u wanna project to girls? that uncoothe, urchin-like behaviour? or more of a self-confident, presence demanding person? Go read up on personal improvement, self confidence books on how to improve oneself not only in person, with pple but also helps ur career.
Concentrate on your career, but also show u place special emphasis on frens, family, and relationships of the heart. This kind of things let a lady know u are a good choice as a mate. U gotta know u are now in the working world. Girls have grown up to be ladies. They want cash and cars now, a good working person in the company is not only one who works hard and smart but is able to relate to pple, to empower pple, to inspire others to work well. This is a skill u gotta develop to let other pple feel ur 'presence' . Know u are dating ladies and in the end, they need money to eat, not love! Remember that, alwaz remember your core basics and from there branch out your secondary importances in life. Thats how so u dun lose track of your goals. Its career! Money makes the man. I see bloody ugly man with flashy convertibles and super delicious babes. i am not kidding, when u see such things, u get so jealous and wanna kick urself for not working harder! That is my inspiration!
are u doing journalism? u said media company. juz asking.
Work hard in career, girls will naturally come. Alwaz remember this
' A man is not marked by how he looks but by what he has achieved'
Look around u.. all the successful pple, are they good looking? nope, but they are powerful and influential pple who have the properties which i described above. Slowly study urself and do self-reflection and write out ur goals. Basics in life is money, alwaz remebmer that! u need money to eat, not love. not saying all money and no love is good.
Even then if the girls dun like u and reject u, juz turn around and move off. hunt for others.
As i would say, 'life is simple, let girls do the chasing'
All the best -
dun be so des..
wait..
better ones out there waiting for u
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Yah loh !
relationship this type of ...
mustn't be rush !
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Eventually, on the june 2001 we started with a little of greeting everyday..... to sms ....then started confide each other in our life....sad or happy......
During june a "mad man" was going after her and everything seems to go well...... i accept the fact.... but stories change and in the mid of October. She told me that she does not have any feelings for him at all but treating him as a friend only....
That man did not gave up but kept going after till the limit of stopping her half way to work ...... stalking...... and writing tonnes of mails..... By the way..... that " mad man" is working in the same company....
I offered her my helping hand.... this draws us closer but still not to the extent.... Till then did i came to know that she had a BF already also working partly in our company.....
During this period, with her BF ..... did not treat her well as she wanted and sorrow can be seem over by the days shown by her face.... console ......enocouragement...... eventually solutions ....... failed........ Reservist soon came in June 2002 and i have to stay in camp for 2 whole weeks.... and all i can do is to SMS her....
Things doesn't came out good with those kind of feelings ....
Quarrel over the sms .... over her relationship.....made me demoralised ...depressed ....but eventually gave up being Mr Middle man....... WHY! WHY! When he doesn't treat her well.... in the 1st place shouldn't have go after her.......... leaving agony ....sad moments ............ in memory!!!!!
July came and i'm back in office.... all seems well ..... until .......one day.. she siam... me..... till i felt that she's keeping a distant from me.....i confronted her over the SMS for 3 whole day and eventually she replied on the fourth day.....
Its better to keep a distant rite..... feelings are hard to control over my side..(that's what she think)...... feelings for her have already..... tune down to the extent...... its better to let her go.....
At that time of confrontation.... just having feelings being 2 years of turbulation.... and eventually being well...... why gave up......
Things are back to normal.... after clearing her doubts.......
We still talk and joke..... feelings for her are still there burying in the deepest inside of me .......but for being telling this true life story.... I urged all broken hearts to stand up ..... lead and start a fresh.... the <>
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Well...just wanna say that completing NS does not mean anything wat...not neccesary to have a gf immediately....i know many pple have this kinda mindset....
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waw, your story quite dramatic.
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Hi, i do not think that way..Originally posted by Dolce Vita:waw, your story quite dramatic.
Its really a true life story without any exagerrating...
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Hey, take down my points. if u feel some points u are not sure or debatable, tell me. By all means lets all discuss to help u improve urself. But what i have juz said in my previous thread is good enough. i have said the basics which are imporrtant. Ponder over what i said. In the end, no matter how u turn and move in life, u still need to eat and to eat,.. u need money...Originally posted by Hokou:Hi, i do not think that way..
Its really a true life story without any exagerrating...
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Hi, REally appreciate what u have write over my topic and the concern with advice u have input. I do agree that all in life especially in Singapore do need money in whatever u do, that inculde to park tor.... Any advice to make Big money??? If u don't mind we can make friends and do business if u have any ideas. U can send Email or Send private Msg with ur contact nos. Maybe we can go out to have a coffee session and talk about life. CheersOriginally posted by MetalGear:Hey, take down my points. if u feel some points u are not sure or debatable, tell me. By all means lets all discuss to help u improve urself. But what i have juz said in my previous thread is good enough. i have said the basics which are imporrtant. Ponder over what i said. In the end, no matter how u turn and move in life, u still need to eat and to eat,.. u need money...
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Its been quite some time and many have viewed. But replys not left. I urge all who are just like me to open up and talk it out . -
