-= Persistence? =-
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Persistence pays off?
Yes!
Recent studies conducted by psychologists (George B. Anderson, Larry Becker) have shown that girls are attracted to guys who desperately chase for them. As psychologists tells us, the human psyche response to persistence equally as the feeling of already 'being in love'. This is because pursuance is an original trait of mammals used in procreation or the continuation of the survival of the species. A male typically 'pursues' the female. The human psyche, because of social conditioning, response to the 'chase' negatively at first. But desperation pays off eventually. This means that any girl you choose will eventually 'give in' to the 'chase'.
But this is only if the desperation is accompanied by three important factors:
1) Be Noticed
Studies shown that 'being noticed' happens in 1/7th of a second. This is important because we form opinions within the first minute. Being noticed means physical uniqueness, and good looks are irrelevant. Change your hairstyle, clothing style; wear contacts. Try wearing bright colors like purple/orange/pink. Become someone different compared to any guy she ever met before. Be comfortable in your new skin - the new you.
2) Relentlessness
Pursuance of a goal will be attained with persistence. There is a reason why successful businessmen reach their goals. Thomas Edison failed 1000 times before succeeding in inventing the ordinary light-bulb. Chase after her relentlessly, but not to the point that you stalk/annoy her. But one that tells her you are patient and will wait and patiently shower her with affection. Send her a one-way sweet SMS on her birthday. Send flowers at her office.
3) Be nice
Girls are known to be more appreciative of inner qualities more than boys. Forget the 'bad-boy' attitude. Give her space, allow her to choose her favorite restaurant, say "may i". In the modern world we live in now, girls enjoy playing the independent role of the dominant person. She enjoys the fantasy man who is chivalrous and polite. Never joke about her shoes or her hair. When you give her the space and decision, she naturally becomes attracted to you. Its a rare man who pulls up a chair for his woman!
There you go. In a nutshell, change yourself before you relentlessly chase her. A woman appreciates a man who is able to stick around and wait for her.
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I totally agree. he he
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despo?
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For certain things, yes.
I barely agree if it applies to everything. Some things, no matter how you pursue, will never be. -
dun give me false hope. thks.
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to some extent, i agree to what TS has posted
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haha. there is actually a scientific term behind this. heard it b4 but forgot what it was. but anyways this is only if you don't freak her out.
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Disagree.
This article doesn't tell you that many girls are with guys for all sorts of reasons and may not really love you even though you persisted with this same girl for 10 year when she's finally with you.
What's meant to be is meant to be. Don't force it.
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The hunter and the preyOriginally posted by Michaeled:haha. there is actually a scientific term behind this. heard it b4 but forgot what it was. but anyways this is only if you don't freak her out.