Im in love with a 33year old lady!
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Helo... was hoping that people of this forum can gime some advice on what to do.... well i was at Zouk LAST saturday night and i got 2 noe a really beautiful 33 year old lady. well im onli 19 but i think that ive fallen deeply in love with her. i mean everyone might think im mad but well i just cannot control myself. mi had a very good time with her and i even told her that i sort of liked her. there wasnt much of a response but we held hands and i even sent her home. i duno if she is playing with my feelings but well she really captured my heart. anione willing to gimme any advivce on what to do?
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Errrmmm i wun say much but when she's 50, u r only 36. What do u think?
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well u might be totally attracted to this 33 yr old lady..but i dont think she will be serious to u. did she give u her no. to call? and if she did, did u call her? and what did she say? did u try to ask her out and what did it turn out to be?
think about this,both of u might have had a good time at zouk, its just about partying , meeting pple and all..what do u think a 33 yr old lady wants to get from a 19 yr old guy? -
We exchanged numbers..........
but i havent called her yet because i dont noe what to say........ i noe that it was just for fun. but im taking it kinda of seriously as i have never been in this type of situation before
i am really lost at what to do man...
[This message has been edited by Shauny (edited 11 December 2000).] -
so she didnt call u either, and u havent seen each other since that night?what do u know about her?maybe u can try to call her up, like telling her u'd like to see her again at zouk or somewhere else or if she'd like to hang out with u for a while?Originally posted by Shauny:We exchanged numbers..........
but i havent called her yet because i dont noe what to say........ i noe that it was just for fun. but im taking it kinda of seriously as i have never been in this type of situation before
i am really lost at what to do man...
[This message has been edited by Shauny (edited 11 December 2000).]
i cant say much here, cuz i've never fallen for someone like 10+yrs older than me, dunno what it feels like.
i might be wrong,dont expect much from her.what u feel about her is more like a crush and ur gonna get over it..
hope everything is fine with you
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well she called me todae. we chated for quite some time..... aniwae thanx for your advice I still haven gathered my thoughts together
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okiez, so after she and u talked, wat happened, in the sense ,did she like mention anything bout her not liking u or anything.
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Well... i didnt ask her aniting about the relationship but now, i am begining to realise that it is all a fantasy....
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Well, I feel U shouldn't be so disheartened.Originally posted by Shauny:Well... i didnt ask her aniting about the relationship but now, i am begining to realise that it is all a fantasy....
Think of Nicholas Tze and Faye Wong. or singapore's Ex showhost zhou ruzhu & her husband.
Don't be in a rush to be involved in a relationship. Let nature go its course. Treat her as a friend. Who knows. after a few yrs, U might found out...... -
What the hell, boy. Go for it!! You have to learn about the opposite sex sometime. But, and I say BUT, find out first if she is married or has a boy-friend already. If she has, forget it. She's only stringing you along for her own private ego-trip.
Remember, at 33 a woman is either supporting herself, she is already married, or she has a sugar-daddy. If it's either of the last two cases, it would be very dangerous to proceed. But if she is supporting herself, then either she is lonely or she is flattered that her womanhood can still attract the attentions of a young male. If that is the case, then give it a try little fella. Or if you don't want to try sex first, well try getting more emotionally involved with her. Anyway, see what she likes: sex or companionship. If you are lucky she wants both. In that case never mind the age difference. If you are really in LOVE with her it won't make much difference that you are 33 and she is already 50...! -
Hey there.... Thanx for yer advice man... well currently i am having my exams. and im kinda finding it rather tough to go on. well we chated on the phone a couple of times and i guess that the chances of us being together are rather slim. she clams she is not married but im kinda having my doubts about it. When i was talking on the fone with her yesterday i heard some kids pyaing in the background. i asked her who are they and she took quite some time in answering me claiming it was her nieces. this is my biggest problem. i difinately would not want to get involve with a married woman. its not healthy man....
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Well, in my opinion, this relationship wif a 33 yr old is not healthy. I noe now pple shouldn't b so conservaive, but hey, think bout the future if u guys ever become an item
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I thought bout it lor...
but still not so easy 2 let go...
but if i find out she is married
then.....
i Difinately will let go -
yeah, trust me. it's not easy to let go. But u gotta see the situation. Sometimes it's best that u let go or it might interfere wif ur life.
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yar man.... i hope to get over it by the end of the week man... if not my brains gona explode
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Shauny,
Dun rush into it. Sometimes, it is just a infatuation or crush. 2 years ago, I had fallen in love with a guy who is 8 yrs older than I am. I like his maturity, his stability, his wisdom and of course his intelligence. He did not captivate me with all these when we met the very first time. We knew each other for some time before I found out where his charm is. However, he rejected me, telling me that he rather we be friends as he dun wish to lose a good friend like me. I believe he dun like little girls like me because he did mention to me that people at my age (teens/twenties) are still maturing and unstable, as in emotionally.
Shauny, it is not that I would want to break this to you. She is 33 yrs old. She is mature and she knows what she wants and the way to get it. She may be just having fun and enjoy the attention you gave her. Like what others mentioned, she may be married or attached so what is the point? At her age, even she is not attached or married, she would want to seek stability in a relationship with a guy who can provide her that. Can you provide her that? She is not young, like a teenager who can afford the time and youth.
Shauny, just move on.
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tHANX blueangel.....
Mi just gathering my thoughtd now lor...... -
Well love cannot be define by the age, but if you think 30 years from now. Will you still have the same feelings for her as you do now? If so then why not go for it, but otherwise wait untill the right person comes.
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It seems like infatuation to me. Do get a grip on yourself. Concentrate on your exams first. She could be single and available, or she could be opposite of the above mentioned. U might wanna check it out first.
Alternatively, u can introduce her to me. I am old enough.
Just kidding.
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When rivers flow don't ask why. When rivers frozen don't ask why. Don't PRESUME that the frozen rivers are just a thin slice of water. You may fall for it, then again maybe you won't? On the other hand, if you're not ready with the roughs kid... You might wanna consider staying away from offshore...
You're reading a book. It's just a book. There's nothing frightening about it. You may not like its content OR you may be OVERWHELMED by it. It's just a book. Remember. You choose the book. Remember. You turn the pages. Until the point where you're lost and fail to convince yourself that it's just a story would the 'frightening story' be able to haunt you. Choose your book Shaun? Do you know what you're looking for? then again... Are you ready and game?
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