Ladies if u find out aft marriage hubby is love another girl
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Ladies, this is for those 20 sumthing ladies who got arranged marriage
U found out that yr new hubby is still thinking abt his old love, and that he married becos of family pressure ( his parents wanted a life for him).
Then he is always hanging out alone or brooding over like sumthing lost.
what will u do? -
Give him a lot of space, but be a very dutiful wife.
and/or have a discussion [(especially) if you're open to divorce]. -
Originally posted by MooKu:
WTF
Give him a lot of space, but be a very dutiful wife.
WTF
Where got so good thing. -
What else do you want to do? Kick a big fuss about it? Even if he entered into the marriage under pressure, it was his personal choice. You either stay put and don't antagonize him further until he's ready to accept you or tell him he's free to fly. Yes? No?Originally posted by Xephone_xenon:WTF WTF
Where got so good thing.
Good things do happen. You just have to believe in their existence so some day you won't miss them when they happen to you. -
still exercise ur duties as a wife.
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Originally posted by MooKu:
Yes
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What else do you want to do? Kick a big fuss about it? -
* Sunny's definition of a Good Wife's Calibre detected *Originally posted by MooKu:What else do you want to do? Kick a big fuss about it? Even if he entered into the marriage under pressure, it was his personal choice. You either stay put and don't antagonize him further until he's ready to accept you or tell him he's free to fly. Yes? No?
Good things do happen. You just have to believe in their existence so some day you won't miss them when they happen to you.
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Family pressure? Got financial benefits or not?
If yes. Then talk to him, discuss your options with him.
A) He gives you freedom and sponsor your choices of holidays, properties, studies & whatever else.
You give him freedom to pursue his lady love. Even possible to sit down with that lady love to explain his predicament and hopefully They can work it out in the end.
Which means.....3 years down the road; you both can opt for a divorce and let each other live your individual lives.
B) Be the suffering wife; which eventually will still ends up in divorce when the hubby finally was able to shake off the family pressures and decides to dump the wife. Chances of him finally saying he loves the wife to stay in the marriage? Very minimum.
And not to mention the chances of children.....their hurt will be so much acute.
C) Divorce/Annul the marriage now. -
BTW, are you sure the husband is hankering after a girl and not a guy.
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Arranged marriage are so out dated. I'm surprised it still exists.Originally posted by HeyshambaYehshamba:Ladies, this is for those 20 sumthing ladies who got arranged marriage
U found out that yr new hubby is still thinking abt his old love, and that he married becos of family pressure ( his parents wanted a life for him).
Then he is always hanging out alone or brooding over like sumthing lost.
what will u do?
Anyway, you married him didn't you ? Was yours also a family pressure thing?
If yes, then you should be more understanding, since both of you are in the same boat.
Question is,
Do you love him ? As in romantically ?
Do you just accept him because he is now your husband ?
Do you try your best to make the best out of a not so desireable marriage ?
There is nothing else you can do, other than to show him you are a wonderful person to be married to -
dun joke la. pple so jia lat liao....Originally posted by viciouskitty74:BTW, are you sure the husband is hankering after a girl and not a guy. -
if marriage still within a year, can void the marriage.Originally posted by HeyshambaYehshamba:Ladies, this is for those 20 sumthing ladies who got arranged marriage
U found out that yr new hubby is still thinking abt his old love, and that he married becos of family pressure ( his parents wanted a life for him).
Then he is always hanging out alone or brooding over like sumthing lost.
what will u do? -
it's normal..
i guess..
cus i've already said b4..
the woman u married might not be the woman u love most in ur entire life.. -
Ok ok...I be more serious.Originally posted by hiphop2009:dun joke la. pple so jia lat liao....
TS, are you sure its a female he still loves? Is he having a affair with him/her now?
Are you trying to start a family? Are you using condoms?
Most STDs are passed not from casual sex, but from married spouses engaging in casual sex.
Are you safe?
You really should go for regular medical check-up on that effect you know. -
hmmm...not a lot of ladies can do that..Originally posted by MooKu:Give him a lot of space, but be a very dutiful wife.
and/or have a discussion [(especially) if you're open to divorce]. -
Originally posted by sunny6110:* Sunny's definition of a Good Wife's Calibre detected *
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Do you care for him? If so I'm sure all these "advices" to still be a dutiful wife is easier to do =)
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Huh? Ok...Originally posted by HeyshambaYehshamba:Ladies, this is for those 20 sumthing ladies who got arranged marriage.
*Me rolls out. -
u mean at this time and age, there's still arranged marriages
Well TS, just try ur best to win him over.....at least you know u tried right
good luck -
yes.Originally posted by de_middle:u mean at this time and age, there's still arranged marriages