What should i do?

• littlecow

  27 May 07, 12:58

  Hi...i have been having a problem..need some help...
  There's a guy i like and he always show his interest in me...but there one thing is i found out that he's actually attached...all along he had been telling me that he's not attached this n that...and there's one time he went oversea with a fren(who is actually his gf) but he just told me that is a gal and is his best pal...he can just go out with me, watch movie and having dinner...like he need not have to accompany his gf...i'm actually wondering what is he thinking...should i "confront" him? My best fren ask me to confront him straight away.
• binarynwitz

  27 May 07, 13:15

  Never trust a guy who is attracted, but claimed to be otherwise.
  
  Seriously.
  
  Based what you've said, it sounded like he's just bored of his status duo, and wants to just "have fun" outside, without the strings of responsibility. If you confront him, he would just cook up another story of things like "I don't love her at all", or whatever.
  
  And when he does that, most likely you would believe him, because you already like him.
  
  But ask yourself, can this guy be trusted? If he becomes your boyfriend eventually, what makes you think that he would not do what he did to his ex, to you?
  
  He is a predator. Do you want to be his sheep?
• Darkness_hacker99

  27 May 07, 13:32

  You'd better beware of him. I agree with the person above me, he's like a predator.
  
  At worst case, all his actions are his sly motive to get you to bed with him.
  
  Take care.
• Yunhaier

  27 May 07, 19:23

  Originally posted by littlecow:

  Hi...i have been having a problem..need some help...
  There's a guy i like and he always show his interest in me...but there one thing is i found out that he's actually attached...all along he had been telling me that he's not attached this n that...and there's one time he went oversea with a fren(who is actually his gf) but he just told me that is a gal and is his best pal...he can just go out with me, watch movie and having dinner...like he need not have to accompany his gf...i'm actually wondering what is he thinking...should i "confront" him? My best fren ask me to confront him straight away.

  Since you know that he's unavailable, you could keep this friendship a causal one (non-romantic). He may have shown interest, but that has not translate to any declaration of intentions to pursue a relationship with you, so it's still pretty much ambiguous.
  
  There are many possibilities and it's still too early to deduce. I suggest what you could do is to preserve current status quo and maintain it. Then take your own time to find out more about this guy you are dating.
  
  Also, always remember that albeit he could request to date you, but you can also reject his date.
  
  As for the confrontation, I see it as mundane - especially since you are not his gf. Just keep your eyes wide-open when you are dealing with him. Who knows? Gradually, you might just realized that he isn't suitable for you to begin with in the first place and you will probably know what to do by then.
  
  Cheers
• eagle

  27 May 07, 19:50

  Get all the free meals and free gifts u can from him (as compensation for ur time)
  
  Then say bye bye
• FireIce

  27 May 07, 19:51

  i think u can slowly and quietly exit his life........
  
• Xephone_xenon

  27 May 07, 19:52

  Originally posted by eagle:

  Get all the free meals and free gifts u can from him (as compensation for ur time)
  
  Then say bye bye

  x2
• the Bear

  27 May 07, 19:57

  so.. he lies..
  
  even if you do pry him away from his girl.. he lies...
  
  so.. what's going to stop him from lying to you after you become his girlfriend?
  
  walk away.. if you don't want to suffer..
• popikachu

  27 May 07, 21:56

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  Since you know that he's unavailable, you could keep this friendship a causal one (non-romantic). He may have shown interest, but that has not translate to any declaration of intentions to pursue a relationship with you, so it's still pretty much ambiguous.
  
  There are many possibilities and it's still too early to deduce. I suggest what you could do is to preserve current status quo and maintain it. Then take your own time to find out more about this guy you are dating.
  
  Also, always remember that albeit he could request to date you, but you can also reject his date.
  
  As for the confrontation, I see it as mundane - especially since you are not his gf. Just keep your eyes wide-open when you are dealing with him. Who knows? Gradually, you might just realized that he isn't suitable for you to begin with in the first place and you will probably know what to do by then.
  
  Cheers

  I would also like to add something,
  
  Trust love, Not infatuation.
  So i would let you decide between you two is love or infatuation.
• browniebaobao

  27 May 07, 22:02

  i think he's keeping his options open lor..
  
  u are probably not the only one, other than his gf, that he said that he's interested in.
  
  he's not trustworthy.
  
  Since u know that he has been lying, by confronting him is only giving him a chance to find another excuse.
• smudgey

  27 May 07, 22:06

  Originally posted by littlecow:

  Hi...i have been having a problem..need some help...
  There's a guy i like and he always show his interest in me...but there one thing is i found out that he's actually attached...all along he had been telling me that he's not attached this n that...and there's one time he went oversea with a fren(who is actually his gf) but he just told me that is a gal and is his best pal...he can just go out with me, watch movie and having dinner...like he need not have to accompany his gf...i'm actually wondering what is he thinking...should i "confront" him? My best fren ask me to confront him straight away.

  beware gal!
  
  this guy is out to cheat you....
  
  if u want, confront him, if not distant yourself.
  
  my rule of thumb, if he/she lies to me, he/she is not fit to be my friend!
  
• darknessfall

  27 May 07, 22:46

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  i think he's keeping his options over lor..
  
  u are probably not the only one, other than his gf, that he said that he's interested in.
  
  he's not trustworthy.
  
  Since u know that he has been lying, by confronting him is only giving him a chance to find another excuse.

  alamak....b3... option open, not over leh...hehe...
  anyway, dont trust people who dont speaks the truth. Doesnt apply just to r/s.....
  As a guy's point of view, i think he just wana enjoy best of both worlds..
  pi tui
  
  get as far as possible away from him...confront him about what? what if he tells you tales like he is on the verge of breaking up, and bla bla bla....
• Darkness_hacker99

  28 May 07, 08:05

  It's time to bring out the old threads again.
  
  What is REAL LOVE?
• <Precious>

  28 May 07, 08:16

  There's no need to confront lah. This guy's obviously trying to see how far he can go with you only or treating you like a back up only. Don't be so naive lah.......
  Stop wasting your time on this fella!
  
• mayday80

  28 May 07, 10:41

  Originally posted by littlecow:

  Hi...i have been having a problem..need some help...
  There's a guy i like and he always show his interest in me...but there one thing is i found out that he's actually attached...all along he had been telling me that he's not attached this n that...and there's one time he went oversea with a fren(who is actually his gf) but he just told me that is a gal and is his best pal...he can just go out with me, watch movie and having dinner...like he need not have to accompany his gf...i'm actually wondering what is he thinking...should i "confront" him? My best fren ask me to confront him straight away.

  Hmm we like to use the quote... drop him/her like a bad habit. Just treat it as a bad habit and drop him.
• Bontakun

  28 May 07, 11:05

  Originally posted by littlecow:

  Hi...i have been having a problem..need some help...
  There's a guy i like and he always show his interest in me...but there one thing is i found out that he's actually attached...all along he had been telling me that he's not attached this n that...and there's one time he went oversea with a fren(who is actually his gf) but he just told me that is a gal and is his best pal...he can just go out with me, watch movie and having dinner...like he need not have to accompany his gf...i'm actually wondering what is he thinking...should i "confront" him? My best fren ask me to confront him straight away.

  Interest in you +1 point
  Lying about being not attached -1 point
  Being attached and showing interest in you -1 point
  
  Total -1 point
  
  You can confront him... Though I think it will be better to confront him together with his girlfriend. On the one hand, he will be caught red handed and have to tell the TRUTH. On the other hand you can help his GF know more about him.
  
  This is my opinion hor, under NO circumstances should you get influenced by my words.
• de_middle

  28 May 07, 11:39

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  i think u can slowly and quietly exit his life........
  

  I fully agree.......don't have to confront him, what's the point right
• jojobeach

  28 May 07, 13:10

  DON'T confront.
  Just Walk Away....
  
  This kinda of people I met before.
  They are liars.. liars...
  
  If you confront him, he can always turn around and do nasty things to you.
  Like spread rumours you seduced him or other crappy lies.
  
  
• browniebaobao

  28 May 07, 20:21

  Originally posted by darknessfall:

  alamak....b3... option open, not over leh...hehe...
  anyway, dont trust people who dont speaks the truth. Doesnt apply just to r/s.....
  As a guy's point of view, i think he just wana enjoy best of both worlds..
  pi tui
  
  get as far as possible away from him...confront him about what? what if he tells you tales like he is on the verge of breaking up, and bla bla bla....

  thanks for pointing out wor..
  
  i dinoe i typed wrongly..
  
  ya, wanted to type 'open'.
  
  guess i was too tired yday, a bit blur lah.
• browniebaobao

  28 May 07, 20:23

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  It's time to bring out the old threads again.
  
  What is REAL LOVE?

  wahlew this thread kena criticized u still go dig out?
• BadzMaro

  28 May 07, 20:26

  Well, like most of the people here already agree the true intentions of the guy. Question is do u condone such an action from a person that is attached already ?
  
  He may drop u like a sack of potatoes once he gets his eyes fixed on another and i would say that is his modus operandi.
  
  I say .. stuff him..
  
  Confronting him will just make him say all kinds of excuse. Maybe u can help him stop lying by not confronting him.
• fairlady_xoxo

  28 May 07, 20:30

  Hmmm....i feel that you should be cautious of him....if he's attached and he can date you frequently instead of his gf....just picture this incident of you and him but with other girls (instead of you)....
  
  I feel that he's playing around...and he's not being honest with you in the first place....its ok to stay as friends....but if he makes anymore move more than whats happening currently....its time to think if its worth keeping him as your friend?
  
  Anyway...hoping that you will make a good decision out of this =)
• browniebaobao

  28 May 07, 20:35

  but then hor.. for me ar..
  
  if someone were to do that to me.. i sure zheng si ta!
  
  even if zheng bu si, ye yao rang ta nan kan~!
  
  
• littlecow

  28 May 07, 23:36

  thanks for all your replies...i'm actually thinking of playing along with him ( like what browniebaobao say slowly "play" with him )...see what other sort of hua zhao he can come out with...
• popikachu

  28 May 07, 23:44

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  wahlew this thread kena criticized u still go dig out?

  but it still a good thread...
  
  i only read first few post... lol
  
  was finding for this thread...